Well my gf and i broke up after 9 months of everything cheating, fighting, cutting, drinking, family troubles, friend troubles, school drama, and emotional baggage. Now its over all cuz she likes my brother, but says she loves me. We tryed to work on us and fix things but yeah wasnt working and i stopped trying after she lied about not liking my brother but was talking to him about it behind my back. I just dont know how to move on I know everything just finaly ended tonight but I want to move on now and not hurt. I hate hurting so what should I do?
2006-10-19 16:56:17 · 11 answers · asked by slaphappy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not easy moving on when you love someone no matter what the situation of the break up may be. However, if you were to get back together, ease your mind in knowing, it still wouldn't work. Not only are you still going to have to deal with the past fighting, cheating, cutting, drinking, and other problems that lead to the break up, but also your brother too. Sometimes we are too busy fighting with the wrong person to hear opportunity knocking at the door. No one loves you who will engage in the thought of a romantic encounter with a relative of yours after they have had a relationship with you. Find something worthwhile for you to do. Open yourself up to the great big world out there. Understand where this relationship went wrong so that you don't end up in the same kind of physically and mentally abusive relationship you just left. Feel good about the fact that you made a decision to move on to something a lot more dynamic than what you had. Ask yourself one question....Does this person deserve to have this much control over you? Start loving yourself and take back the power you are giving her by being hurt.
2006-10-19 17:13:45 · answer #1 · answered by genesis1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-05-07 20:30:52 · answer #2 · answered by Beatriz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, there are drama kings just as much as there are drama queens....so you HAVE to move on unless you want to become the statistic, and dating anyone else would be atrociously difficult. Now as far as what you should do? You're gonna first off get her out of your life, and her talking to your brother is NOT gonna help. Now granted...this is just me andmy family, but there's a playa's law about the whole dating your brother's girl, and that rule is..YOU DON'T do it....not only is that nasty...but it's ghetto. I mean your brother wants to take sloppy seconds isn't an appealing thing to think about, but that depends upon your relationship with him. BUT YOU HAVE to avoid her presence by all means....the more you hear from her, the longer it's gonna take to get over it.
As far as you....yea drinkin ain't screwin aint' gonna help (well the screwing might, if you wanna be a playa.) Drinkin will only make it worse, aside from the 'temporary' feel good it gives.
Focus on you, make priorities for your future, get yourself around a positive crowd....family, hang out buddies, stuff like that....go places, hell go campin, xtreme bikin, skydive, somethin thrillin to get your mind off the ****. You'll find the MORE you do and occupy yourself, the easier it is to forget. So the best thing to do is get out there and find adventure, or find some friends, OR focus on the betterment of your future, and not the lovesickness overwhelming you.
2006-10-19 17:10:40 · answer #3 · answered by Dennis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drugs and alcohol won't take away the pain. that is only temporary so the best approach is to cope with the pain. don't run away from it. and don't get into a relationship cause you feel the need to be loved. YOu need to deal with it so that you will never make this mistake again. YOu need to make better choices in the future when it comes to relationships with women. The best thing to do right now is keep your self busy. Take time out to sort things out. Only time can heal the pain. and it will heal your pain. tell yourself everyday...that you are glad a new day has began and make the best out of that day.
2006-10-19 17:12:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Move On! Surely there are things that you have loved doing in the past, that you have missed. Learn to sky dive, or something to really get your mind off the unhappy thoughts that you are having. The relationship sounds more like a nightmare, so wake up and take hold of your life and make yourself happy.
2006-10-19 17:02:30 · answer #5 · answered by kayboff 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off find yourself something that keeps your mind completley away from all the things that turn your stomach. Then keep with it. Belive me you will catch yourself thinking about it every now and then, but if you look at how good you've been since all the problems have come to a stop, and you will know!
2006-10-19 17:12:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Meet someone new.... divert your attention to other things other than her.... you can do it. Do the things that made you comfortable or relax and happy. Enjoy life! Others say that if you smile with the world, the world will smile back to you!!!!!!!! so be an optimist........ hope i can do something for you more than this comforting words, but i know you have your own idea how to get over her.... good luck!
2006-10-19 17:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by pretty girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church
**Note she will try and bone you later. Dont give in and be a skank like her.
sorry bout the break up. Try and fill your life with as much positive
as you can cause theres already enough negative.
2006-10-19 17:01:16 · answer #8 · answered by Jason & Milly T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends, your job, sports, just do anything to keep your mind off it, if you really want to forget then you've gotta try your best to do so. Good luck, sux where you are right now. Give it a bit of time and you'll be back to normal I promise.
2006-10-19 16:59:40 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go on a holiday, go out with your mates, start playing team sports, just basically keep yourself busy doing stuff you like to do.
2006-10-19 16:58:48 · answer #10 · answered by Aussie Chick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋