Ok, I'ma guy. I'm 15 a Sophomore in High School.
Everyday I go to school not trying to dress good or like doing my hair or anythin. In fact I purposely try to dress bad because I don't want any girls liking me. Not that I'm gay or anything but because, I don't know I just don't want to get distracted from studies.
But, what do you know, this girl started to like me. >.< Not that I'm takin her attraction to me for granted or anythin but like now I have to reject her cause I don't like her.
I don't want to destroy her heart so that she can never like anyone again but I still have to tell her off. She is not my friend or anything we hardly know eachother, and yea. What should I do/say?
2006-10-19 19:31:17 · 16 answers · asked by Hey. 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just to clarify I'm not gay cause I know it sounds like I am. I had a girlfriend before and I am in no way attracted to guys.
2006-10-19 19:47:24 · update #1
Well hear go's , You'v taken a larg! step in the ways of life, witch putes you steps ahead of meny of your piers. Now before you through a wet towel on this young person, stop and think !, And I mean beond your self ! And what is thear to dislike , you don't know enough about her ,to dislik her !!----- Looks to me this gall is deeper than all that huggen an kissen an mushy stuf ! And perhapes she has seen through your smoke screen .This person just might make a good frend ! Or she looks apoun this raggedy un kempt,as one too be safe ,caus she's in need of a "frend" . Or ,because I'm old enough to be your grandfather, you could say ----- - - - meddeling old fart, but I just might know somthing of what I say , Bin thear, Don that, Wish I'd don'it differently ! ! And if you do ,whats in your heart , per haps we too gether can make the difference . Loves , come and go ! Real ,good Buddy-----Frends, can last forever ! !
2006-10-19 21:04:13 · answer #1 · answered by cornelius p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well don't tell her off. Explain the truth that your not interested in dating bc you want nothing to distract you from your studies. Bravo Hey!
A guy your age usually doesn't think this way. Please tell me what has inspired you to concetrate on studies? Was it your mom? The reason I ask is I have a 17 yr old that does not open a book to study. It saddens me so much. He is very interested in girls etc...and not only now for the past 3-4 yrs I can say.
Anyways, if you feel like writing me what has inspired you and maybe I can help my son somehow someway. One thing I do daily is Pray! Write me at jesusgirl34@yahoo.com
2006-10-20 02:44:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first get 2 know her! i know u dont wanna get distracted but maybe this will help u calm down on tests and stuff cuz u know some 1 will b there 2 cheer u ^! and yea i have gotten my heart broken b4! but u cant just go ^ and say "no i dont like u and i dont even know u!" u have 2 say it calmly and say things like i dont know u but i would like 2. and then once u get 2 know her give her ur final answer
best of luck!!!!
2006-10-20 02:38:38 · answer #3 · answered by DaysiJane 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Destroy her heart? I think you're going a little bit far, here.
Just don't encourage her in any way and if she comes on to you, bluntly but politely tell her that you are very focused on your studies (and you have a girlfriend in London or something).
2006-10-20 02:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can be nice without being rude or unpleasant in words or deeds. Let her know you are not ready for a relationship that will interfere with your studies but will talk with her as time pemits.
She may back off for a while and understand where you are coming from.
2006-10-20 02:50:37 · answer #5 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well start off by not being so conceited... i bet that when she knows you're not interested she'll have a new crush inside a week..... trust me if you're just a crush she's not gonna be all broken up over, she might be a little dissapointed but, umm you need to get over yourself and tell her you're too focused on school... try not to be a d!ck about it either
2006-10-20 02:35:34 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious????So, you're not gay...but you don't want girls liking you (for study purposes). You have to tell this girl off just because she likes you (though you hope not to ruin her for anyone else). Get over yourself. You have a problem alright, this just isn't it.
2006-10-20 02:42:05 · answer #7 · answered by shellese2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well the best i can do for you is to tell her that you are not looking for any relationship that you are trying to keep up with your studies... you have to know someone in the first place to get in to a relationship... believe i found that one out you have you know that people to be with them.... even if you dont like her tell her that you would be friends with her doesnt mean you have to talk to her everyday.. just show her that you will keep her in mind...But show her that you arent looking for anything either!!!
2006-10-20 02:43:07 · answer #8 · answered by ~Lil Bit~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Turning her down won't destroy her she's young she'll get over it .
If you're really not interested and dont want to be mean to her.
Just tell her you're seeing someone else.
2006-10-20 02:35:34 · answer #9 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if shes not your friend then you probably dont have much contact with her. and if youre not friends then she doesnt really like you, its just a crush or she thinks youre cute. if you dont call her or ask her to hang out, shell get the hint sooner or later. im sure shell move on.
2006-10-20 02:36:14 · answer #10 · answered by tma 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋