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I jsut ended a 8 years relationship, with my (ex)boyfriend since high school. I am now 26, I can't say I am in my prime, but I'm not old yet? I have a huge self esteem issue, which is ironic, cause I am a bartender and I get guys numbers daily. I met this really hot restaurant manager and I've been "seeing him" He introduced his best buddies and his father to me in less than 2 weeks. He told me he really likes me but I need to "have faith in him" and "just relax and chill" I want to see him everyday, but he doesn't have time for me, 16+hrs, 6 days a week. However, of the 11 days we met we saw each other 6 times. He told me to "let me show you w/my action" But I feel like his "action" just tells me he doesn't want to see him.Of the 6 times, at least 3x I feel like I "made" him come out.I just don't trust guys that goes up to customers in a restaurant that he works in.But I've never met guys who I am so compatible with.We make each other laugh and we truly enjoy each other company.Help..

2006-10-19 18:26:28 · 6 answers · asked by Gina C 1 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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It's a tough one Gina ... I think after so long in a relationship, and I'm guessing there wern't too may "long term" relationships before that one, you need to get in touch with You ... re-discover what it is you're looking for or want out of life and try and decide whether this guy can offer you the things you want or at least that he's heading in the same direction as you want to go with the rest of your life. Take it slow ... if it feels right .. it probably is ... maybe for a little while just try and guard your heart a little ... would be a shame to get hurt again so soon after breaking up a long relationship .... You're the only one who can decide how far to trust this guy .... but if your last relationship lasted 8 years ... Trust your heart :)
Good Luck

2006-10-19 18:39:01 · answer #1 · answered by deadkelly_1 6 · 1 0

Well in my experience a man doesn't introduce a woman to his friends and family unless he really likes her if he's a manger he has to be working lots of hours so unless he give you a good reason then trust the man as far as self esteem issue I believe all woman go through that I myself I didn't believe I was the least bit attractive till a few years ago after High School and some time I still don't think I'm cute and with a model as one of my best friend it's hard to view yourself as cute but you have too trust or you'll never find your true love and as a happily engaged woman I can tell you your soul mate has a way of making you feel great when you feel like crap good luck and God bless

2006-10-19 18:45:31 · answer #2 · answered by Young and Wise 3 · 0 0

You ever heard of the ol saying: As long as you keep doing the
same thing~~~you'll get the same results ?? The guy is right.....
just chill. Because you don't have a choice. Either you two will get
together as a couple.....or you won't. Sometimes the very thing
we want...so bad...we can't have. And that is for a REASON.
Trust that. You are on the re-bound, sounds like. Give yourself
time to be alone,....with just YOU. Not lonely. Just free and single
Stop looking for validation from men. You need to. Value you.

2006-10-19 18:35:46 · answer #3 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 1 0

There is a saying, out of the abundance of the heart, the mouth speaks. In other words, a person will speak of and actively show what is reallly in their heart. To cultivate a possible true meaningfull relationship is going to take time, but there will come a time when a man has to make a choice what is most important to him, work, house, car, friends,himself, or------------ you. If you put your best into relationship and you get less than his best back, then whats really in his heart? Give it a little time and see what proves to be.

2006-10-19 18:40:19 · answer #4 · answered by mrgotcha007 2 · 0 0

Well be carefull about what you do because I was in the same situation that you are and the guy ended leaving me but it might be different for you but just watch what you are doing. Let him look for you.

2006-10-19 18:32:12 · answer #5 · answered by angie 1 · 0 0

he wants to keep working long hours because he has ambition to succeed.
he is hoping you are willing to take the relationship slowly, because he just doesn't have the time to be with you.
are you an independent person? he wants you to have faith in the future and hold on to him.

2006-10-19 19:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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