My boyfriend said that I love him too much. Does any guy out there think that, that is a compliment? or what should I take from that?
2006-10-19 15:37:19 · 40 answers · asked by CanIBeYours? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's a compliment. It sound more like he's feeling smothered. Maybe you can back off a little, and he'll get back into his comfort zone; or even better, he'll miss the attention, and come looking for it. He might feel like he's getting so much attention from you, he doesn't have the chance to initiate it himself (which guys like to do from time to time). Give him room to come to you.
2006-10-19 15:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by Bad Kitty! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not a guy, but maybe I can help. I don't know if it's a compliment or not because I don't know how he acted or looked when he said it. But it's possible what he might have meant is, and just think about what I'm saying. I could be way off. Are you to needy of him. Maybe a little clingy or possessive. Have to be with him all the time like you're attached at the hip. If this is true then this could be what he meant. If not then maybe he just meant that you're a very giving, loving person!!! Hope this maybe helped. Also maybe he feels you'd be lost without him. Which I don't feel this means you love someone to much. Because that's what true love is. Not being able to be without the person. That's why you marry someone you really love. So you can spend the rest of your days with them. Good luck!!!
2006-10-19 15:43:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
aaaahhhhh so many young people, so many WRONG answers. . . . .I'm 43, married 20 years, and have said that MYSELF. Translated it means that he has a great appreciation for you. He is THANKFUL for all that you are and do for him. In fact, an inner feeling he may have is an inadequacy to fulfill your needs as well as you have his. He's questioning his ability to keep up with you, and may feel that you are too good for him. The correct response, and ONLY IF YOU TRULY FEEL THIS WAY - is to tell him that he does meet your needs, etc. Whatever comes to mind to make him feel at ease about him "doing his part" in the relationship. That he should just do as you do and give all that he has AND IS to the realtionship. Here's the breaker - Ask him if he feels that relationship is worth giving of himself this way. Marriage is like knowing a person inside and out - no secrets - and even the ugly stuff is "ok" with the other partner. Good luck sweetie. sorry I got a little winded there.
2006-10-19 16:02:28 · answer #3 · answered by ezelljm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a good compliment but it also means that you should back it off just a little. Not too much though.
2006-10-19 15:47:18 · answer #4 · answered by Red1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would take that as a compliment but you might want to take the loving down one notch, you might be way over loving, I am not entirely sure what you do though so try to guess his attitude when he says that again.
2006-10-19 15:48:23 · answer #5 · answered by Bronco16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe he did mean it as a compliment but if i guy where to say it to me i would be like red flag alert .....i love him to much because he doesnt love you enough.and maybe he thinks you are getting to serious or it just mean that you do alot of things for him that he might not deserve...or maybe its none of the above
2006-10-19 15:45:05 · answer #6 · answered by **keke** 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why're you asking guys? You should be asking girls. Guys obviously want to be adored pampered etc. But "I love him too much" implies you're being too clingy and overpassionate with him. That would suffocate most guys and they would start withdrawing away from you. You have to keep him on his toes. Play hard to get a little bit and don't show him too much you love hi m. He would take advantage of it. You would probably say "Nah I know my bf he's not like that" but men are the same everywhere. Trust me on this.
2006-10-19 15:42:00 · answer #7 · answered by Liz^24 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
your boyfriend thnks this because you may be smothering him. give him some space and let him be a guy with the guys. maybe he needs time away from you to realize how much he loves you. some guys just need to get out and "watch the big game" or "play ball"
2006-10-19 15:51:46 · answer #8 · answered by tocknutz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a guy.. But I have said that to a couple of guys.
What that means is your scaring him. He feels (I'm not saying you are) you are making him your whole world, and it's scaring him. He migh feel as though he can't live up to the expecations of how great you think he his. And doesn't guite understand why you love him the way you do...he doesn't feel worthy, therefore, he see's it as "you love him too much". He probably thinks he doesn't deserve you.
2006-10-19 15:44:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to ME like you come on to him stronger than he wants. My own interpretation is that you should ease off.
To me it doesn't sound like a compliment, but not a negative thing either. (Unless that word "too" is a criticism.)
But I don't have all the context or details, so my answer isn't worth much.
2006-10-19 15:43:12 · answer #10 · answered by engineer01 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋