2006-10-19 19:36:53 · 12 answers · asked by baxman11 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it takes a long long time especially if you were intimate.
Best advice i can give is;
if you wana cry, cry
if you wana shout, scream,rant and rave-do it
but most importently
accept
accept that shes not coming back and that you ve both grown apart for reasons you wont understand now but in time you will &
time
take time to heal,take time to get to know yourself better
and take time to do the things you always dreamt about but never got the chance to and remember to never give up on love irrespective of...
Good luck
2006-10-19 19:50:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. There is no one answer. Some people can move on faster than others can. The first thing is to get honest with yourself. If she was the one, you would not be split. That is the reality. If it was meant to be, it will be.And it isn't.
Sounds like you blame yourself for the breakup. It helps to Try to learn your part in it and learn from that experience. Talking with friends may help, or maybe therapy would help more. I can't say cause I don't have enough information..
You will get past this. I couple I know lost their 21 year old son in a motorcycle accident about 1 1/2 years ago. It will always cause them pain. But they have worked through the worst of it, and cherish their memories of him. You can do the same, when you are willing to.
Sorry about your pain, and the best for you from now on.
2006-10-20 02:46:23 · answer #2 · answered by bob h 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Four years is a long time to get over someone especially when you thought they were the one. It's painful I know but with time you will heal. I know it's easy to say this but go out, to the park, club with friends, meet new people (not potential boyfriends) that way it helps not to think about the ex and how you were the perfect match, do anything to have fun just don't sit at home and watch soapies (they are more depressing). Take it slow, one day at a time and bleieve me you will heal.
2006-10-20 04:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by sweetdivine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is indeed very painful...but like me...the time will heal...cant say how long. And in the meantime, many nice things can happen that would make you forget a lot of painful things in life. Smile and keep hoping for the best.
2006-10-20 02:58:37 · answer #4 · answered by anita r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as it takes you to realize that if the relationship is over, then it wasn't "the one". Seriously, there are other fish in the sea.
2006-10-20 02:39:31 · answer #5 · answered by Writer of Truth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uuu sounds bad....they say it's a month for every year...so roughly....mathematically speaking....you should be OK in about 4 months and a half ;) But I think it depends a lot on how things ended...if he cheated on you or did something horrible.....don't give him that much time.....it really is up to you, you can get over someone REALLY FAST if you set your mind to it !
2006-10-20 02:43:29 · answer #6 · answered by paumelari 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it could take up to few month, try to do different things to keep yourself busy, or better find someone and have sex with them, I broke up after two and a half years, and I'm fine, I got over it, my ex was seeing someone else just after we broke up, trust me you'll find someone else and it just won't matter anymore
2006-10-20 02:40:10 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
half the time of teh relationship 2 and half years and it starts to die
2006-10-20 02:39:02 · answer #8 · answered by brinlarrr 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Going through rough time huh?
Well ... I don't think anyone has an answer for you, really. It takes time ... but do take your time, do not rebound (trust me, it doesn't work) ... time heals everything
Sorry :(
2006-10-20 02:41:18 · answer #9 · answered by Nicegal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think one can get over that... but good luck.
2006-10-20 02:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by ladyluck 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋