So my mom is loosing her home because she can’t pay the bills. But it isn’t because she doesn’t have the money, it’s just because she spends it on other things (compulsive shopper). She has no concept of reality or responsibility what so ever. She is really truly going to be on the street because she doesn’t grasp the reality that she cannot afford to buy another place (lives paycheck to paycheck) and has the worst credit in America. I am sick of trying to bail her out, but she doesn’t get it. Do I let my mom fall?
2006-10-19 19:14:56 · 13 answers · asked by NoTurningBackNow 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Its not your responsibility to bail your mother out of this. Maybe loosing her home is what its going to take for her to realize she has a problem.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 19:17:56 · answer #1 · answered by tina m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sure do not!!
Your mother has a mental health issue. Most family members do throw there mentally ill relative on the streets as it is (or send them off to a "home". Why add your mother to the mix?
Get her help, TAKE OVER HER ACCOUNT! She has a mental disorder get judgment over her! Then set up bill pay for her bills.
Right now go to the seniors and disabled office and demand some help for her. Tell them of what is happening.
Do not give up on her....Some (most if not all) mental illnesses are genetics and some set in late in life.......Keep this in mind when you make your decision to help your mother....
2006-10-20 02:24:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes and no. Make a condition of helping her that she get treatment for her shopping addiction. It is truly a medical problem (the AMA is currently working to have it listed as a genuine disability) and it needs treatment.
If she refuses, let her fall, but not too far. She is your mother afterall, make sure she has numbers for shelters, a way to get food etc. but do not risk YOUR life to enable her addiction.
2006-10-20 02:18:11 · answer #3 · answered by Star 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you can hide her money or try to return some of the things she buys. Don`t let her losse the house help her even if she still keeps doing it try and talk to her more.
2006-10-20 02:22:14 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her paycheck and deposit it into your checking account and pay her bills with it. And then give her an allowance to spend every week.
2006-10-20 02:22:28 · answer #5 · answered by Girlish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear you can tell your mom to take some grace period from the land lord and in that grace period she can work at some place and earn some money and pay the rent........
2006-10-20 02:23:17 · answer #6 · answered by SAM 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep, it is a hard lesson to learn but she must get a grip on things. you can talk till you are blue in the face. but until she has reality slap her in the face, she will never learn
2006-10-20 02:17:56 · answer #7 · answered by flwrgrl692001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
buy her house from her yourself.
try to convince her to owner-finance the sale, that way she doesn't get the money all at once.
or apply to the court for power of attorney over her affairs.
or both.
2006-10-20 02:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
letting her fall could be the only way shes going to learn a lesson! its gonna be hard for you to watch but be there for her when it happens (emotinally but not finacially).
2006-10-20 03:09:46 · answer #9 · answered by thinkofmealwayslver 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so many people , just like your mom , don't get it , i see it every day , they put the wants , be for their needs . and some times you do have to just let them fall.
2006-10-20 02:23:30 · answer #10 · answered by tia c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋