I am young yes, but I am ready to make a life changing decision such as this. I don't want to get married because I've been put in a position like being pregnant but because I truley love this man. I have complete faith in our relationship. And I just want my mom and dad to support what ever decision I make, wether I make a mistake or not, I want their support. I'm open to any suggestions, comments, or answers. Thanks, Jessica
2006-10-19 16:29:14 · 29 answers · asked by Jessica H 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
if you were really ready for marriage, you wouldn't care so much about what your parents thought.
2006-10-19 16:32:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ya young doesn't tell much but is probably not best to get married. If you are under 24-25 stay away from marriage. because alot changes from 17 to mid twenties. You go to college or start a job or career. You begin to develop different feelings about things, start getting passionate about other stuff, and by the time a couple years passes you could be a completely different person. So if you have complete faith in the relationship why do you have to get married? Why couldn't you just stay together. Or even a prolonged engagement. You don't want the mess of marrying someone that changes. And if you haven't LIVED together under the same roof for more than six months you shouldn't be even CONSIDERING marrige. People are a lot different when you see them every day for over 10 hours a day. Just be carefull take your time. If you are truly in love you can get married when you both are really ready to. Good luck!
2006-10-19 16:37:40 · answer #2 · answered by James D 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you have to ask or explain your to young . If your between 13 and 18 some one should get a hold of you . Or better yet get a hold of your self . Getting married isn't all it is cracked up to be . Oh sure it is all fun and games at first . Then you have to wake up to see you have to spend the rest of your life with this man . If your young you have a lot of growing to do . Your taste in men will change as you get older . What seems like a dream today might be a nightmare tomorrow . There are a lot of real life responsibilities . Think about this . I know you think you know what you want is marriage . But it could be something else . I think you should also get some consoling . Both you and your parents . Your boy friend too . For goodness sake don't quit school either just to get married .
2006-10-20 07:23:47 · answer #3 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they are not giving you their support, there is probably a reason for it. Good parents are usually pretty reliable. You will more than likely have their support anyway. That is the way good parents are.
How do you know you are ready to get married? If you know for sure as you say you are, then you should tell your parents this. It is not only just that you love each other, that is just the start. How do you know that both of you are willing to put in the effort to stay together and keep doing things to stay in love?
Has he asked your parents for their support if and when he asks for your hand in marriage? Would you be willing to wait?
It took me four years to figure out that I was truly in love with my now wife. It wasn't until I had truly felt like I had grown up (and believe me, I took longer than most). We finally found out how many dreams we SHARED as well as how much we would support each other in our individual dreams.
If you are really young (and this might make me sound really old), it really is all right to wait. There are so many changes that you will experience that when you get a little further along, you will look back and wonder why you were the way you once were.
If your parents are hesitant, they are being good parents. With so many marriages going to divorce, why not take long enough to understand why they may or may not support this? If you are truly into each other and have all that it takes, you will not have to explain much.
2006-10-19 16:44:38 · answer #4 · answered by Just another 2D character online 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How young? If you're under 20 you're not ready and you need to wait. If you're between 20-25, you might be ready but you should still wait. I was 25 when I got engaged, my now hubby was 33 at the time - and it was exactly right for both of us. You go through a lot of changes between 20-25 so don't assume the way you are now is the way you will be in 5 years. I used to party a lot when I was 21 - by 23 that phase was done. I haven't been to a nightclub now is over 4 years - my husband doesn't like those places - just take your time. I hope you didn't meet this guy a week ago and feel like this. Really get to know to him. Your parents will appreciate it.
2006-10-20 02:25:52 · answer #5 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think the best thing is just to be totally honest with your parents.. im not sure how old you old but if you feel like you might be too young chances are they are going to feel the same way i think hope for the best be prepared for the worst. You parents may not initally accept it give them some time they may or may not come around and you need to respect that. As for you if you really really feel like this is right and best thing for you nobody can stop you but make sure it is you dont want to have to file for divorce in a few months after being married. Are you and your partner living together? if not i would recommend that first it will give you a taste of married life and then i would recommend you make these life altering decisions.. g/l
2006-10-19 16:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by So Happy!! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are pregnant and u really love him then I would say Go ahead and give it a try.......any time someone gets married they are takin chance to see if it can work but that is not the real issue. Lost of young people dont know all that it takes to maintain a marriage. They are still growing and learning about themselves and life and it is harder to do that if u are tryin to be a parent and wife to. Both og my brothers married young and their wives were young to.......one brohter at 18 and another at 22............i have seen their wives and their kids suffer becuz not only their immaturity but becuz of their wifes immaturity to. There are not jus alot of things u are learning during ur young years but there are many things u will need to unlearn. I would say be sure that u love this person enough to endure through really tuff times and that is a choice not a feeling. But as a suggestion, i would say that maybe u to could tell ur parents that u are willing to take some marriage counseling, i think it would be good way to see if you are really ready. Good luck!
2006-10-19 16:41:33 · answer #7 · answered by exceptionallyexceptional 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Frist of all are you 16 or 18? NO age doesn't matter, Im 25 and my husband is 24 we got married in July of this past year. Granted I am old enough to know I was ready for marriage, but I also knew at 18 I wanted to get married, I just had to kiss alot of frogs to do so. Wither or not you belive this guy is the right guy for you, or how old you are, I have learned that parents losing there daughter is hard wither you are an only child or not. I would sit them down with my bf or finace and say "Mom Dad, listen, I know I am young, but I am in love with so and so, he is the man of my dreams, I want to spend the rest of my life with him, now I can do this two ways (do your research!!!!!!) we can plan this wedding or we can run off and get married at the JP (Have a place to live too btw) you can except this or not, but I love you both and I know in my heart this is the right choice for me to make. The might be apauled at first but they will come around. Don't lose your cool, smile hold his hand look at him adoringly and lovingly. And everything will go your way
2006-10-19 16:35:32 · answer #8 · answered by msoutherngirl 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Just go "mom, dad, we're getting married" followed by "oh my god are you okay!" Just make sure they are sitting down and not in a public place when you give them the news. They will either be on the same page right away or not. But they'll come around in time. Just point out how good this man has been to you. I got married at 19 and now many many years later we're still happy. Good luck breaking the news.
2006-10-19 23:43:31 · answer #9 · answered by masterdvrsgirl 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Young lady are u under 21.To get married is simple things but hv both u plan for yr future how to handler your settlement of (Home, cash etc:) When u said ready to get married, I think that u are not. Ps consider very carefully of the discison that u make.
Parents know their child best and they will alway protect them. The best thing to do at this movement, call all the family members seat down and talk it around. Do not jump over the wall with your discision.All the best to you.
2006-10-19 17:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by Cindy L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're in love, there is no rush to marry. Love is eternal (or so they tell me - my ex-wife disagrees). Instead of worrying about getting married so quickly, enjoy the time that you have now. I got married the first time at 26, but I think that in my case, I should have waited a little longer. Others get married at 22 and have great, life-long marriages. Marry who you want to marry, but consider one thing - if you don't get married right away, what harm will that cause? If either of you won't wait, then something is very wrong with your love...
2006-10-19 16:41:45 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋