to all parents out there who have daughters that graduated from college?

Question

How would you feel if after your daughters graduated from college, they suddenly decided not to have a career, and wed instead a not necessarily wealthy but responsible husband that will be a good provider, and focuson building a family and taking care of future kids, you won't feel that your daughters' education have gone to waste?

Answer 1

The way I see it is like this: She graduated with a degree. Whether that degree be A.A/A.S or higher equivalent, she still has something to fall back on and use to her advantage compared to those with no college education or little college education.

She can also always go back when she is ready in that time in
her life.

She might realize she needs to go back to school to gain more education on top of what she has or go back to the work force. She has higher chance of getting hired with her degree than someone who has very little credits. Therefore, I don't see a waste in that.

Yeah that seemed like a lot of money, not being put into use. Technology, it will be put in use other ways. Not now, but maybe later. Nothing is wrong with that.

Now if she went to college and then decided she wanted to be a lazy bum, then I would say she needs to straighten up her life. However, this isn't the case it seems.

It is a good thing she did find a responsible husband. However, she still needs to remember when all can fail or get rough, she has to use that. Keeping it fresh will help her rather than dusting out the books and getting back into the work force that she can be rusty in.

Her education still can be used and I don't feel it went to waste. It just went into "storage" for awhile when it comes to career. Not like she won't use it in her daily life. She might, never know. Especially with kids and took general education along with her core major classes. That might apply.

Answer 2

No. Education is never a waste. I have two degrees and I'm a stay at home mom. I love being at home with my children. I'm grateful for my education but I'm not the career type. I hated having my hours set for me and I would rather be my own boss. I just turned 32 and launched my own home business.

From the way your question reads, I assume this is a recent thing so your daughter is young. Give her time. As she grows and learns she will develop new interests and you never know when she might apply her college education to some worthwhile pursuit. The point is, she has it if and when she needs it.

I'm so happy I never went straight into a life long career after graduating college. I'd be miserable. I was too young to really know what I wanted. Now I have no doubts. I also have taken so much time to enjoy the simple things rather than be tied down to material concerns. There is a great sense of freedom in that.

If anything, you should be proud of your daughter.

Answer 3

It's definitely not a waste - any college graduate would tell you that! She learned and grew a whole lot while she was there. And think of it this way: even if she is not working now, she is still a financially independent woman. If things didn't work out with her husband, she would be able to start a career no problem. She will not be tied down to a bad relationship because she feels "stuck." I wish her the best of luck.
P.S.: She will also be a great role model for your grandchildren!

Answer 4

Our hopes for our children is that they will grow into good and responsible adults. if she chooses to marry and not pursue a carrer then so be it. I am like you ..I would hope she would at some point put all my hard earned tuition money to use, but if she does not..at least you did your part in helping her get an education...My father in law once told me that An education is the only thing noone can ever take from you....Just be there for her if she decides down the road that her choices were not the best...

Answer 5

It is the duty of parents to provide the best of everything for the children and show them the way ?

After they become adults it is up to children to decide what they want to do and be permitted to do so unless they are going in the wrong direction then a mid course correction may be advised and if grossly wrong checked.
Remember education is never wasted. >rr

Answer 6

Not at all. My step-daughter is in college right now and she has a serious b/f. She wants to have children in the future. I don't see it as a waste. I see it as more that she would better be able to help her own children with homework, maybe be able to homeschool her children, set an example to her kids so they know that college is in reach if they work hard enough.

Answer 7

Raising loving, responsible, capable children is a more challenging and rewarding endeavor than just about any "professional" career. Applying that education to raising children is far from a waste.

Answer 8

did you know the higher the education level of the mother the more likely statistically that the child will be successful, happy and healthy. It is not a waste, I am a univeristy graduate, I own my own business and I would prob take a year off to raise my kid.

Answer 9

Nope, because one day that responsible husband will have a mid-life crisis, knock up a 19 year old, and file for divorce.. this way your daughter will have a degree to fall back on to support her children with this man, because he'll be too broke taking care of the 19 year old to support his own kids..

Answer 10

I'm not a parent, but I'd like to comment on this issue. The reason so many women choose family over career after graduating college has to do with the discrimination of women in the workplace. unfortunately, the workplace has been designed for men and is more male-friendly. more men are offered promotions or higher paid jobs than women...thats a fact.