so i asked my friend out back in january. she said no. i asked her out right after her ex broke up with her. i said to her "could you see us dating anywhere down the line" she said "im sorry but not really". normally id take the hint but since then we have grown very close. like we go to dinner, movies, and even a picnic in the park alone. so whats up? should i talk to her bout it? and what exactly should i say to her?
2006-10-19 15:39:04 · 16 answers · asked by cronaldo17 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It seems to me that your love interest in your friend is one sided. Sometimes we find ourselves loving our friends because they are our friends. But, in reality you have already shared with her your true feelings and she has already responded. Unfortunately you are not satisfied with her answer and want her to change her mind. Actions speak louder than words. If you still want her, then start dating someone else. I know this might sound strange, but most women want what someone else has. Don't make yourself so available. Once she sees you are not trying anymore, most times she will see things in you she has never seen before and want you also. If she doesn't, then all you have done is gone on with you own life. It's a win/win situation. Sometimes you don't hear love knocking on the door because you are too busy dealing with what you can't have. It's all game playing. It's about who is the most strategic.
2006-10-19 15:55:44 · answer #1 · answered by genesis1234 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, don't ask her out in the normal way again. she can't have it both ways forever; she's already got the message of how you feel & it doesn't need reiteration, she's she's made it clear that she doesn't want to jump into the relationship at all.
but since actions speak louder than words... and her actions seem open to interpretation and invitation then i think that's the course of action you should take.
just assume more and more of the boyfriend like roles with her, hug eventually, spend the night together eventually, kiss her on the cheeck eventually... & perhaps eventually it'll make sense to her that you'd make a decent guy for her.
i'd go for third base, fully clothed, with hand, giving her plenty of time to call a halt if she lets you kiss her.
just to make double sure that she will come round to the idea
recheck everything you know / have / do that might have made her say no first.
before all that you might decide to try logic first, after doing the (not quite) boyrfiend thing for a while, just say something like "i need something from you... ' ... i don't want to think of you three years down the line & feel that we were just friends i think the 'us' that we have deserves something more..."
2006-10-19 15:55:51 · answer #2 · answered by Can I Be Your Pet? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a printer, print this out to her.
I truly believe you love her.....however, you are her friend..., a very close friend........You are a wonderful man, now you both, or her share that love as a friendship....not lover or such.
Give her support......Tell her you love her, and will be always be there....not looking for sex...
Talk to her about anything....watch her eyes, smile, grin,
or whatever.....
Why not, as friends, if you have a ocean nearby, take her for a walk in it....and the moon....It is so peactful, with someone who cares..
2006-10-19 15:53:10 · answer #3 · answered by Eve 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to her about it, but don't be pushy.. sounds like you have a good friendship, you don't want to ruin that. If she sees you as only a friend, take that.. it's a lucky thing (friendship).. Mention that you still have some feelings for her, but if she doesn't feel the same way, you understand and don't want to jeopardize your friendship.
2006-10-19 15:42:35 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're in the friend zone.
Why they call it that I'll never know.
She isn't your friend. She is taking great pleasure in seeing you suffer each and every time the two of you meet.
2006-10-19 15:51:37 · answer #5 · answered by S h ä r k G û m b ò 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her that you value her friendship but that you are confused and you need to know whether this relationship could be developing into more than just friendship.
2006-10-19 15:44:44 · answer #6 · answered by debi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she wants to keep her options open and that's why she is doing these things with you. if you keep it up she may be overcome by your persistence and date you. however, i suspect that she is also involved with other men and you don't know about it. she is planting seeds and taking the best ones. maybe you have not shown how you could be the best
2006-10-19 15:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by tocknutz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not a hard thing to do to think of words that rhyme. Write her a poem. Girls like that mushy stuff really.
2006-10-19 15:42:42 · answer #8 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have already clearly made it known that you are open to options of your friendship developing to something more if she desired it - but she has clearly stated that she values your friendship more and does not allow herself to see you as anything more
learn to appreciate your friendship for true friendships are hard to come by
best wishes to you both - for there is love for both of you somewhere
2006-10-19 15:42:54 · answer #9 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well she mite just like u as a friend and maybe too much as a friend like she only sees you as that. its kinda sad and it sucks but thats usually how it works. U know?♥
2006-10-19 15:44:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋