I have been getting along fine with a guy. We had fun when we go out together. We exchange e-mails a lot. But, there had been no progress from there. Recently, he's asked me to attend his birthday party but I bailed out by saying that I already had plans that night. It was true. I was to have dinner that night. He was quick to assume that it was a date. He wanted me to admit that it was a date (because he thought that I was in denial). He told me that it was okay if I admit it was a date. I mean, what's with that? Was he being jealous or was he just being happy to see that I am going out with another guy?
2006-10-19 15:38:04 · 23 answers · asked by counterculturalist 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Geez, I have to wonder why you didn't go to his birthday. Could it be you suspect he is getting serious and you just want to be friends? I think, maybe, he is kinda bashful about showing his true feelings and does not want to if he suspects you don't feel the same way. So he's fishing to find out if you are going out with other guys, which is something you would not be doing if you were serious about him.
2006-10-19 15:58:46 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh you need to becareful right there honey! that sounds like he was jealous and didn't want u going out with another guy cuz some guys feel that after having a girlfriend they should be together and no other intimacy should come between them and yeah no friends of the opposite sex silly isn't it? but he sounds like he doesn't want u going out with someone else but were you and if it was you should just be upfront about it. Tell him that u still love him if u do and that nothing really happened because u should come clean with the guy and not do anything that he may suspect u. good luck.
2006-10-19 15:59:41 · answer #2 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My current partner is my best friend of 7 years before we started dating...
he sometimes used to question me and obviously now it has come to light he was plain jealous and wanted to know where i was going and who with and clearly not being stupid or wanting to upset him i used to tell him the half truth i didnt want him sitting at home thinking i was up to more than he thought i was! it took me a lot longer to come round to thinking the same way as he felt about me... just thought he would get over it! but now its the best move i ever made! i was petrified. but if you arent interested in this guy you need to ask him, if hes a good mate then he wont mind you asking him why he keeps questioning where you are going etc, hes not your father at the end of the day or your man so he hasnt any right really unless its genuine concern maybe.
its hard to tell unless you hear the tone of his voice and understand why hes doing it. maybe he does have feelings for you or maybe he sees you as a little sister and wants to look after you either way be careful in case it goes too far and encroaches on your life which isnt helpful as you are your own person.
good luck! hoep it goes well for you!xxxx
2006-10-19 20:43:19 · answer #3 · answered by caroline17nov 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like he may have some unspoken feelings for you. He's such a wonderful friend to you, how come you don't reschedule your dinner plans and be with him on his special day? Maybe you guys should sit down and discuss where you are at in your friendship and make sure that you two are on the same page.
2006-10-19 15:43:47 · answer #4 · answered by lovemays03 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No your not getting along fine with this guy. This will not be a good relationship as he is already thinking your messing around. It will only get worst. If he's drilling you he is jealous.
Good luck in the future if you decide to stay.
2006-10-19 15:47:16 · answer #5 · answered by X-Woman 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well... im a guy and i kinda can understand him.. He likes u very much... and in a way or another he doesnt want you to go out that night no matter the person ur going out with.. he wants to spend his night with you.. and who knws he may asks u out.. and yes he is jealous... These kind of relations r so complicated.. good luck :)
2006-10-19 15:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by devil 1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ive been in a situation like thi sbefore, in my case it turned out he was jealous and wanted to g oout with me but i ended up dating the other guy (on ehe was jelaous of) for 3 years as he was just too late. The real question here is do you like him, if you do then ask him outright if you do not then ignore it and date who you want to.
2006-10-19 21:51:43 · answer #7 · answered by confused 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is another example of men thingink that any show of friendliness from a woman means that they own that woman and that it's a relationship.
He fancies you and does not want to see another guy have him.
2006-10-19 17:53:15 · answer #8 · answered by Tatiana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you really liked him you would have gone to his party. but even then it's not going to be a great relationship if he's already accusing you of 'cheating'. then again he was probably shocked that you would miss his party and assmued you must have had a REALLY good reason for it (like having a hot guy waiting for you).
2006-10-19 20:58:33 · answer #9 · answered by jimi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
even if you did have a date it's got nothing to do with him...yes he was jealous he prolly wanted you there to show off to his mates...he was insistant, so maybe he has hidden feelings for you, but i dont see why he made such a big deal out of it
2006-10-19 15:59:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋