Alright I have a boyfriend however I'm in love with an older man I had sex with him and he really treats me nice unlike my boyfriend who use to hit on me but currently doesnt and hasn't in a very long time, however sometimes when I call this older man he doesn't anwser my calls this really upset me when Im around this older man i get nervous i don't what to say i dont know what we can talk about. I tried to break up with my boyfriend but he wont let me . Im not sure if this older man wants a serious relationship with me . I want one with him. When my boyfriend touches me it makes me sick to my stomach I been with my bf for 4 years going on 5 years. We been through so much together. But ladies this new man is fine he has it all together. Let me say Im 18 years old and he's 32 i only had relations with two people in my life my bf and the older man. Ireally need help. My boyfriend has cheated on me in the past with 5 differnt other girls and even tried to have sex with 1 of my friends!
2006-10-19 15:42:41 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
From one Shana to another.It is obvious that you are not involved in a fulfilling relationship with your boyfriend. I am wondering if you read your question to yourself before you submitted it because sometimes that helps, if you read it back you will see all of the not so great things you had to say about your current bf, such as when he touches you it makes you sick to your stomach, Yikes! that is a serious problem but it would make me sick too, if I was cheated on by the same man 5 times. I understand that you have been in a relationship with your bf for almos 5 years, but you are quite young and he is not treating you right so you should move on, as someone a little bit older I do not think that you should get involved with this 32 year old man, and it should send up a red flag to you that a 32 year old man would want to talk to you ( a young women of only 18) Please be very careful of this situation, when I was around your age I did the same thing only the man was in his 40's and yes he treated me nice too, but what older man wouldn't like to have a young tender roni on their arm, to make them feel younger and smarter? It turns out he was married and had children. Find a nice gentleman between the age of 18-23 this way you will have more in common with him and actually have something to talk about when you are around him. Best of Luck, kick the old bf to the curb and the old guy and start fresh.
2006-10-19 16:04:20 · answer #1 · answered by Thandie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your 18 and he's 32. My dear it might not work out. He might not answer your calls because he probably has a girl friend and is just using you for a fun time. I'm sorry you have so much emotion in this relationship but do you really know anything about him? Like where does he live? And does he let u go visit him? Can you only call him sometimes and around a certain hour? I think that since your so young this really is'nt true love. Your probably are looking for someone to pay attention to you and you just wanna feel loved and this other guy does it for you . Thats fine theres nothing wrong with that . You should try to work it out w/ your bf since you have alot of history together and if you can see past the other stuff if u can't move on to better pastures.
2006-10-19 15:59:22 · answer #2 · answered by teena 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seems to me you have already made up your mind & are looking for that little push. You say he makes you sick. Why keep him then? You say he cheated on you before, Why did you stay with him all those times? & the clincher tried to with 1 of your friends & yet there you still are. Then lets throw in the older man. If he had not enetered the picture, would you now be taking into account all these past grievances from your boyfriend? I think you know the answers to all the above. This is all leading down one path & one path only. It's just a matter of how & when.
2006-10-19 15:50:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your looking for love in all the wrong places. First end it with your bf if thats what u want to do. The fact that he upsets u and makes u sick to your stomach...may be based on the fact that you are cheating on him. The mind places tricks on you.
This older guy may like you but sadly he is a rebound. And the age difference is going to put a strain on your relationship. Here is a question...does the older man makes plans with you that do not involve sex? If he is only planning events that include sex and doesnt answer his phone ..means he makes time for you on his terms only. Where as your current bf probably isnt like that.
Takes some time for yourself and your true feeling of who you want - and who wants you will become apparent
2006-10-19 15:54:48 · answer #4 · answered by KA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First you need to do whatever it takes to get rid of your current boyfriend. It is obvious that he is not good to you or for you and you know that. You can not be sure what will happen with this older guy either or if he is right for you either. Take it one day at a time and if the older guy does not work out then there plenty of other guys out there and one that will make you happy. Have fun, you are young and have a lot of time to find Mr. Right. You should never stay with someone who hits you and cheats on you. They do not change and everyone deserves to be happy, it is up to you to make that happen no one else will do it for you. Good luck.
2006-10-19 15:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by country girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you say your bf hasn't treated you right in the past and has cheated on u but it sure sounds to me like YOU yourself are cheating. Maybe you should just take a break from both of those guys, cool off, and have some You Time. See other fish in the sea if u know what I mean. Then when you are ready, if you still like either of those guys, go for it, or if you find someone new, that's great too, but for now you need a break.
2006-10-19 15:50:03 · answer #6 · answered by katherinejean66 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok for sure you need to dump your bf because:
1. he use to beat on you, and those tendencies can always come back
2. he cheated on you, 5 times!!! I would've left him when he cheated the first time.
3. He "won't let you break up with him". You're your own woman, he can't keep you in this relationship if your unhappy.
He sounds dangerous and if you leave him, he may try violence, you should also talk with your parents
You shouldn't be with the older guy either because he's TOO much older than you, and he may just be thinking your his little toy on the side
2006-10-19 15:47:48 · answer #7 · answered by ^_^ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boy friend is a looser. Get rid of him. He can't stop you from breaking it off just tell him it's over that's it. The older guy is not really old. He is to you because you are 18. But you have a learning curve with him because he knows more. Have a talk with him and tell him about this other guy you want to get rid of. He will help you get rid of him. Older guys like young girls because lets face it you have nice skin and feel wonderful. But you are a little young and therefore maybe he gets tired of conversation because you're mentally still in high school and he isn't. Go to college get an education If you want to date this guy then do it but loose the looser. You have lots to learn still most of your life is in front of you so go enjoy life. You may meet someone even better. You might meet you.
2006-10-19 15:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello, I was in the same situation i was 16 and was seeing a 31 year old. I keep on with my bf and keep going with the older guy i know that's bad but i used my bf as security for then i was down and couldn't see my older man... and my bf use to hit me too... i am now not with either one of them... i guess i just grow up I'm now 18 i would suggest to leave you bf cos thats what my mistake was.
2006-10-19 16:00:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
the older guy probably doesn't want a serious relationship... although it sounds to me like he already has one other than you... not trying to hurt you just thats what it sounds like when he won't answer your calls... As for the other guy he is a total loser.. you can't stand him to touch you because you are probably afraid of the touch he is going to give you.. Guys that hit just make me so sick... And cheating wow... Just remember you don't have to go into another relationship right away.. yes, you love this guy but if you push it you could lose him... just be careful cause your heart is really open to pain right now..
2006-10-19 15:56:31 · answer #10 · answered by sweetchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋