plz help me.tell me how to handle pressure.i am a student. my mind gets blocked and i dont know what i am doin

Question

this happens many a times in my life.i am a very good speaker with my friends or even with other people when i talk to them personally. But in front of three or four or in any meeting or seminar where i am required to speak i fail.plz plz help me...this is happening repeatedly.to tell about me , i am a student,male,20 years,good at academics.i take things seriously.The state of my mood resides in extremes ...sometimes very happy sometimes very dull.i fail to think and talk,

Answer 1

Been in your shoes. I used to be nervous and all. Well, try doing the following:

1. Relax. Be calm all the time.

2. Whether you talk to someone or before a group of 3 or a crowd of 3,000, it's all a plain conversation.

3. Make rapport with your audience by talking to them in a nonformal way. Imagine you're just talking to one person, ignore the number of your crowd, and level down to casual talk.

4. Make your audience participate. Ask for their opinion or suggetion. Allow them to comment or relate their own stories. An interactive discussion is always better than a one-man show.

5. Jokes will help. If they laugh with you, you're on your way.

6. Look them in the eye (or in the midde of their noses, should you find this more comfortable) and pause after every sentence.

7. Listen to yourself. Are you making any sense? Converse with sense.

On a final note, speak normally. Don't make a big deal of everything. You don't have to be as eloquent as Abraham Lincoln or John F. Kennedy. As long as your audience fully understood what you just said, you've done your job as an effective speaker.

You'd be fine, trust me. I know you can make it!

Answer 2

well i am a student too, im not so good like that either, but i think that if you just take one thing at a time and just when you are talking in front of people, the old underwear thing doesnt work, but if you look through people rather than at people, take deep breaths and just concentrate on what you are saying, not too hard though or that will cause you to stuff up...practice with some friends befpore you go up in front of people soetimes helps...hope that was useful?!?

Answer 3

I think the best solution to this is to join Toastmasters International. http://www.toastmasters.org (It's a worldwide org. I'm sure your country has it.) The nice thing about Toastmasters is that the organization is designed to make it as easy as possible to learn public speaking. You can attend a few meetings as a guest for free to see what it’s like without pressure. Just show up and watch. Everyone understands what it’s like to be new to speaking, and they don’t expect you to be good. It’s low pressure with plenty of encouragement.

Answer 4

Find your Happy Place !