Ive been using my sisters car 2003 saturn for the past 2 yrs and it still needs 4,000 to be paid off. Shes signing it over to me once i pay it off full in May/June.
I will be living with my boyfriend once i have the baby and therefor it will be his car as much as mine.
I asked him if he could help put down $2500 since i dont make that much money and im also on a time limit.
He seems kind of doubt full about it.
Do you think he should contribute to the car or no?
2006-10-19 15:03:04 · 33 answers · asked by lovesugarkisses 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Other - Pregnancy & Parenting
I just want to get the car paid fully so when we have the baby i dont have to stress about paying $500 a month
2006-10-19 15:04:51 · update #1
You should have gotten married BEFORE you got yourself pregnant. HE should have offered to help with your car without your asking....but, he should have already married you if he was gonna be living with you.
What I think is that this guy is using you BIGTIME, and that you really should dump him soon!!
2006-10-19 15:07:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋
Do I think he should contribute to the car?
To answer this question I would have to know how serious you two actually are?
Do you see the two of you getting married and being together for the rest of your life? Are the two of you fully committed to being together to raise the baby? Does your boyfriend plan to support you while you are unable to work after you have the baby? Is he going to be using the car as much as you are?
If the answer to most or all of these questions is yes, then I think he should help you to pay for the car.
However, you have to look at the scenario this way also.
What would you do if your boyfriend left you to take care of the baby by yourself? Do you want the fact that he paid for half of the car to hang over your head if he does? Do you want to take the chance that he might take the car from you?
If the answer to most or all of these questions is no, then maybe you should try and pay the car off yourself and get your boyfriend to help you with other bills and things the baby will need.
Don't get me wrong, I hope everything works out with your boyfriend and the baby, but you shouldn't walk blindly or naively into a situation where you could be hurt. The important thing right now is to take care of yourself because everything you do affects your baby. Just be sure to think about all the options, even if you don't think they will happen. What are those possible outcomes? Make a plan and a back-up plan. As long as you plan ahead and be prepared, you will do all right. I had a friend who had her first baby without a husband or boyfriend. She bought a pack of diapers every payday during her pregnancy and stocked up on other supplies. Good luck and I pray everything works out for you.
2006-10-19 17:02:48 · answer #2 · answered by jjodom1010 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would be different if you guys were married. Living together does not mean his stuff is your and your stuff is his. I have two words "Peoples Court". You see it just about everyday where two people lived together, it did not work and they are suing each other because they thought one should of paid for this or that. NOT THAT it would be the same for you and your boyfriend.
But Bottom line if he is doubtfull of it, then you should figure out what you can afford and it be YOURS not his! Your name on the title and your car. If he really was concern about helping you and the fact that your child would be in that car, then he needs to be responsible to help with the payments. But then both your names should be on the title if he does help. Maybe he just doesn't want to pay for that car - ask him would he be willing to help if it was a different car. Find out exactly what he is willing to do so that you know what your options are and can plan for what you need. Having a child is a big responsibility and transportation is an important thing to have when you have a child.
I hope everything works out for you guys. Best wishes.
2006-10-19 15:27:40 · answer #3 · answered by Kim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is going to use the car then yea
but if you guys break up u probably don't want to be going to court over that. Maybe you should ask another family member besides your sister that can help you buy it, so one that you can pay back a Little as possible over a long period of time so you
still have money to live on. You should try to pas as much as can
That is kinda messed up he doesn't want to help pay for it
2006-10-19 15:49:27 · answer #4 · answered by lifesquestions? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he going to be LEGALLY part owner of the car? Is his name going to go on the title along with your's? If not why should he contribute to paying for it? If he were to pay a portion of the price of the car and not have his name on the title as well as your's and the two of you break up you will have a car that you didn't have to pay for fully and he will be out the money he invested in that car. I don't blame him for being doubtful he will get no return on his investment. At least with his being doubtful we know he's not stupid.
2006-10-19 15:09:58 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is always the chance that the car won't be signed over to you once it is paid off, maybe that is what he is worried about.
If you want the car, you should pay it off, he shouldn't be expected to help with it unless he uses it too.
Congrats on the baby!
2006-10-19 15:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by blu_drgn25 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he will use the car as much as you will then yes he should contribute to the car. if he is not, well it would be nice of him to do so seeing that you two will but a "family unit" things should go 50/50 (all things in fact). in my house everyones money is put togeather as well as everyones bills, and every one gets a allowence of sorts. that way everyone is covered and all the bills get paid and all the "weight" is even on every one and no one person is carrying the bulk.
2006-10-19 15:15:17 · answer #7 · answered by shug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you both are going to be using it then yes and you have to think about if you guys break up bc it will be his car just as much as yours. But i do not think that it is wrong but if he does not want fork up the money then i would just limit the use of when he can use it and when he can not use it or just be like this it is your car and your responsiblity if you pay for it all then it will be all yours and he can not tell you how you can use your car but if he contributes to the payment then he could because it is both your car. So their is alot to think about. Contributing is up to you. wether you not he wants to but he does not have to.
But he should want to because it will help you out alot to get to appoints and things.
2006-10-19 15:08:10 · answer #8 · answered by knowssignlanguage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe he shoulld pay half of it to being though he is going to be using it. If he can't pay $2500 before may or june then he isn't ready for a baby cuz he is going to have to kick out even more then, that is until the baby can take care of it self when it grows up. If I were you I let his butt know!!!!!
2006-10-19 15:13:29 · answer #9 · answered by kiki 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he should help pay for the car even if he is not going to drive it due to the fact that your having his baby and you'll need a car to get around once the baby comes it would make it a whole lot easier for you and his baby ,if he says no why question would be just how much is he commit ed to you and this baby.
2006-10-19 15:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
More than half is too much to ask for. Just because you move in with him doesn't mean its half his too. (If you marry, different story). If he does not contribute half, do NOT put the title in his name too. If you ever break up, no legal settlements on the car. The best thing to do is just try to pay for it yourself and keep it in your name and your sisters name until you do (if she will let you). That way, if you can't pay for it, she still has the option to take it back.
2006-10-19 15:14:02 · answer #11 · answered by HOPINGIHELPED 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋