2006-10-19 21:45:57 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
She just attained age 13 and thinks she is old enough to take care of herself. She needs serious counselling. Sit her down, talk sense into her and make her understand what adults and especially parents are to children and why she should not talk back at her parents when being corrected.
2006-10-19 21:57:03 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
In between trying not to throttle her?
Try to remember what it was like to be her age. All the mental upheaval, the torment of being as my uncle used to put it,"Too old for toys and too young for boys!" Not that you really know that, at that age.
I know, I know. You and I were both saints when we were teenagers and never gave our parents grief!
Well I lie! About me at any rate!
Patience is the buzz word, that and staying silent. Silence is such a powerfull weapon. We simply do not use it enough. Stand right in front of her when she is in full vent. Make your face blank and wait it out. Then lower your voice so that she really has to listen to what you say. Repeat clearly , calmly and softly what it is you have to tell her. If she runs off , don't follow. Wait until she returns to the family arena again and start over again. Cooly, calmly and softly.
Show respect for her arguments and feelings even as you state that you were there once and that even though you undertstand how she feels, you are now the parent and that is who you have to speak to her as.
Good luck. We do all come through it and most of us grow into kind, loving and caring adults, but I am soooo glad I do not have to live my teenage years again!
2006-10-19 22:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Christine H 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ground her, and if that doesn't work you need to take away so items that she is very fond of away. I would have a serious talk with her, and tell her how you feel about the situation, not talking only makes her resent you more. I feel terrible for the way I acting when I was 13, because I just got crazy because my mom was partially deaf and never could understand me. She had a talk with me about how she feels and what she wanted to do to make things better. I changed my voice when I talked to her and used my hands. All she needs is a talk, but not one where she is put on the spot.
2006-10-20 01:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by fourcheeks4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
13 year old girls are very mouthy..it is just the nature of the beast..I never found a way to stop mine..but tried to control it as best I could. When she got mouthy i would ask her to go into her room for some alone time.If it was an extreme violation she would loose priviledges..Min would try her best to think of the 1 thing that would hurt my feelings the most. I think it was her goal to just hurt me..adn I would let her know it did. Sometimes just knowing how hurtful it was to me was a big gain in the fight of the moment. But rest assured another fight wiill come. remember you cannot fight every battle..if I tried to fight every one of them we would have spent all our time arguing...You will have to learn to just let some of the remarks slide..and when you do dicipline her..make it firm..and if she does not understand..ask her what you can say to make her understand..she will most likely say nothing..so that is what you give her...There is nothing I can say to make you see my point..so the discussion is over..and let it be done
2006-10-20 14:31:01 · answer #4 · answered by JIM D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
conseling, thats to funny. all 13 year old know it all. Its not just your child its most! Take things away such as tv, movies, the phone always worked for me especially with my daughter! I have a sign that says " ask your teenager while they still know everything" Welcome to the teen years of being a parent, good luck.
2006-10-20 02:50:07 · answer #5 · answered by letthepartybeginnow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pop her in the mouth.
2006-10-20 03:21:13 · answer #6 · answered by HazelEyes 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
remind her that you are the parent.
2006-10-19 22:53:04 · answer #7 · answered by Artemis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋