I want the relationship to last but she says we have different ways of living life. She always asks what we will do on sunday if we can't both go to church together. She also says that if we ever have children they will be confused because she is a christian and I am not. I want this to work, so how do I make the realtionship better?
2006-10-19 21:47:59 · 23 answers · asked by Oliver P 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
I don't really have an answer per se. I just have a warning. Don't convert because of her. This isn't a true conversion. I'm a Christian and converted because of what I was told and read and ultimately believed. I would say that you should go with her to church but listen to what they are saying, ask questions, if it makes sence to you then accept "that" and you'll be happier. However, let me tell you, once you are a believer you may get the feeling that she is not the one for you. God has a way of working in weird ways. He did with me, not that i'm weird!
2006-10-22 03:44:10 · answer #1 · answered by delux_version 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is why the church advices people to try to find love in the same faith. YOu have to at all times respect her faith and spirituiality and she has to accept your lack there of. I am a spiritualist my fiance is an agnostic, he really doent believe in anything. We have gotten into some scuffles regarding my practices but he does respect them even if he doesnt understand them. If you guys have kids you should discuss if the kids should be brought up spiritual or religious. You could teach them vaguely that there is some higher power or powers out there and let them find their own faith when they get older, I find it helps if kids believe their is something out there that is available to help besides their parents. Or do you want your wife taking your kids every Sunday to church for 2 hrs? Communicate b4 you guys have any kids.
2006-10-20 00:29:19 · answer #2 · answered by david s 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly enough, your girlfriend is right.she's being really practical. an extended relationship involves MORE than two persons. you might have a family some day, and your actions and decisions today will affect your family in future. It's not easy for either of you to just convert... but you may try that..its very very tough to change your faith, but who knows, maybe you will find TRUE faith in Christ. All the best.. i understand your dilemma.. having been through this situation myself (and NO it did NOT work out for us.)
2006-10-19 22:06:07 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become a Christian. If she is a serious believer the word of God in 2 Cor 6:14 commands her not to be unequally yoked to an unbeliever. If you make your marriage vows before God divorce is not an option for you. You have promised to God 'till death do us part'. You need the partnership of God and living according to God's principles for your marriage to succeed. If you marry and have children you bring up your children in obedience to God's word. Your girlfriend knows what it takes to make a marriage succeed.
2006-10-19 22:04:47 · answer #4 · answered by seekfind 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give your life to Jesus Christ - if you don't that you and her will not be compatible - what fellowship does light have with darkness? there will be a divide between the two of you, and if you are not Born Again your relationship won't work, it doesn't matter if you go to Church or not. It is whether you know Jesus or not.
2006-10-19 22:03:41 · answer #5 · answered by on_the_move4ever 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you and your girlfriend have different religious beliefs it can make life difficult if you marry and have children. If her faith is important to her now it will become even more so when she has kids or if she wants a faith based marriage.
2006-10-19 21:55:43 · answer #6 · answered by lady01love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go to church with her, even if you don't believe, it is a compromise that you will submit to on a regular, ongoing basis. This will show her you respect her and are willing to make sacrifices, but let it be known that you are making a compromise, so that she will be mindful to repay your concession with her own to you.
If you can't make this compromise, then you probably don't have the discipline required for a relationship to last long term. E.g. many wives make Sunday football compromises after all.
2006-10-19 21:53:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
You could convert, if you're very serious about her.
Sounds like her religion is #1 to her, so prepare to always be #2.
Also, what business does she have taking up your time? If she doesn't want a serious relationship she shouldn't lead you on. Not cool.
2006-10-19 21:52:43 · answer #8 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Christians are not supposed to marry non-Christians per Biblical commandment.
I don't know what she's doing with you in the first place. It's o.k. to be friends, but what relationship does the light have with the darkness? I don't mean to be offensive, but that's what my Bible tells me to do.
2006-10-19 22:00:14 · answer #9 · answered by epopsitsirhcitna 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you decide to convert, you'll always have a split between you. Better you find someone else now.
2006-10-19 22:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋