alcoholic husband,health issues?

Question

i would like to know when an alcoholic is getting worse with his condition,pertaining to hepititus,sezures.he has already had a stroke about 2 years ago. he quit drinking for about one and a half years ago,then started up again. he does'nt look good at all. he still works. a friend of ours said that he looks green, what does this mean? i dont know what to do, stay with him or leave. any suggestions?

Answer 1

No one can tell you whether to stay with him or leave him; you have to make that decision for yourself. As for the health issues, if he has hepatitis and is drinking, then his prognosis is probably not too good. Drinking alcohol with hepatitis increases the damage to the liver five times faster than to someone who doesn't have hepatitis. Your husband may have cirrhosis or end stage liver disease. The discoloration of his skin may be from high bilirubin levels due to liver damage. I'm not a doctor, and people can't be diagnosed over the internet, but he should be seen by a specialist for the hepatitis.
Other people have suggested that you talk to people in Al Anon. That may be very helpful to you in guiding your decisions. You have to decide if you can deal with his drinking and self destruction without enabling him. You also have to take care of yourself and your children if you have any. I've dealt with both these issues; my first husband was an alcoholic. It took my five years, but I decided I couldn't live with those issues, so I left. Ten years after I left him I found out I had hepatitis C. He also had hepatitis C but to this day refused to quit drinking. He is going downhill. It's sad to see. On the other hand, I did the treatment and have been clear for years. Best wishes to you whatever you decide to do.

Answer 2

I recognise this may increasingly sound a bit of frightening- however you would very good be alcoholic. Many people are genetically pre-disposed to it. With alcoholism, there's no core line- you iether are otherwise you are not. It turns out like while you drink you lose manage of your habits- b/c it sort of feels such as you surely would not wish to embarass your boyfriend. Alcoholics Anonymous conferences are really informative, the convalescing drunks are quite pleasant too. See if you'll give up consuming for a month. Good Luck

Answer 3

http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Here's a site that may be of help to you. It's for people who have loved ones with alcholism. He can only change on his own. Nothing you will ever do will convince him otherswise until he is ready to do it himself. Right now, the best thing to do is to learn how to help yourself deal.

I'm not sure about the hepatitis. My mother-in-law has liver disease (from drinking) and hep C from a blood transfusion in the early 80's. She's been dealing with this since 1994. She spends most days in bed, because it's too painful for her to move. She has no control of her bowels, and is on all different kinds of meds, some, just to ease her digestion. She is near the end and only 47 years old. If your husband's still working, it's probably not too late for him to do something to stop it from taking over. He should start by seeing his doctor.

I guess what he meant by "green" would be "sick" to me.

Answer 4

If he looks greeish, yellowish, it could be hepatitis. My friend passed away 3 months ago from alcohol abuse. His eyes and skin were a yellowish color. He was 46 years old, and drank heavily for 30 years. He would wake up shaking very bad until he got a drink. Alcoholic seizures are not a good sign. If you really love him, stay with him. Dying from alcohol abuse is not a pretty sight, and he needs your support .

Answer 5

If he is not ubusing you, it is for richer or poorer, in sickness and health, til death do us part. Make sure you are not an enabler. Alanon helps family members of alcoholics.

Answer 6

It sounds very bad. Are you enabling him in any way? If you leave, it may be the incentive he needs to stop. He won't have anyone to take care of him.