my grandma died a year ago and i just cant stop crying
2006-10-19 22:06:37 · 15 answers · asked by ashleyhlldy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Death is something that we all will face one day. It seems so final, but its not the end. Death would seem to be worse for those that are left behind than for the one passing on. We are left here with the memories of that person that will live on in us until we too pass away. Know this, your grandmother loves you, lived a good life, and is waiting for you on the other side. Where she is, there is no pain. There will be a day when you will see her again, just as she is with her loved ones that she had to say goodbye to as well. Until then, let her live in your memories, and enjoy the thoughts you have of her.
2006-10-19 22:12:53 · answer #1 · answered by firerookie 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have to come to terms with who you are grieving for.
She has no more pain and she is watching over you from afar.
You can still talk to her and tell her all the things you need to discuss. You just have to accept that you may not always hear her answer.
It takes about 18 months to go through the first 5 stages of grief, but you should have moved on to acceptance by now.
By hanging on like this you are not grieving for your Grandmother. I suspect she would be very angry with you for not letting her watch you getting on with the wonderful life you have been given.
Life is a gift and no matter how long it is, it is always too short. Don't waste any minute of it. It is OK to get caught at odd moments and shed a few (very few) tears for what could have been; but the best way to show respect for those who have gone is to live the life they would have wanted us to lead and to be the best we can be.
Dry your tears and celebrate your grandmother's life. Her death was just one stage on that amazing journey, don't make it the only important part!
2006-10-20 05:14:35 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My bestfriend's grandmother passed away just before Canada Day. There would always be a family reunion at her grandmothers house during that long weekend. That same year the reunion was unfortuately at the services, but the year after that was at the same house that stayed in the family. It helped everyone in the family because that specific tradition stayed with them.
Do you have traditions that you and your grandma did together? Maybe that could help, also talking about her and knowing that she will always be with you.
Take care,
Duper
2006-10-20 05:14:12 · answer #3 · answered by Duper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your grandmother wouldn't want you to be sittiing there crying.. she would want you to remember the good times that you had together. and smile and get on with your life.. I know it is a rough grieving process and you get over it day by day.
sit and think about all of your special moments with her .. dig out all of the old pictures with her and make a scrap book with them writting down all that the two of you did together so that you can look at it on special occasions when you are thinking about her..
think of it that she is in a better place and that she is still with you in your heart and thoughts. you can talk to her through out the day..she will hear you.. my belief.. and she may come to you in your dreams to speak to you some day..but you have to stop crying to be able to hear her.
Use you sensitive side and just pay attention she is always with you.. in heart and thought..
took me along time to get over my dad passing too. good luck and just be happy and smile when you think about all of your times you had together.. a smile will make you feel good.
2006-10-20 05:21:49 · answer #4 · answered by Sandy F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think any one with a heart can get over a death! my dad past away 10 years ago and i still cry for him.
it does get easier thou, just remember that she will always be with you in you heart and if you miss her just close your eyes and see her, remember her sweet smell and her loving smile.
she is in a better place now, no more pain and suffering.
I wish you the best of luck.
2006-10-20 05:12:07 · answer #5 · answered by sweet - angel 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mama died a year ago and I do the same as you. Only years can diminish this and handling and coping is so-------------------
hard to indure. I sleep a lots and try to busy myself with reading and sometimes this do not help so again with time it eases but seems not to go away.
2006-10-20 05:10:35 · answer #6 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seasons come and go,it's natural you know,death happens to all creatures great or small,everyone you see ,some day won't be,what happens then no one is saying,but it shouldn't be bad so don't be sad or mad. What ever causes a flower to be beautiful and a sunset devine will be gentle when its time.
2006-10-20 05:19:36 · answer #7 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about she was a good grandma and now her soul is so happy in God's hands and love
2006-10-20 05:37:19 · answer #8 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandmother's are very special people. Get a bunch of pictures of you and your Grandmother together. Make a collage of you both. Put it up in your room and every time you look at it you will see what happiness she brought to you. And she will make you smile again and again.
2006-10-20 05:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by ncamedtech 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself this question sometimes......If Grandma were standing right before now...what would she say to me.....My guess is she loved you alot ( which is what youre missing the most..).....and she would always want the very best for you.....what is the best for you my friend......." to be ok"....to remember that love....and walk strong.....
2006-10-20 05:15:22 · answer #10 · answered by cheycour 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋