Guys, particularly the introverts, what are your love language?? How can we, gals, get through you??

Question

I simply want to understand men more. What makes you feel loved, other than s*x? What are your ways of communicating your feelings especially those who are introverts? My boyfriend is the type of person who is not that showy nor affectionate. He finds it really hard to express himself especially how he feels. He is a man of both few words and few actions. Although i do believe that he loves me, because of his personality i find it really hard to identify how important i really am to him. I'm really confused... How do introverts express their love to their beloved? How can i communicate my love to him in ways that will really get through him? ...any words of advice would be appreciated! Thanks! =)

Answer 1

I think I can answer your question. I myself am an introvert: INTP. We introvertt are very shy and express our love in very subtle ways, mainly in the background. We are the king maker, the puppet master, the man behind the stage making things happen. We show our love by providing you with shelter, money, power, fame, and everything that money can buy. Of course money can't buy love; but try telling an introver that.

Anyways, if you want to show your love, just show it as you normally would. We might act as if we don't like it when you show us how much you love us, but deep inside, we do, and we will love you for it.

Answer 2

Do the extroverts have an advantage when it comes to MEETING someone - initially making a connection? yeah, I think they do. But as far as establishing chemistry, having a true "connection" - a real meeting of the minds, feeling physical passion, finding that you have things in common.... I don't think extroverts necessarily have an edge, except for the fact that they might be able to express themselves easier than you and I who are more shy. I do think that women want men who have confidence in themselves - if you think you are a loser, she will pick up on that and think you're a loser too - so you must respect yourself and not allow her or anyone else to walk all over you. I've become an introvert and I find that I warm up to people slowly, over time. I socialize best when it is one-on-one or in very, very small groups - not large groups! So big parties: not easy unless you approach someone who is standing alone. Introverts often like art galleries, libraries, bookstores, and coffee shops (I say this because I'm an intro and I like these things!) Why not go to the bookstore and browse and if you see a lovely woman smile and say hello, ask questions about the book she has in her hand, etc. You can converse with a woman at a museum.... if she's strolling alone looking at a painting, ask if she knows something about it.

Answer 3

Things that I think will definitely work is if you find ways to just play with his hair, just stroke it for extended periods of time i'm pretty sure he'll love that & respond, even if it's just to close his eyes or smile.

Do stuff for him if you don't already, like iron shirts or make tea or cook or something & know it's dated & wifey but it works & a guy really appreciates it... so long as he reciprocates eventually!

From time to time I like calling my family as if it was to ask them something, or send them on an errand & then just come out with
"do you know... i love you?!" that tends to stick in the mind & if it doesn't instigate results then you're in love with a piece of rock or plastic & you need to get yourself the next model... (jk)

here's another idea: have you ever considered getting HIM roses?

or for an aniversary or an important event (if you're the type that can carry it off) get him an onion. Yes an onion... it has rings & levels of depth & it's interesting because it has layers explain that it's a metaphor for whatever you want it to be a metaphor for.

Answer 4

I am not an introvert,but I know there are tons of guys who are.An easy way to get through is to set up a candle light dinner,soft music,and some lingerie on you.Just look at how he responds,and ease into asking him if that is what he likes.