cps , children adopted by relative
2006-10-19 19:00:54 · 9 answers · asked by dabom 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
leave your biological kids alone...their parents are the only one's they know and that's where they belong...adoption not a babysitting service that you can end whenever things are good for you...you made a decision, live with it
2006-10-19 19:06:13 · answer #1 · answered by eddy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope by writing to you, you can get a better understanding of what your children might be going through. My family is going through a similar situation. My brother and his girlfriend lost their children to adoption also. So I understand the pain you are going through. But I truly believe that if you believe in God something good can come out of something bad. Even when we have brought this on to ourself. But let me tell you about the other side of the situation. I am the one who adopted my brothers children. It is very hard sometimes because I am the one who has to see their pain when they can't see their biological parents or watch them cry after they have seen their biological parents. There is so much I want to say about the pain, anger, confusion, isolation, unworthyness, and not belonging feelings that the boys go through every day of their life. In the begining all I could do was sit there and cry with them because there was nothing I could do to take away the hurt. People told me to not let the boys see their biological parents so they could adopt to the situation and start anew. I wish I had listened. They are still adjusting after three years and its not fair to them. Please give them a chance. Hopefully you can still be a part of their life but right know is not the time. If you try to fight for them right now, they will not give themselvs a chance at happyness with their new familly and your kids might grow up always feeling lonley and not wanted were there at. Because they will feel that if they love this new familly, they are betraying you. You have the power to give them a happy life, by letting them know it's ok to love others.
2006-10-20 06:15:09 · answer #2 · answered by Marie S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to file a SAPCR (Suit Affecting Parent Child Relation). You would have to prove why its in your children's best interest to be given back to you. Very difficult process. Your best bet would be to only start off by asking for visitations. May want to try to get on good terms with the foster parents if you know who they are. Wish you the best of luck with whatever you decide.
2006-10-21 03:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by James C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont ever think of it . It will greatly spoil your child's mind and future. If you are a true parent then let ur child be with ur relative and see him happy.
But if ur child is facing any kind of problem, not being loved or cared by ur relative then very surely act fast to get him back with you.
2006-10-20 02:13:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be easier on all concerned if you just relax and try to build a good relationship with everyone.
trying to fight it in court will waste money and stress the children.
2006-10-20 02:06:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try talking to an attorney. I'm sorry that everyone has placed so much judgement on you without knowing all the details. I seem to be the only one to have actually answered your question. "jusme" is a wicked ***** who judges everyone in her life, and relishes in this y!answers thing just to judge people over and over. I take comfort knowing that God will judge her and the few people left in her life will eventually find out what a two-faced judgemental overwieght pathetic @$$ she really is.
2006-10-20 12:10:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Please reconsider this. The children are probably better off and don't need their lives turned upside down again.
Wow! This angelkake has some issues!
2006-10-20 13:10:49 · answer #7 · answered by crazywoman88 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Generally you can't once everything has gone through.
2006-10-20 02:02:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the first answer. You can't.
2006-10-20 02:20:09 · answer #9 · answered by Deerrunner 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋