My husband and i have tried everything to get me to climax. I just done feel it. I dont even know if i have been close. My grandmother, my mother, nor my sister have ever had an orgasm. I want to break this tradition. Does anyone have any advise?
2006-10-19 20:21:35 · 20 answers · asked by RP 1 in Beauty & Style ➔ Skin & Body ➔ Other - Skin & Body
Buy a vibrator and play on your own. You will find what it takes, then you can share with your husband.
2006-10-19 20:24:01 · answer #1 · answered by rose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are your sexual fantasies?
That is the key.
You must daydream...
When you say that you have tried everything...a lot of people don't know what everything is. I don't either, but I know more than many. I will put some help on here...
Take what you need, and leave the rest...
http://www.alt.com
http://www.leathernroses.com
http://sivasakti.com/articles/man/virility-art49.html
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kegels
http://www.libidusformen.com/
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Orgasm
http://www.asubmissivesjourney.com/resource.html
http://www.extremerestraints.com
http://www.sexuall.org/
http://www.sexuality.org
http://www.asexuality.org
The Eulenspiegel Society
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychodrama
http://www.feelinggood.com
http://www.nvsh.nl/Website_Engels/Texts/Sexual_Information/Basics/Skills_1.htm
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anhedonia
There is more. This is enough. Begin by taking a long hot shower together with sexiest music you know of.
Barry White maybe. Each washes the other, slowly and lovingly, and absolutely completely, with a feeling.
All illumination in the boudoir is provided by candles, a lot of them. The bedroom is uncluttered and well decorated, with sexy art.
The sheets are clean and high thread count.
I suggest beginning with a excellent foot message, I am great at it, this often leads to a female orgasm on it's own!!
Most people's sex is to crotch centric!
You can both have orgasms without even touching one another's crotch!!
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Sex_therapy
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Tantra
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Massage
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Reflexology
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bodywork
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Aura_%28paranormal%29
So...are you now convinced that your studies can be expanded? I hope so.
In a while, write and tell me of your first real screamer!!
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2006-10-19 21:00:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What about the men in your family?
Seriously, your problem sounds more like a cultural one than a biological one. Perhaps you should be talking to women who had trouble having orgasms, but figured out how to have one.
2006-10-19 20:28:55 · answer #3 · answered by Pseudo Obscure 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vibrator with a clear mind....use it externally (silver bullet is great for this) do it by yourself....you will get an orgasm. Try exercising before "bed" that helps to get the blood flowing.
2006-10-19 20:30:42 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some girls only have orgasms when they have sex during pregnancy. Especially during the 4th or 5th month the odds seem to be good.
2006-10-19 20:29:49 · answer #5 · answered by meiguanxi :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is an area in the vaginal canal which is very sensitive to stimulation; this gives a pleasurable feeling when stimulated. the G spot. you have to explore yourself gently in order to find the exact spot where you could feel the pleasure. your partner could explore this with his tounge. the G spot is found at the anterior portion of the vaginal canal, very accessible. continuous stimulation (licking or rubbing) will lead to the big O.
2006-10-19 20:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by Maria Aurora D 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
So I was just wondering.... why'd you put this question in this category instead of "women's health"?
I have no advise for you about your orgasms. I doubt if it's genetic.
2006-10-19 21:52:37 · answer #7 · answered by ezkiss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the other women in your family can't do it, then it would make sense that you can't too. Sorry about that. You should see a doctor. Maybe you could try something crazy like getting your clit pierced. --just an idea.
2006-10-19 20:24:48 · answer #8 · answered by andre 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe all the girls in your family did it with the wrong guy.Ever thought of that as a reason?
2006-10-19 20:28:43 · answer #9 · answered by doc 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is what you do...you and hubby do it doggy style while you reach down and play with clit. The BEST orgasm ever!!!!
2006-10-19 20:27:43 · answer #10 · answered by pchs4202003 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋