Ive been working in a new section of my unit, and I seem to be very attracted to this man. Most of the men I work with are very intimidated and steer away from talking to me unless they assume I would never like them. Well, he talks to me, comments on everyhitng I do or say just to create small talk. He gave me this look, in my eye that let me know he was attracted, and the next day he asked what are my plans for the weekend, and after I said none, he asked if I can make him dinner. SEXY! Anyhoot the next day I gave him my number. I want him so badly. But See Im deployed overseas for just another 6 weeks and I really dont expect to make a relationship out of this. so what do I do? Please no vague answers, because I need advice! Thanks! 10pts for best answer.
2006-10-19 21:06:44 · 21 answers · asked by Brown Beauty 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
OK, im leaving Saudi..., going BACK to the states in 6 weeks. I mean, how is that going to work? But youre right, I will wait until at least the second date, if not third!
2006-10-19 23:44:22 · update #1
being involve in sex is very acceptable nowadays,, but it doesnt mean that it is normal for a person specially for a woman to just jump on the bed wit ha guy just because she is attracted to him,, attraction is not an excuse for you to go all the way with a man, unless you been doing such a thing and its been your habit,,
just think of your future husband,, what do you think he would feel if he if ever he meet that man without knowing you two got an affair,,
sex is normal,, but it should be done properly and on the right time and the right place with the right person,,
last,, you just have to give respect for your self,, in that way people may respect you in return,,
2006-10-19 21:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you want? a relationship or to relieve the itch? I see nothing really wrong with a strictly sexual, short tern relationship, as long asw no one else is hurt. Pregnancy and STDs are hurtful. Also cheating, even if partner never finds out (for sure).
It all boils down to hpw you will feel at the end of the weekend. By the way, The guy has a right to make his own decision and it may not be what you want. How about opening up on your date enough to get an idea where each of you is coming from.
2006-10-20 04:13:06 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you definitely do not want a relationship then yes, you can have sex on the first night. I can tell you though that every single time I have had sex on the first night...EVERY SINGLE TIME... it has set forth motions for disaster, whether they came immediately, the next day, the next month, whatever. Some examples; 2 stalkers, 2 dogs who told all their friends (and mine) that I wanted a relationship but that they would not concede, thus giving me the "clingy" stigma, being stuck in an unhappy relationship... and the list goes on.
2006-10-20 04:14:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it doesn't say too much for your moral if you do sleep with him on the first night. You will lose his respect for you because he will think you are an easy gal. I know you like him a lot but try not to do this. Why don't the two of you start a relationship? If you like him as much as you say. A lot of long distance relationships turn out well. Do what you are comfortable doing though. You will be in that predictament not any of us. Good Luck when you gte shipped out...stay safe.
2006-10-20 04:11:50 · answer #4 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should do whatever feels right to you. If you feel completely comfortable with having a physical relationship with this guy, knowing it will probably be nothing more than that and not last very long, then go for it. If you're having doubts about whether you will regret it later on, then don't, cause chances are you will regret it.
2006-10-20 04:13:48 · answer #5 · answered by goldenrose82 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to do it, your young and oppunitunies like this will happen less and less as you age. You might as well enjoy yourself, if you were a guy their would be no doubt you'd go for it. Use protection and go for it girl, we have been held down for thousands of years, now that we finally can just have some fun before we have kids and responsiblities we should. Thats what the entire sexual revolution has been all about, women having the same rights as men. Go for it!
2006-10-20 04:12:42 · answer #6 · answered by Ande Deel 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you want a meaningless fling, go for it. If you want to see if there is a possibility for a lasting relationship with this guy, wait a few weeks. The sex will still be just as great if you wait.
2006-10-20 06:30:53 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think have sex on the first night is very good personally, especially if you are going oversea for about 6 weeks
2006-10-20 04:12:25 · answer #8 · answered by MJane21 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi if he really atractive to you and likes you he will wait for you and if he made all this just to have sex with you or have fun he will forget every thing and will ignore you so what am saying dont think in that so much and move on to your normall life if he care you will be the frist one to feel that if he dont want you try to forget and make it like one night you had fun in it
2006-10-20 04:15:59 · answer #9 · answered by lover boy 2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i see nothing wrong with that. go for it. being prior service myself ive done it a few times. youll probably never see him again so there are no regrets.
2006-10-20 04:12:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋