I recently moved to US 8 month ago i am in high school as a senior. I had a lot of friends back there. But I dont have any best friend here. I am kind of hesitant, usually avoid people. I am a loser. I dont talk to a lot of people (by the way i worked as a telemarketer during summer) ;-) . Anyway there is a girl that just move to my school from another school. She is very friendly to me. I am usally in library doing homework/browsing internet etc, she waits for me every time in library and in hallways, i think she is interested in me. I never dated any one nor I am in such a relationship with anyone in my life. I think she is getting away because i am not so talkative. I do my best to keep her not bored. I don't want to lose her. Please help me what should i do to build a strong relationship with her.
2006-10-19 18:40:45 · 16 answers · asked by isska123 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Dear ! just pay attention to her, her looks, her way of talking, her way of smiling, her way of caring about you.
It will automatically develop a feeling inside you, give her some time, check out what she likes and what not. Whatever topics she likes to discuss prepare yourself on those topics.
Love is all about care and feelings. Just give her both.
You are successful, but just reluctant. step ahead. you are the main of the day.
2006-10-19 18:47:41 · answer #1 · answered by farcity79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to get over your shyness and make a move if you really think she likes you... take a chance and just be honest and tell her how you feel because it doesn't matter if you don't say all the right words it's about the fact that you're taken a chance in showing her that you care... it's better to at least try then to lose her forever...
By the way good luck with everything since you're havng a hard time adapting to the US I'll tell you the best way to adapt is going out and meeting new people don't isolate yourself because that will make your stay here really lonely... there's always someone you can talk to..
about you never being in a relationship.. there's a first time for eveyrhting you really need to take a chance and have some experiences in your life...
2006-10-20 01:47:00 · answer #2 · answered by sadgreeneyes3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, you have to stop thinking of yourself as a loser. Just because you're shy doesn't mean you're a loser. So you have issues with insecurities. Deal with them. How do you think you will get a girl (or anyone else for that matter) to respect you and want to know you better and be in your life if you don't respect yourself and have nothing very good to say about yourself? Figure out your strong qualities, even work on creating more, and gain some self respect. Perhaps you could look at it as a good thing that you haven't much experience with women. Lots of women like that because you are "untainted."
2006-10-20 01:53:38 · answer #3 · answered by Laura Renee 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
She may get away if you do not talk to her. It doesn't have to be about anything big or important. Just find out where she is from, what she misses most. What her interests are. If she is waiting she want to get to know you too. Go for it at the least that can happens is you make a good friend. Don't be afraid of a relationship. Take things as slow as you need. Just at least talk with her.
2006-10-20 01:48:08 · answer #4 · answered by CGS 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Explain to her that you would love to be friends with her and that you enjoy her company, but you are a little shy and are unsure of how to talk to women.
When she initiates conversation, smile, make eye contact, ask lots of questions and show that you are interested in what she is saying. If you think that she is "bored" then ask her! She will probably be able to think of lots of things that you have in common and can talk about
But by not answering or ignoring her she will quickly lose interest in you and will find new people to talk to.
Good luck!
2006-10-20 02:27:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u need to get to noe her. how is it possile that u'll lose her. u won't. u finnally have someone who wants to be around u and wants ur friendship. u say ur not very talkative. there are a million and one things u two can talk about. talk to her about her old school. why she moved how she likes the schooll shes at now. don't be scared. if she waits for u in the hallway it says. something. don't u think. or maybe she even likes u coz ur not talkative. a lot can be said in silence. if u don't want to ask her out. just "hang out" at school wen u can. GET TO NOE HER! let her noe things about u. i hope it works out 4 u....good luck. if u think she's getting away becasue ur not talkativ then pluck up the courage and TALK. if shes worth it then u'll do wat ever it takes.
2006-10-20 01:54:58 · answer #6 · answered by pOppY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well for starters you can ask her to go to a movie or for pizza. Something innocent but enough to give you some one on one time to get to know each other and see if your both feeling more than just friendship. GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-20 01:44:16 · answer #7 · answered by sharp p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"simple talk". just talk to her about the simple things, like how her day is going and such. and try givin her a hug sometime, and see if she rejects the hug or not, if not, then there is a possibility that she might like u
2006-10-20 01:46:56 · answer #8 · answered by jelly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask her one or two simple questions whenever you see her. Really easy ones about her day or her homework. Tell her light and fun things about yourself. Do small favors for her, like carrying her things or giving her some of your extra pencils for class.
2006-10-20 01:45:39 · answer #9 · answered by wondering 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her. Ask her the time... how the day is going. Doesn't matter just start talking. If she's interested... she'll let you know. Have nothing to lose... so go for it!
2006-10-20 01:44:04 · answer #10 · answered by B L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋