What is your opinion?

Question

There's this person, who sometimes has thoughts of suicide. She seems very happy and ditzy on the outside, but on the inside, she's screaming for help. Only she doesn't want help because she's afraid of what people might say. Sometimes she also pretends to be this girl. Online. She made up a family and everything. Got pictures...everything. And she's also unsure about her sexuality. She says she's straight,but when she thinks about a life partner it's a girl, but once again, she's afraid of what people will say. I told her she was crazy and I would help her as much as I could. So what do you think? And honest answers please...also answer not for the point...It's not like you win prizes anyways.

Answer 1

You don't say how old this girl is but I'm going to guess she's somewhere between 12-21.

Thoughts of suicide: I don't think there's anyone who, as a youth, didn't consider suicide as a possible solution to their problems. So from that aspect, it's not unusual. But it is also NOT a solution. It's a plea for help from an overwhelming situation that the person just can't seem to handle. I can assure you that everyone experiences situations that seem overwhelming, things we can't or do not want to handle. Running away isn't the answer, and suicide is a form of running away... but it's permanent, and the people left behind are profoundly impacted. Your friend needs to talk to someone who can help her navigate these feelings safely.

She's afraid of what people will say:
If she's going around talking to all her friends and school mates about wanting to kill herself or being depressed, then yes, some people will find something to say. It's important to talk to the RIGHT people, folks who are trained to help us deal with the crises in our lives. She needs to ask for help... from a parent, a teacher, a school nurse, a member of clergy, a doctor. The Kidshelp.org link below has TONS of phone numbers for just about every kind of problem. If your friend is in canada or Australia, I saw other sites for those locations. Just search on 'kidshelp'

Pretending to be someone else online
We all wish we could be someone else at times. We are our own worst critic, even when others tell us that they admire something about us. But to carry it out and act on it is another cry for help. Help is available to her but she has to make the first step... and she'll find it in the kidshelp list of phone numbers. The number for the crisis counselling (800-999-9999) is probably the best "one stop shopping" to get started.

Her sexual identity:
Again, not unusual... everyone questions their sexuality at some point. If we're talking about a teenager, she's barely begun to live. Tell her to be patient with herself... her body is changing on the inside and God (or Mother Nature if you prefer) is not done with her yet. There's no rush... she just needs to see who she's becoming. She needs to love herself for who she is, because that's the young woman that the rest of the people in her world are going to love as well.

I think your friend is a normal, slightly confused, typical young woman. She probably also feels things very deeply and so all of this is coming together and overwhelming her. It's hard to be patient while life catches up with our feelings, but she's not alone, and should remember that she matters in this world. She is bound to have gifts and talents that she hasn't even discovered yet (I'm a few decades old and I'm still discovering mine).

You're a good friend to be willing to help her... that's the best thing you can do for her (and for yourself, in case you ever find yourself feeling the same things your friend is feeling). Reaching out for help is hard, but once you take that first step, you'll wonder why you waited.

Give your friend a hug from me, and let her know that I'll be saying a prayer for her.

Blessings!

Answer 2

She sounds like a normal teenage girl who's going through normal teenage issues such as sexuality and identity. She doesn't need to be labeled as crazy or mentally ill and it would be quite cruel to put her into the system just because of the things you described. It sounds more like she needs someone to listen to her and support her and care about her for who she is.

I think everyone has thoughts of suicide from time to time. We all like to endulge ourselves with the thoughts of who will come to our funeral and how people would react especially when we are trying to figure ourselves and who we are to others out. It's only when someone has thoughts of actually commiting suicide that it is a problem. Ask your friend if she has a plan to kill herself or if it's just a passing thought. Don't be afraid to tell an adult if you don't like her answer.

Answer 3

This person sounds very confused and needs to talk to someone. Growing up is very hard. Everyone thinks about "what people will say" - they won't say anything! What if they do? A lot of teens feel exactly the same way!
How is her home life? Does she have an adult she can trust? It's important to get help for her. It is good she has you.

Answer 4

She's probably a teen with mental problems. I have them, too, but not that bad. Wat she needs is real friend to whom she will share all her problems. U can try to be that friend, or you can help her to find one. That person should be very honest and trustworthy. It's hard to find, but it's the best way to get her back. Or you can tell her to get real and try to live her real life more, make more real friends, instead of chatting and messing online all the time. Cauz sometimes she'll think all she has is not real. So try to help her get real. But it's kinda risky to do that. Anyway, i'm not a pro and u asked for opinions, right?

Answer 5

Sounds Bipolar. Which incidentally has no bearing on ones sexually preferences. Constant suicidal thoughts are not normal and the doctor can best treat symptoms of such.

Answer 6

She needs professional care.

Answer 7

You seem to know her all too well. Maybe it's you or you she needs or wants?

Answer 8

your concern seems genuine.....manic depression is her case.