A few months back, I broke up with my boyfriend for a month. During that month, he kept trying to get back with me, and I didn't answer his calls in the first week or 2. I kept ignoring him, and he started to stalk me. I also started to hang out with one of my friends from work, who my boyfriend didn't like at all. My friend from work and I was never intimate, but we hung out a lot because he was my moral support and shoulder to cry on during this time.
Now, my boyfriend and I are back together, and he will not let this die! Every time we fight, he brings up that I was with another guy (only as friends) and I tell him that it doesn't matter what happened when we were broken up, plus nothing happened between me and my friend. Who's right?
2006-10-19 20:25:05 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First of all do u think that u really love him. If yes then just kow one thing that though he was wrong from his side still u should have not reacted as u did.
Relations are not so easy to handle. U at least think that he was the one and only support you had during your sad times then it means that really he is. so why to quarrel for it, just try to make things as used to be before. It was urs good luck that u received his love back but think what would have happened to u if he would have left u because of ur behaviour with him. Is it not that u would have hurted yourself.
Forgiveness is also a part of love. Try to accept their faults and forgive him at once. Might be possible that what u think for him might be wrong. first try to understand what the matter is. Better to solve it among urself. Do not ask it with others.
Very few peoples receive true lovers. Perhaps u are one of them. So do not let it go by your mistakes, Otherwise I am just answering can't provide that support and those shoulders on which u can cry at that time. Try to understand him............
Life is Beautiful: Feel it, Live it and Love It. For Love is such an addiction that even people who are not having it wish to experience and share it with others.
Wish u a healthy and happy life. may God bless u with urs love.
2006-10-19 21:18:53 · answer #1 · answered by Raj.. Jaane tu ya Jaane Na 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The question is not who is right. You are both wrong. Him for being the way he is and you for going back to him.
The question is how badly do want to be abused. The further this relationship goes, the more and more severely you will be abused People who stalk always get worse;m he is a control freak who is still learning how to control you. And you are teaching him how. Eventually, you will be beat as a way to make you "mind"
You need help, or you would not be backin this situation. There are usually local battered women's shelters that help women with abusive and stalking b/f or spouses. Please see someone now, and get free of him before it gets even harder.
2006-10-19 20:52:27 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you in this relationship? Why do you need it? Sounds like you really need to be on your own for a while and find your back bone. You do not need anyone that brings up the past, and why are you with someone your fighting with so much?
Get away from this control freak.
2006-10-19 20:30:17 · answer #3 · answered by Ande Deel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It seems like your boyfriend has an insecurity issue. Tell him to lighten up, and that he should focus more on your relationship rather than a "friendship" that you have with another. If he persists than I suggest that you assess your relationship and make serious note of whether you want to be with someone who has jealously, insecure, and trust issues. Hope this helps.
2006-10-19 20:30:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not into guys anymore, but did break-up with my boyfriend before. Id have to go on your side. I think your boyfriend just doesnt want to let you go cuz he probably needs something from you, and i dont thinks its love (no offence). I suggest you break it up with him. Think about what you like, whats best for you, are you still happy with him after all that hes been doing to you? think about it, and make a proper decision based on that. n_n
2006-10-19 20:40:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dun have to explain things to him cos at tat time u both had broke off,even now that u both r together,he had NO right to ask u the things tat happened when u both had broke up
if he soooooo mind tat little incident,its going to really affect ur relation progess
a boyfriend is not a father, he shd not behave like as if he is ur dad
all the best to u
2006-10-19 20:31:24 · answer #6 · answered by Western 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two have lots to talk about.
Start with are you wanting to be together and work through this stuff? Then be honest, open, listen, talk and work through the issues one string at a time. Resolve one issue, then work on the next. Luck to you all.
2006-10-19 20:29:59 · answer #7 · answered by Lily K 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It does not matter who is right. The two of you have to find away to get past this problem or you are headed to a split again.
2006-10-19 20:34:17 · answer #8 · answered by READER 1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There is never a right or wrong answer.Sometimes everyone needs a shoulder to cry on.
2006-10-19 20:29:57 · answer #9 · answered by lovely soul with insite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are definatly right. Your bf is insecure and jealous and wants to control you.
If I were you, I woudn't put up with it
2006-10-19 20:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋