Am I being dramtic or do I have a reason for this?

Question

Frist of all I love my family we are all very very close to one another, esp my father and I. My dad has heart trouble this is nothing new to anyone in my family. I recently got married and figured this would be a good thing. I still know in my heart it is, but here's my problem, that I need help with, anytime I have a bad day at work, or bad day period I try and call my mom and tell her about it, she just tells me that I am being dramatic, and Im not, she tells me that I don't want to work. I told her I though I was pergnat, the other night, and she told me " You can't get preg when your on the shot, you just want to be preg in your head so you don't have to work" this isn't true, my husband and I though I was, I wanted to share this with my mom thinking she would be happy I was wrong WAY wrong, I do everything I can for my family, my brother is ALWAYS number in there book, no matter what it is, am I being dramtic???? Or do I have reason to be up set like I am?

Answer 1

I don't think that you are being dramatic at all, it sounds like your mother has the problem, not you. Is she jealous of the close relationship you and your dad share?
Have you tried talking to her about why she thinks you don't want to work? When it obviously isn't true.
I'm really sorry that she wasn't excited when you and your husband thought you might be expecting a baby...that's really sad.
I wish I could give you an easy answer, but I can't. My mother is very much like yours sometimes, and like your mother she seems to favour my brother all the time no matter what, he can do no wrong, and I just don't understand why.

You have every right to be upset, I would be too. Maybe you should just talk to her one on one and see what the problem is.

Good luck, I hope everything turns out ok for you.

Answer 2

What about sharing with your Dad instead?

Certain personalities click and certain personalities clash. We can't change others. We need to accept them as they are with all their defects and 'warts'. And hope that we will be accepted as well.

Try to find a close friend to share with - perhaps another bride. You'll have a lot in common with each other.

Also, your husband should be your #1 confidante.

(Don't forget about G-d - He never rejects us or criticizes)

Answer 3

honestly i think u r jealous and childish and ur way to childish2b married he will c that 2 b4long

Answer 4

I THINK THAT YOU ARE NOT DRAMTIC TO KEEP YOUR FAMILY INFORM ABOUT WHAT GOING, THAT WHAT FAMILY
ARE FOR. BUT IT SOUND LIKE YOUR MOTHER HAS SOME
ISSUES THAT MAY BE THE PROBLEM. SO I WOULD
NOT BE SO EAGER TO LET KNOW WHAT GOING ON
THAT SOUND HARSH BUT SHE HAS THE PROBLEM NOT
YOU.

Answer 5

i think you have a genuine reason to be upset. You just want to talk and have your mother listen to you but she won't listen without constantly criticising you.

Answer 6

your mom is probably just worried. Try to be understanding. She has a lot on her plate