she would kick me out of the house. am a mom now am, 24. i got a daughter and a son that just turn 4 yesturday, and i look at them am wonder my self in that position, if they would get pregnant at a yung age...would i really kick them out and turn my back on them? would you do it?
2006-10-19 15:18:59 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
i would never turn my back at them in that situatin or any other.
2006-10-19 15:19:36 · update #1
NO. Alot of things happen to single mothers...
2006-10-19 15:21:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a tough situation sweetie. I would talk to a counselor and see if there is any way you can get into low income housing and get a job if you want that child, or you might consider giving the child up for adoption. If you really decide to keep the child then you will need a way to provide for your child. Medicaid covers nearly all or all of your pregnancy and there is also medicaid for children to provide for them after they are born. . A job can be hard but do the best you can to stay in school. She is probably just threatening you. Either way she needs to know. If she does throw you out you will need help more than ever. Also, if you have another relative or friend who you could stay with until you can get on your feet then that would be wise. You wont go to jail if you get pregnant and legally you are her responsibility . Talk to your boyfriend as well and let him know you are pregnant. I also have to tell you it wont be easy either but if your boyfriend is a man he will at least help you with the baby and provide for him. This is the best advice I can give you. I hope things go better for you. And as for your mom not being ready. As parents you are never ready when your children have babies, but you are so young and every mother wants to see their babies go through high school, go to college, get married and have babies. You are just not prepared when your babies aren't even out of high school and they have babies. I think she would understand though. She may be mad for a little but she will come to realize the baby is coming and you are going to be a mom whether she is ready for you to be or not. 11 weeks and 5 days pregnant
2016-05-22 03:57:36 · answer #2 · answered by Marcia 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been pretty straight with both my girls (12 and 18) about my reaction if they became pregnant. I would never throw them out of the house. I would continue to love them unconditionally and be there to offer my help and support. However, I have also made it clear that by offering help and support, that does not mean I will take on the financial, emotional and paretning aspects of raising the child for them. While I would do all I could to help them finish school and continue on, I would still expect them to take an active roll in the care, support (emotional as well as financial) and raising of the child. Day care so then can go to school ...yes. Providing a safe place for them to live..yes. Babysitting every night so she can go out and party...no. Getting up for 300am feedings...no. My daughters know my preference is to wait until they have sex. But they know that if they make the choice, and choose to do so without using birth control, then I expect both parents to accept the responsibility for the choices they made.
2006-10-19 16:24:42 · answer #3 · answered by Annie 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My mom said that all the time....as soon as she found out i was pregnant...she kicked me out and moved her boyfreind in. It was pretty nuts she didnt really want to see the ultrasounds and then when it got closer to when the baby was to be born she let me move back in. I don't know why. I guess so she could boss me around after i had her and tell me who could be there at the ultrasound place and who couldnt? i dont know but either way. I cant see myself telling my daughter if she got pregnant even if she was only 10(heaven forbid) I'd just have to help her take care of it til she was through with school found a good man and was ready to do what she wanted with her life!
2006-10-19 15:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think maybe your mom told you that to scare you, most parents do, just a way to try and keep you from getting pregnant, I mean if they were to tell you that they would totally support you if you got pregnant, that would be crazy, that would be like telling you it is ok. No I do not think you would really kick them out, it would only make you live them more (shh don't tell them that until they are about 30.lol)
2006-10-19 15:22:42 · answer #5 · answered by baby61283 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even though I would not like my daughter to get pregnant until after she has finished schooling, I would never kick her out. I would help her and comfort her. I might be mad because she got pregnant at an early age i would still be behinde her 100%.
2006-10-19 15:24:18 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't kick my children out of the house for that. There were very few things I'd kick them out for. A couple times, when we were pushed beyond our ability to tolerate a total lack of consideration for our home and total defiance to our rules, we asked our grown child to move out or change their ways.
Pregnancy is not defiance. Sexual intercourse is a natural human act, and I never ordered my children not to do it, that would be silly. I counseled them about safe sex, and suggested that they abstain until they were married or in a long-term, committed relationship.
I could not turn my back on a baby grandchild, or hold such a grudge against my child for bringing her own child into our lives.
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2006-10-19 15:27:47 · answer #7 · answered by mia2kl2002 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldnt. I do however hope that I am a good enough mother and make sure that my daughter never gets pregnant at a young age. Tell her the cons about. But i will also let her know that if she does decide to do it, i will provide her with protection
2006-10-19 17:35:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
parents always say that as a preventive measure, to remind you not to get into such situations. being a father, i will never turn my back on my kid no matter what disasters he brings to the family. i guess it's just that your mom doesn't know how else to communicate this to you so she uses threat. but now being a mother yourself, you understand the love and the bond you have with your children. educate them, don't threaten them or it'll leave a mental scar when they are growing up.
2006-10-19 16:19:24 · answer #9 · answered by galactic_tyrant 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course I wouldn't..I would be devastated that my child is forced to surrender his/her most carefree years and turn into an adult overnight. I would be supportive and help out but it would be up to my child to take care of the baby. Some teen parents are out partying while the baby's grandparents are the primary caregivers. If my child wasn't ready for the responsibility then I would suggest alternatives but it would be his/her decision and I would be behind them 100%.
2006-10-19 15:24:08 · answer #10 · answered by mrs michelle 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, but I also won't play subsitute mom. If my teen got pregnant, she would have to take care of the child just like an adult. I might babysit, but I wouldn't do diaper duty, daycare, weekend care and nightly feedings. You play, you might have to pay. I tell my teen daughters they better think about that. So far, they're listening.
2006-10-19 16:15:43 · answer #11 · answered by Allison S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋