My Fiancee and I are getting married and we have a family that we are really good friends with. they are almost like family to us. We are having their daughter(5) as a flower girl and 2 boys (10&18) as groomsmen. The couple is about 20 years older than us. Could we have them as our bridesmaid and groomsmen too or would that be too weird. They are like family to us. How can we honor them in our wedding in a big way?
2006-10-19 17:53:42 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Consider ushering then in as if they were parents or grandparents and sit them on the front row. Maybe you can have them light a candle, or have something about them in your wedding program, like special thanks to....
2006-10-20 08:43:37 · answer #1 · answered by rdnkchic2003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes You can absolutely have them as your honor attendants! I am sure they would be honored you asked. Nobody should think it tacky or weird.... they are your honored friends and that is where they belong. Dont let people here talk you out of doing what YOU want... you obviously want them as your attendants or you wouldnt have asked. If they were your parents would you let someone talk you out of letting them walk you down the aisle (or some other important role)???
There is no rule (written or unwritten) that states an honor attendant must be a certain age (or over or under a certain age either).
Keep in mind though that unless they are really well off they may not be able to do it..... youre asking them to foot the bill for a large part of your wedding party. So if they say they cant dont take offense.
2006-10-20 01:01:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to honor a friend at your wedding is that you can have them in your wedding. They can be in the part as best mens and also bridesmaid. It is not weird and it would be great to have them in it for memories.
2006-10-20 02:13:46 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree with others that it may be a bit too costly for them to purchase or rent the additional clothing, but, if you're really good friends and you want to include them in the wedding party, perhaps you would want to foot this part of their costs. If you or they decide that they won't be part of the wedding party, you could have them seated right behind the family and have them escorted into the church right before the parents, to show that they are special to you. You could seat them in a special location at the reception. You could ask them to offer a toast. You could ask them to be the first to sign your guest book. You could give them special attention by giving them access to the bride and groom for a last-minute hug before the ceremony. You could be sure that you have the photographer get a photo of you with them (and their children). You could gift them with that photo later, with a special note to thank them for sharing your special day. You could ask each of them for some small token to carry with you during the ceremony, because "you'd like your marriage to be just as good as theirs."
2006-10-20 04:51:06 · answer #4 · answered by Le Miccine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have them in your wedding. They are important to you so that is a perfect way to honor them. Sure it's not traditional, but you should do what is in your heart. It's YOUR day, and should be shared with people you love. My cousin and her husband had people in their wedding who were married/older. No one thought it was a bit strange. In fact, it was a very sweet ceremony. They felt happy knowing the people they were most connected to stood beside them for one of the biggest moments of their lives.
2006-10-20 02:17:14 · answer #5 · answered by Gia M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could honor them by treating them as a third set of parents.
Have a special area for them in the church, have them seated at the parents table at the reception. Heck you can even have a special dance with them at the wedding.
Have them as attendants at the wedding, have them as anything you wish.It would look lovely to see you honor your friends in any way at all!
Good Luck
2006-10-20 01:54:07 · answer #6 · answered by donamarie_1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could make them attendants and then also write a little something in your program about them. At the reception find a song that helps you describe their relationship to you and have them dance to that song or you and your husband dance with the other couple together.
2006-10-20 09:10:24 · answer #7 · answered by toobusy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go for it! My husband had his father, grandfather and older brother as groomsmen. The good thing about this is its your wedding and there are no rules on this. Good luck!
2006-10-20 01:41:24 · answer #8 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could have a special dance with them while you are having your first dance, father daughter dance etc. This would give a few minutes for just you and them. Find a song with lyrics that are fitting to your relationship with them.
2006-10-20 10:16:28 · answer #9 · answered by welshmom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It wouldn't be weird at all to ask them to be in your wedding party. (Although the cost of outfitting the entire family may be too much to ask of them.) Another way to honour them is to make a special toast to them and/or give them a separate gift and tell them it is because they are so special to you.
2006-10-20 01:02:44 · answer #10 · answered by zenobia2525 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋