My boyfriend and I have been dating for a little under about 3 years and 90% of that time we've been living together, so we pretty much know everything about each other....not to mention our 15mth old daughter that we have together. The problem is, I'm ready to get married and I don't really think he is. Yeah he tells me all the time that pretty soon were gonna get married but he just doesn't know when. At this point I'm just about givin up, I'm really tired of waiting. I've even told him before that if he didn't make his decision then I was gone. So what should I do?
2006-10-19 14:44:49 · 8 answers · asked by Moody 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you really love him, you won't leave. That would leave him trashed and heartbroken. Don't try and pressure him into marrying you. You might eb ready, but he isn't, just give him time.
2006-10-19 14:49:10 · answer #1 · answered by KGB_Vampiric 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should he buy the cow, when he's gotten the milk for free?
Put it to him directly... "Dude, you've been stringing me along for _______... How long does it take to get married? Are you going to wait for your daughter to get married before you marry her mother?
I tell you what I'll do... I'll go down to the courthouse, get the necessary paperwork, fill out the applications and make the appointments for the blood test... I'll try to make it as EASY as I possible can for you. What do you say?
I can't take time off for a honeymoon... "Baby, we've been honeymooning long enough... It's past time for the wedding!!! You keep putting it off like you're magically going to have time to do one day..."
I think he's mastered the stalling tactics... Time for him to pee, poop, or get off the pot..
2006-10-19 14:54:10 · answer #2 · answered by James B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First I would examine your own feelings around marriage and decide if it is a make or break with you. If you cannot see the relationship going any further if he is not willing to make that committment, then you need to let him know that. I would present it in a non-threatening, non-ultimatum sort of way. Good luck
2006-10-19 14:49:13 · answer #3 · answered by JHelper 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey if you love him you wont just leave him becuz he wont marry you. He said that u guys will get married so just give him time to finish sort him self out , Maybe the wait will beneifit you in the long run.
2006-10-19 14:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Candy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you know what he is waiting for? His got his woman, he's got his child...are you not living together now? What is his holdup? After three years together and a child if he's not ready for marriage now, he probably wasnt ready for a child either. I'd start looking for a real man if I were you.
2006-10-19 14:50:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well he's with you, you're living together and raising a child together. If you leave him, then what will you have? You'll be single with your child and proberly angry for leaving the man you love. Stay with him. "If it ain't broke" Just give it time. If it's meant to be, then it will be.
2006-10-19 14:57:18 · answer #6 · answered by Renee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if things are going good and you have a kid and he does what he needs to do, why are you so bent on getting married. What difference does it make? Let things be and be happy with it.
2006-10-19 14:47:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it took five years for my husband to marry me and i think he might be scared to committing to the relationship. ask him why.
2006-10-19 14:51:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋