Well I met this guy a week ago when he walked me home and gave me his business card. Since Monday we have e-mailed (long ones) every day until he went on a conference he gave me his personal e-mail saying that we should keep in touch while he was away and we have, he has now just given me his mobile no. suggesting we can keep in touch over the w/e, as both of us are going away to opposite ends of the country and he claimed he was interestd in how my party went and that he would like to swap stories. Bearing in mind I only have known him for a week, we have our first "date" next week it all seems a bit fast.
1) is he interested in me or perhaps he keeps in so much contact as he thinks we are just friends - no flirting in the e-mails but occasional subtle compliments
2) how would i know he is interested in me as more than friends on the date - what subtle hints should i look out for
3) Have i just found a real gentlmeman who doesn't play games and worrying as used to players!
2006-10-19 21:49:48 · 23 answers · asked by confused 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
a) he asked me out last week - i was the one too busy to meet up not him
b) its him instigating all the contact not me i just reply
2006-10-19 22:02:39 · update #1
Ah he sounds really nice, hes got loads of respect for u, just take your time and see how it goes, sounds like u got a goodun tho, good luck! x
2006-10-19 21:53:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
A guy you met walked you home and gave you his business card - I would say he is interested in you....
1) If you have e-mailed every day it sounds more than just friends, I am sure he must have other friends to talk to. The fact that the e-mails are long sounds like you are getting to know each other (an over the wire first date!). By the time you meet next week you will probably know the trivia and some interesting facts for the chat in the date.
2) Is the date just the two of you? If it was just a friendly get together he would have probable have said bring a friend or have lunch not dinner - it depends when and where you are meeting as well. Dinner anywhere and going to the cinema are classic first date options. Look out for a kiss on the cheek when you meet (it could be good manners or a sign he likes you).
3) Yes it sounds like you have found a real gentleman - the fact he walked you home is a good quality! Yes it is fast but there are no rules to dating - if you like each other then why not get together to find out more. I would recommend several dates before any serious hanky panky happens (a player will get bored of the slow approach and move on, a gentleman who likes you will wait a few more dates before expecting more).
Take care; have someone looking out for you (arrange a check in with a friend at a reasonable time by phone, 10:30pm maybe to ensure you are safe and well - even if you are still on the date).
Have a good date and I hope you found true love - if not he sounds like a nice guy - at least the date will be with someone worth the courtesy of a meal together.
2006-10-19 22:10:12 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is easy. Trust me.
1. He is interested.
2. You know he is interested. No need to try to look for "subtle hints" when blatant ones are right in front of you. (evidence: I have never known 1 man to reach out as much as this one has and Not be interested)
3. Alas, the answer to no. 3: No one knows. The fact that you ask this question "Is he a true gentleman" says that you know that it would be wise for you to be cautious and observant at this stage. Are you conquerable within 1 week of chat? Or does it take more to win your love and interest? I hope it takes more than 1 week. Why? Because, your love is important enough to warrant serious effort on his part in obtaining it.
Good luck.
Peace!
ThirstQuencher
2006-10-19 22:02:17 · answer #3 · answered by thirstquencher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's just trying to get to know you, talking on the phone a lot before a date is far better than just gong on a date with email communication.
In my experience it’s far more likely to be successful.
In addition he's letting you know that he will be thinking of you and I'm sure he would like to know that you’re thinking of him to and thus communication just seems the ideal thing to do. If he only knew what we knew, I'm sure he would be smiling ear to ear!
As for "fast", who is going fast here ???!!?? Ding Dong !!!??
And as for being a player, from what you have written it all looks good, he doesn't sound like a player but nobody can tell from just a few questions.
You say you have met a few players, and thus I’m sure you will know if this guy is one or not instinctively, so have confidence in yourself. Most guys who are attractive and are honest and straightforward, do have a worry of being taken for a player, I know I have this worry, and although there are players out there, it’s a stereotype and it’s overplayed in the media. Often good guys thus have to do our best to show that our intentions are honorable.
Personally my motto is that one woman is complicated enough and judging by your questions, I rest my case. I suggest you plead guilty on behalf of woman kind!!
You could go more slowly to ensure he isn’t a player, but I’m not sure if you’re up to it (ding dong ding dong…do I hear bells again)!!!
And my answer to (3) is that you should respect all guys and treat them like gentleman until they prove otherwise, treating them like a gentleman doesn’t mean liaising with its just about showing respect. I’m sure you are already I just wanted to say that to the whole audience, if there is one !!
Good luck once again, I hope you have some great calls other the weekend.
2006-10-20 01:08:18 · answer #4 · answered by lifeontrack2006 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it certainly sounds as if he is interested in you, but as always I would recommend the usual precautions for your safety on a first date until you get to know him better. All those emails suggest more than just friendship, but you will both have to see how the relationship develops - don't rush things, just get to know one another and see what happens! Good luck.
2006-10-19 21:55:46 · answer #5 · answered by mad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just relax hon. See what happens on the date. If he kisses you goodnight and asks you for another date, he's interested.
Just keep reminding yourself that there are decent men in the world and that if this one doesn't work out there are plenty more out there.
Whatever you do, don't give off a whiff of desperation or neediness.
2006-10-19 22:04:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sun is Shining ❂ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just relax and enjoy the ride. Why are people always looking for the meaning of things - to busy trying to work things out rather then sitting back and having fun.
If he is a player it will come out - there is nothing wrong with being friends to start with.
2006-10-19 22:04:34 · answer #7 · answered by Label Lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like a real nice guy who is interested in you, dont worry, i dont think he is playing games with you, as you both have been too busy to meet up and he did set up a date with you for next week.the subtle hits if he is interested will be if he is paying, the way he looks at you, a big turn off would be for me if his cell phone rings and he takes all the calls, you will sense if he is interested in you or not
hope all goes well
2006-10-19 21:55:26 · answer #8 · answered by dandyl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I mean sometimes you really have to ask. As the human races gets older, new tricks, clues, games are being created and its getting harder and harder to decipher whats going on. Ask him, whats up with you? Why do you insist talking and keeping in touch with me when youre so busy? He might have 3 other girls doing exactly what youre doing, or maybe youre the only one. Be smart and careful, especially with business men who travel.
2006-10-19 21:55:16 · answer #9 · answered by Brown Beauty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a genuinely nice guy to be thats just interested in you and getting to know you better. If i were you i'd try not think into it all too much and just let what happens happen. good luck.
2006-10-19 22:15:11 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋