Women only please.?

Question

I have a younger sister(16) and I am very protective over her. And now that she's becoming a woman I try to talk to her about men taking advantage of women, especially young women. But it seems that she just agrees with what I tell her so I will change the subject. She is my only sister and I am her only brother and I know I can't killem' all. So how do I really get through to her?

Answer 1

Continueously tell her she is a beautiful and amazeing woman who is worth the world, be there for her in everyway, letting her know she is worth it. ALso tell her about birth control and condoms, so even if she does have sex, at least she will be safe about it. MAny young girls have sex early beacuse they are very self concious and think men will fall in love with them beacuse of it. Remind her that if she dosent want to have sex, she is under no pressure from anyone to have sex. And let her know you love her agian, evetually if she gets in trouble she may come to you, be therefor her in everyway and you will be able to help her in the furture.

Answer 2

Oh your poor sister. I had a brother like you while growing up, (plus a dad!!).. The poor dear.. lol..
Actually, it worked out for the best. Brother-dear scared off some of the guys that I wanted, but he DID know them better than I did. Between him and my dad, very few guys made the cut. Just talk to her, tell her you love her, and a little "talk on the side" to some of the guys seemed quite effective in my family. TALK only, no violence.
But, do remember, she is able to make her own choices and you'll never really think anyone is good enough for your little sister.. We each have to learn by experience, and if we are sheltered from all bad experiences we don't learn.
And remember if you push TOO hard, she will simply find ways around it.. So, try to keep it on a calm level.
Good luck!!

Answer 3

You can't spend your life trying to protect her from guys or the world. Helping her and trying to interfere in her life will only make her want to do it more. Trust me I have been trying for months to keep my sister from moving in with an older man out of state! Anytime I say something it just makes her want to leave sooner. Trying to help her will only make her PULL AWAY from you!!She will want someone to talk to and if your acting like her father than she wont want to talk you. If she makes a mistake than just been there to help her up! I know it's really hard for you to watch her be with guys, but trust me she has to learn the hard way on her OWN. Just be her Big Brother she will need that more than a father figure.

Answer 4

If you're as concerned about her as you are and love her so much, you've already given her an incredible gift. Girls put up with mistreatment because they are insecure or don't know to expect anything better. With a great big brother like you she'll have high standards for the other men in her life.

Answer 5

You're going to hate this answer, hon, but she needs to learn through her own experience. As sweet as your protectiveness is, she views you as her nosey older brother, and since you are also a man, your advice is not as important as her best friend's. Just give her some room, let her make some mistakes, and when she sees the intelligence in your advice, she will come around.

Answer 6

I had a brother just like you growing up- and yeah he wanted to protect me from the world. The only way i would listen and take his advice is if he sat me down and gave me examples that his girl friends went though. It helped that he kind of saw it from a girls point of view. I didnt want to be preached at because i already got that from my dad, talk to her like a friend: you will get your point across much better. Good luck

Answer 7

I truly believe that girls never really want to hear any type of advice coming from someone not in their circle. Remembering when I was a teenager, no one (especially my family) could tell me anything. They didn't know me or anything about what I wanted or needed (so I thought). I think you should continue to talk to her (she truly hears you) but don't over step your boundaries (if you know what I mean). Most importantly, just let her know that you are there for her when she wants to talk or get a males point of view.

Answer 8

Honestly, you can't and you won't. Let her be, she will learn by her own mistakes. My husband had a similar situation with his sister. We both tried our damnest to keep her on the right and she ended up making a detour.

But really, once we analyzed, sometimes what we think is a detour and we try to prevent them from going there ends up being the place they were meant to be at and learn the most from, for their own life benefit.

Answer 9

if she doesn't flick you off when you talk to her, then I think she probably is listening to you, but just finds it awkward to be hearing that kind of stuff from her older brother. That's really awesome, though, that you care so much about your little sis! Take it from me, a 16 yr-old who wishes her brother cared even a little bit.

Answer 10

At 16, I think she is smart enough to understand what you mean. You may give her the best advice, but you have to understand that she is still gonna be the one to decide on her own. She has to make choices and on that part, I think, she is still her own boss. Don't worry too much, people learn their lessons based on their own experiences.