She and her fiance plan to marry in August of 2007. They are so right for each other. The love they share is the quiet and mature kind of love, very much unlike what you'd expect from two people their ages. This is something I've never had and doubt I ever will. As a result, I am highly envious of them. Am I wrong to feel this way?
2006-10-19 18:29:50 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't get me wrong. I am very happy for he, just miserable myself.
2006-10-19 18:35:01 · update #1
That shoulda been "her", not "he".
2006-10-19 18:35:59 · update #2
Absolutely. That is your child and you should want the best for her. Knowing this is something you never had, you would think you would find comfort in knowing she has. You should seek counseling for these feelings. You need to feel better about yourself in order to stop feeling so negative towards others.
How do you think your daughter would feel if she knew how you frowned upon her happiness?
2006-10-19 18:35:00 · answer #1 · answered by Cinderella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course your not wrong in feeling that you want to be happy like your daughter. It is only human. Many people look at others relationships, and wish they had that. It is a good thing that your daughter found happiness. Now don't let this get you down. Since your daughter has someone, start worrying about your self now. Who says that you can't find love and happiness later in life? Get your self a makeover, do something for your self. And go out there and make a life for your self. There are many men/women out there who are looking for love, with a mature man/ woman. Someone llike you. If you just want to be alone that is fine too. Just go out with your friends, and relax, have fun. You have grown up your daughter, and you need to do something for you. And that way you won't be thinking about them to much.
2006-10-20 01:48:26 · answer #2 · answered by woman of steel 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Envy is a natural human emotion, it's one of the worse ones, but fairly harmless. You can be envious as long as you are happy for them. Perhaps your time just has not come round yet. He could be right around the corner. You may never have experienced love like that, but at least now you know what your looking for.
2006-10-20 01:35:33 · answer #3 · answered by Miss Suki 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody doubt my fiance and I, we met when we were 18/19 and got engaged when we were 19/20. Our relationship is so strong and the doubt people shed on us only makes us stronger.
You are not wrong to feel about this, everyone wants the perfect relationship and can get envious of others because they have what you want. There is no need to doubt you ever will have their kind of love, go out there and make it happen.
2006-10-20 01:34:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you are wrong to feel envious. Being envious of someone is not the same as being jealous. Envy, you are happy for the person and would like it yourself. Jealousy is that you do not want the person to have it at all, but would rather have that yourself. As long as you are happy about your daughter finding happiness..
2006-10-20 01:44:50 · answer #5 · answered by Hav 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you are worng to feel jealous. You should always be happy for the joy of others, especially your daughter. If you do not think that you can ever have a good relationship, then you can not. Maybe your daughter is more mature then you are.
2006-10-20 01:33:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is normal to envy what other people have, be it a new house, car, boat ect. However you should be proud of your daughter for her accomplishments and not envious. If you become envious then you will only become bitter to what your daughter and her fiance have achieved, be proud and happy.
2006-10-20 01:33:29 · answer #7 · answered by Chris 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh bless your heart. The reflection of the father's love is IN the way the child loves others. You can love that way. Share in the blessing of their happiness and prepare to start looking for one for yourself. Its all in your perception...
Be grateful that it was you that experienced that and not your child. And its a memory for you as well.
2006-10-20 01:35:07 · answer #8 · answered by Denise W 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should be very happy for them. That should be a comfort to you, that they have what they have together. She could be interested in some loser, then how would you feel?
2006-10-20 01:36:37 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow papa.
I dunno what to say, all I can say is pray about it.
It's great they have found each other, but I guess you have growing issues with yourself.
GO out and search the world for someone, be open,
or just
quit chasing the butterfly and be peaceful. Let it come to you.
Only time and patience can tell.
(or maybe ask new hubby for tips, =)
2006-10-20 01:39:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋