Advice please?

Question

I take longer than most people to grasp concepts and at times it can be really disheartening. I am aware that all individuals are different and that i shouldn't compare myself to others, yet it is difficult to be positive when others around me are so impatient. I don't consider myself to be entirely incomptent, but when i constantly see the exasperated looks and hear the annoyed voices of the people who deal with me, i become really depressed. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.

Thanks guys

Answer 1

if you want your brain to understand concepts faster...you need to excersize your brain. get a book on learning and training your brain. excersize your brain by reading it and applying what you read

Answer 2

It is sooo easy to get caught up in the negative messages of other people, but you must try to rise above that. My best advice would be to stop internalizing these feelings of inadequecy, because the more you think negative things about yourself, the more they come true. I am not suggesting at all that it is all in your head. What I am saying is that the problems we already have can get a whole lot worse when we internalize.

You should keep in mind too that you have positive qualities about you that others don't have...so when they give you looks when you haven't grasped something...just remember that you have your strong points. By the way, they are being rude when they do that. I would much rather be around someone who doesn't grasp the concept than someone who is judging a person. That's the truth! Don't be hard on yourself...I am a lot like that too and sometimes I just don't get how others "get it" and I don't. It can be very frustrating. You aren't alone...just keep your chin up!

Answer 3

If you ever see/hear people say and show nasty things about you, never mind them. These kind of people are not worthy to be a part of your concern and anxieties. Think more of the people who care about you-like your family and friends. Maybe the reason you find it hard to grasp some concepts is that you are already anxious about what other people will say or you just lack the confidence. Change that attitude. When someone speaks, listen carefully. If you still can't understand, ask him again, there's nothing wrong with that. Then if you're still not sure, try to summarize what he said and he himself will try to correct if you're wrong. Don't look on the irritated face or voice. Your main concern is to understand. Relax, almost all of us encounter those impatient and nasty people. Just learn how to deal with them!

Answer 4

I'm on the high functioning end of the autism spectrum and I can relate to this problem. I too get depressed about the same things you do about the way people treat me because I am a little slower to understand things. I know that I'm a capable (in most things) and smart person and able to understand most things and this frustrates me that the world can't accept that or have patience. I went to a support group for people with mental and emotional problems and I found that really helpful. Maybe something like that could be good for you too. It's good to find people that are accepting and see you for who you are and not just your problems.

Answer 5

my guess is that in such situations, at least 50% of the people don't pick up the concept, and only a small percentage of those will actually ask about it. i would continue on your ways of being certain you grasp the concept before moving on. if someone is "exasperated" by your desire to fully understand a concept, that person has no business teaching you anything. after all, teaching is about ensuring the people learn, not just hear.

Answer 6

here's some advice. f*ck those people. i know this may seem harsh, but hear me out. i was going through the same thing, i still do daily, only now, i realize, it is them who are dumb, most of the people i meet, i'm just on a higher level, people look at me funny, becasue they don't get me, they make fun of me alot, so every now and then i sit down with those people and debate things for awhile, i've never been wrong on thinking they are the dumb ones. you should try it. i had trouble grasping people's concepts and ideas, becasue when they'd explain something..i'd figured that out 5 minutes earlier, or i'll be deep in thought about something, and somebody will ask me the dumbest question in the world..i'm thinking holy sh!t..this is wierd..i have no clue, i'm thinking huge numbers, i'm thinking outside the box, and what they're getting at is so pointless and irrelevent it pisses me off for them to waste my time, and then treat me like a fool. anyways, i hope this helps, my advice is just to size up the person or people looking down on you, then decide.

Answer 7

yeah it's hard to be the one that doesn't pickj stuff up quickly. I have let this hold me back in my work life and regret it. But the best thing is to perservere and maybe either do some advance homework on what may come up or ask quietly someone to help you so that you don't get left behind in whatever you are doing. If people see you are really trying they will eventually give you a go!

Answer 8

This is not a simple problem that can be answered here.
The possible causes can be anything like Depression, Anxiety, Low IQ, Learning errors, Vitamin deficiencies, Neurodegenerative disorders etc...

Consult both the physician and the psychologist.

Answer 9

If someone looks to be annoyed when they are dealing with you, just explain to them your situation and they will feel so guilty for being impatient with you. They won't ever get exasperated with you again!

Answer 10

Your question shows you are intelligent. It could be that these concepts you refer to are things that bore you or you tend to pinpoint and analyze in detail more than others.It could as well be your motor skills are dull, the mind and mouth are not coordinating well, the last thing you need is to worry what others think as that can lead to more anxiety as you are showing signs of here.

Answer 11

by the way your putting things, it seems that people around you like friends and family have gotten used to calling you slow, or something like that, im just assuming im not really sure. it seems that when a person calls another person a name long enough, the person being called the name starts to believe it. The very first thing i suggest you do is to get that out of your head and start thinking that youre a smart person, it might sound weird but trust me it works, i have tried it, and even though im aware im not the smartest person in the world, i do have confidence in myself and a pretty high self esteem. The second thing i suggest you try, is to put a stop to the people calling you that. now it might not work it you tell them in plain words " STOP CALLING ME THAT, IM NOT SLOW" or whatever word they use to imply something offensive. what seems to work the most at least for me, was that anytime they made a mistake or reacted "slow" i would call them the same thing they called me, because that makes them not only feel, but understand what you feel like when you are called that. now im a christian and i dont like to bother people or be offensive to anyone, and i believe you also may be a sweet, laid back person, but sometimes when they just wont stop, you have to stop them. let me give you a personal example. There was this guy in class who many times tried making me look dumb in front of class, and succeeded, and i never said anything back, but it came to the point where i was tired of it, which you probably are too. well i started calling and saying the same things he would call me anytime i had a chance, even if i didnt feel like making a show in class in public because thats where most us of get embarrased at. I assume that he also got tired of me calling him things, and i believe he finally understood that it was not cool once he was the one being made feel less,it got to him, and i promise you, never again did he tried making me feel dumb again, and well obviously i stopped once i had gotten my point across to him. I hope this helps. sometimes you have to beat them at their own game, even if it takes you out of your comfort zone.