I'm working two jobs, taking care of our two kids and doing everything! My husband is between jobs, sleeps in, doesn't do any of the school pick ups or drop offs, none of the afterschool activities, I cook and do the laundry and shopping. I'm exhausted and fed up! Everytime I bring it up he acts like I'm being unreasonable.
2006-10-19 15:35:15 · 15 answers · asked by Meg 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
B/c he's a man and you've let him get away with it. Take care of yourself and your children. Dont do his laundry, cook for him, or anything else. Just dont say a word to him then when he comes and ask you what's wrong just look at him and say "I'm too tired from taking care of your family to talk!" then roll over and go to sleep. It will make him feel so bad you might just get breakfast in bed and not have to work 2 jobs. If he doesnt get the pic, hire a nanny and kick him out! He'll for sure have to find a job then.
2006-10-19 15:55:18 · answer #1 · answered by crystalyn129 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a very lazy brother-in-law and my sister is going college and when she comes home she has to take care o f 5 children and the their ages are 3, 5,10,13,16 and the sixteen is her step son and she does it all and she is very tired They call those men busy bodies and they are no good for nothing .He just don't to work and he thinks house work is for woman. but he has to remember you or out their working and he should be taking care of the home . if he don't want to do that then he needs to get off his dead beat butt and find a job. He figure since you are working that he don't need to work. He also don't realize its looking very bad on his behalf . I hate a lazy man. I wouldn't put up with a lazy man . It would different if he was disabled and cant' do nothing . so he is not disabled so that make him a dead beat husband. i would tell him to sh-t or get off the pot. He another work . Do something to help out or you can remove your self from this house.
2006-10-19 19:57:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you let him do this and back down from him when he has a tantrum, get drastic, i no it seems harsh but he obviously has things a little to cushty, give him an ultimatum, if that dosen't work go thru with it, kick him in his fat ars out the door to fend 4 him self, wen he prooves he can let him back in, it sounds harsh but y is he there he is obviously or no moral, financial or emotional support to you is he? i'm not say leave him, im just saying you should remind him of what he has, you are not a single mum with 3 kids so stop acting like one!
2006-10-19 15:51:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to talk him into marriage counseling because the longer he gets away with this the longer it will go on! Let him know that you are human! You cannot do it all! You could become very sick for real! He has got to understand that he has to get a job and help out!
2006-10-19 15:49:55 · answer #4 · answered by Pamela V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
study here 2 books by way of Laura Schlesinger.(I used to get offended with my husband`s being lazy till now too yet reading those 2 books, helped lots in addressing the middle of the matters.provide it a shot.. a million-ideal Care and Feeding of Husbands 2-In compliment of stay at domicile mothers
2016-11-24 19:03:55 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heart certainly goes out to you
unfortunately with men adjusting to the fact that so many women like to be super mom/wife - they feel it is all the responsibility of the woman in the house to care for all the day to day needs - never realizing that even God states that man is responsible for his family and their needs
one person does not make a home ...... a family makes a home
when you make a mess - you should be responsible for your mess - cleaning it up and caring for your surroundings
share and share alike - that is what the vows promised
be upfront honest with him about his responsibilites to this family as well
best wishes!
2006-10-19 15:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by Marsha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of chores for him to do...tell him you expect them to be done, if he wants some food or clothes to wear he will get up and do it, if he wants a clean towel to dry off with he will wash and fold them. put that and this down on the bottom of your list: I, (your name) will no longer be responsible for the above chores. and stick to it. cook just for you and the kids if you have too. he will do it as long as you let him, also, set the alarm clock so he cant sleep in, keep calling your phone number to wake him up.
2006-10-19 16:32:05 · answer #7 · answered by hamhead 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many reasons... he really is that lazy and he's just showing his true colors now, you gave him an inch, he's chauvinistic, etc...
You need to tell him if he's not willing to listen to you, then he can watch you... as you pack his bags to give him the heave-ho
2006-10-19 15:42:05 · answer #8 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl you just wore me out reading that omg you need some help your guy is a lazy bum girl he does not deserve you i suggest you you give him a ultimaten threaten him with something if that dont work try marrieage couseling good luck
2006-10-19 15:40:23 · answer #9 · answered by ladyluck356 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because he has gotten away with it for some time,lay the law down to him and tell him we must share the work around the house.Let him know you mean it ,too.
2006-10-19 15:39:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋