im 16 and im in year 11 i still have my gcse's to do and i dont know wheather i should keep my baby im not with the dad anymore and im scared of what my parents will say!
2006-10-19 20:48:06 · 32 answers · asked by Jessie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
What are you planning to do to the baby? My dear, raising a baby is no child's play and I think you are too young to determine what is good or bad for the child's life though you didn't say the father's age. I think you two should sit and think about what to do and remember always put your baby first!
2006-10-19 20:59:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Keep your baby. Being 16 is only a moment compared to a lifetime dependent on your decision. I was 16 when I had my first 20 when I had my 3rd. I now have a 17 year old daughter And she knows i"d advise her the same.In 2 more yrs. you will be what society considers an 'adult".That is a mere 2 years, that could profoundly impact the decision you make today.The day you become 18, until you pass, you are considered an adult, dont let these mere 2 years change the coarse of your adulthood. Your baby is your blessing. Forget the dad, you are with child now despite his involvement.Mom and dad will cherish your decision for the rest of their lives after they move forward from the news of your pregnancy. Time will heal their initial pain. They love you, and want the best as all parents do. In the end keeping your child will be the best..Be strong for you child as you are the decision maker now. Your choices now will be the impact not just at 16 now but for your future.
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2006-10-19 21:17:15 · answer #2 · answered by sweetson01 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh honey keep your baby. You might be young . But you will survive . you should be thankful that you have a child not to many people can have children. they are god little blessing. You will never be alone and always be loved. Don't worry about a dad. You can do it . I had a sister who was 16 she did fine . she still went to school. Oh your parents might be upset . I would but i wouldn't trade my grand-baby for anything in the world. Your parents will love your baby .If they don't want anything to do with the baby then I'm sorry to say. there is something wrong with them. but i believe in my heart they will accept and go on and enjoy their grand-baby. You just wait until they hold the baby. They will be so happy. So don't worry tell them and let them have their space when you do and they will come around. then it will be all over and she probably be taking baby shopping . Cause that whats grandparents do. So tell them so that can be put behind so you can move on to other things like what you are going to name the baby . which doctor to go and see. You will enjoy your child very much. I wouldn't give my 3 children up for nothing .Like i said they are God little blessing. Remember that. don't you listen to some of these rude people . don't let them get you down cause of their bad remark. cause they don't know you. you shouldn't judge people. You are asking for advice and not criticism. So hang in there. Be strong.
2006-10-19 21:07:21 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean you are scared of what your parents will say? You have a baby and you're living at home and they don't know about your baby? huh? You couldn't possibly be living with a husband.
Anyway, the baby's father's name should be listed on the birth certificate and would be responsible for payment for the baby's needs till they are 18. Is the baby's father older than you? Anyway he has to find work and support your child whether or not the two of you are together or not.
If you give up your baby you will be tempted to have irresponsible sex again. So I think you should keep the baby, find a way to make money that's legal, or educate yourself while on welfare, and learn from your mistakes. Your parents need to get involved to help you work thru your irresponsibility (but not necessarily pay for you and the baby).
Your questions are really strange...in that you ask a question about your fear for when you go into labor for having a baby, and then as in the above question you say you've had your baby and your parents don't know....what's that all about?
2006-10-19 21:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by sophieb 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a similar situation when I was 16 but I was with the baby's father. He didn't leave until after the baby was born. Then he left. I kept my baby. She is almost 29 now and a beautiful woman and a mother. I remember, however, having to answer this same question for a friend of mine who didn't know what to do when it happened to her. She was scared too. She was older than you. Talk with your parents. They have experienced life. They will help you with your decision. They will either give you support or not. That will help you with your decision. Whatever decision you make...1. Keep the baby 2. Adopt the baby out or 3. Abort the baby ....YOU are the one that will have to live with that decision for the rest of your life...All of those decisions have pros and cons for each individual...you just have to make the one that will be the right one for you to live with. Think about it hard...if you want to talk it over more you can email me at oceanna_pei@yahoo.com
2006-10-20 00:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by oceanna_pei 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your baby . You will regret it later in life. Even if your not with the dad anymore, it doesnt matter. Your parents will help you. They may be angry at first, but after all the screaming and shouting they will click on to the fact that they will have a grandchild. Theres nothing more fulfilling than new life! Enjoy it. As far as your schooling goes. Dont worry too much about it. If you cant do it now, you can always go back and do it later , if you want too. Dont forget , people say to finish school , it show future employers that you are able to finish stuff. However ive seen and know people that have left school at 14 that have become millionaires from their own business. The future is what you make of it and right now its the baby.
2006-10-19 20:58:06 · answer #6 · answered by Mr Warrior 7 · 2⤊ 2⤋
First of all you really need to tell your parents. Sure, they may be angry at first but, they will eventually realize that there is nothing that can be done now. They can help you make the decision to either keep the baby and they can help you raise the child, or you can give the child up for adoption, there are so many childless parents out their who would welcome a child into their home and raise it. Remember the baby's Dad has to be part of the decision making process, because it is his child too. Please , protect your self next time-16 is so young to start having children, you haven't even started your life yet.
2006-10-20 04:47:41 · answer #7 · answered by Urchin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to you parents, close friend,or someone that you can trust. Let someone else take care of your baby for a week or so that way you can sit down and really think about what you want to do. The baby is part of your life from now on regardless if you want to keep it or not. You might be surprised and your parents might even help you out alot until you do graduate from high school.
2006-10-19 21:03:59 · answer #8 · answered by randy j 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, you have got yourself in quite a situation BUT you're not the first nor will be the last to do so.
You really have to tell your parents - they may well be shocked & upset but it's at the situation, not you as a person. Once they get over that, if they're 1/2 decent people, they'll be the best source of support you can have.
Whatever your decision you have to weigh up the pros & cons & I'd actually do this by making a list of these for each of your options.
There is lots of help out there for girls who get pregnant so don't be afraid, you need to tap into this help.
2006-10-19 20:54:27 · answer #9 · answered by shirazzza 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
As a young adult you should already been aware of the consequences that come along with having sex. Well I guess you know now. Anyway, if I was in your sitituation I would keep my baby. I know that sounds crazy because you feel your alone due to your boyfriend not being with you, but would you rather live with the fact that you had an abortion and wondered what would happen if you kept your child or gave your child up for adoption wondering if the people you gave the child to are giving your child the love and security you felt you couldnt give to he or she. Even if your ex isnt in the picture he still is accountable for what he created- even if it has to come to the point where the law is involved. Your parents may be angry but they will get over it. You will definately have new responsiblities. And you will have to get a job if you don't already have one. Good Luck!
2006-10-20 01:33:20 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
I got pregnant around my 17th birthday. *ehugs* I know what you're going through. I kept my daughter and would never have been happy any other way. However, I was/am with her father and knew I had my family's support no matter what I did. It's truly a personal decision. Your life will never be the same. You'll have to work harder and be smarter than anyone else your age. You'll also get to do less and party less and anyone you know. You'll probably lose touch with most of your friends as well. You won't have money for pretty clothes or nice things (at least not for yourself) and you'll probably be tired continuously for the next 18 years. :) But you will have a beautiful child who's everything good about you and none of the bad. Totally dependent but unconditionally loving. She/He will be the most frustrating and most wonderful thing in your world. But it will always be worth it. At least it is for me. You have to think about what will be best for you and more importantly what will be best for your child. If you are ill equipped to handle the change in your life then maybe you should give your child up for adoption. It's all about your situation and what you think will be best. Good Luck and I wish you all the best of luck with whatever you chose to do.
2006-10-19 21:01:41 · answer #11 · answered by evilangelfaery919 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋