I thought this guy was anti-social when I first met him, honestly. Though it turned out he was just plain old shy. I'm not going to to go into details about how we interact with each other, because I want to hear from you shy guys on how you usually behave when you like a girl. I have my reasons for thinking he likes me.
Problem is, also, do you think he'd ever admit it if he did? He's an odd case. He's extremely good looking, but he also doesn't seem to get out much, other than for work. I sign on in the afternoon to aim, sign out and come back home near midnight and he's been on all day! He's completely normal in person, but it just seems like he is so shy that he avoids real human contact. Do you think that it is possible for him to be brave enough to tell me his feelings, assuming he has any at all for me? What could I do to make him feel more comfortable to do that? I'm shy as well. I'm afraid to say how I feel, because I'm afraid I've interpreted his feelings wrong.
2006-10-19 18:00:23 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm shy and for the most part if I like a girl I don't do anything heh. Usually just safe to assume they have a b/f so I can play it off in my mind (though most of the time they do actually have one just to piss me off).
If you like him too then by all means try and talk to him because he wont do it himself. You might be able to get it out of him with a little prodding, but he wont ever do it of his own accord.
2006-10-19 18:22:45 · answer #1 · answered by ModerndayMadman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Listen lana_rai, It is not true that shy guys have low self esteem. There is no way you can tell if he is interested in you or any girl. Sometimes shy guys hang around the place where a girl could be, look/stare at you, act funny with friends and so on. The ONLY way that you can know is just ASK in person. Never ever think of ego, shyness, ridicule. Contrary to what people think it does not require any guts. And it is really fun to ask someone. So take my advice: go, try to talk to him OR be under stress all the time. Tell me if it works :-)
PS: which part of the world are you from?
2006-10-19 18:22:31 · answer #2 · answered by I_wish 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm... Well I'm a guy who can be socially inept at times lol and considered "shy." So anyway, I think if you like him you should just either throw a gesture his way or tell him. Invite him to places that aren't considered as such "date" oriented like a bookstore, the mall, or go to the movies during the day time rather than at night time. I think going through these motions, you'll get a better sense of whether he likes you and whehter you like him. If he likes you, he'll definitely throw signs your way, such as standing closer to you, accidental touching..etc...
Anyway, I have my own problems right now as well, but when I'm interested in someone, I tend to definitely increase communication with that person, joke around more and be more relaxed, listen attentively to the person, throw alot of looks there way, joke around about being together, do nice things like copy them music since music is really just a part of me that I'm giving away lol, what else...
2006-10-19 18:11:39 · answer #3 · answered by Hav 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well i pretty much fall into the catagory of the person you are describing.Well if he act all nervous and talks funny when you approach him,he's into you.
The way to approach him is to start breaking the ice by starting a conversation then invite him to join you for lunch or dinner.Chances are he'd probably be a bit soft spoken and quiet in the first one or two meetings but try to initate the conversation and soon he'll open up to you and you can understand him better.Good Luck.
2006-10-19 18:12:52 · answer #4 · answered by tommy_c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To behonest I'm a shy guy myself and dont always show it . I think you should ask him out , that way if he likes you , you can both be a new couple. Its probably hard for him to tell you how he feels ,because maybe hes afraid of rejection. He probably thinks that if he tell you how he feels you will not like him anymore and will ignore him . And he probably thinks all his odds with you are over if he says how he feels .
2006-10-19 18:08:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's probably shy due to a lack of self esteem.
Even though you find him attractive he may not feel he is, and thus may be too afraid to say how he feels, because he just figures why would she like me i'm ugly.
You may have to make the first move and make it pretty clear you're interested in him and if he feels the same.. i'm sure he'll warm up.
2006-10-19 18:09:29 · answer #6 · answered by . 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The both of you need to quit being so shy! I can be shy at first, but after a while you start to open up. I say you just ask him about how he feels about you. If he doesn't like you, then just stay as friends.
Simple as that. Keep it simple....
2006-10-19 18:06:39 · answer #7 · answered by ohhboyy46 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
im shy mostly well really only attractive girls i guess because i think i will sy something stupid or *** up and drive the person away . like in some of my previous relationships i am shy but when i get to relaxed it seems no one likes me and im never sure if im pushing them away or how i come off im starting to get over all that now
2006-10-19 18:09:42 · answer #8 · answered by krazy miss speler 06 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Shy guys have low self-esteem, though they are good at something where there is no shyness at all. Find out what he's good at and compliment him on it. It's takes time for him to adjust, give it time.
2006-10-19 19:07:17 · answer #9 · answered by kayef57 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm a shy guy and usually I do nothing and be my brains out and presume i did the right thing
2006-10-19 21:10:47 · answer #10 · answered by Joho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋