My friend and I have been good friends since seventh grade...and recently after most of our friends have gone to the career center, we've grown closer. I've been single so I could have some time to think about what I want, and I think I'm starting to like him...I dont know if I want to tell him, and risk our friendship over it (I know if he doesnt feel the same way things will be awkward between us and I dont want that) or if I should just tell him...
2006-10-19 14:27:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
at the worst he would just feel flattered, as long as you don't pursue for an answer. If he feels the same way he'll let you know right away, but he may want to sort his feelings out on the subject too and guys need space to do that so sometimes they do back off. Don't panic if that happens, it just means he's thinking about it. Keep acting like a friend meantime, don't feel pushed away, and things will either progress or go back to how they were.
2006-10-19 14:31:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take it slow. He is your best friend and maybe he wants to keep it that way. You should first find out what kind of girl he likes. Maybe have a few discussions on what he thinks about friendship turning into love. You don't want to jump the gun and lose the friendship to.
I could not stand the man I came to marry. He had a very hard time to get me to go out with him and he turned out to be the best friend that I fell in live with because he had the patience and was willing to find out what I realley wanted in a man.
Patience is your answer
2006-10-19 21:38:35 · answer #2 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think about it and know for sure. Once you say it, you can't take it back. If you are best friends you have a great chance of going on to a relationship but if that doesn't work, going back to friends is hard. Guys aren't all that hung up on it but once you start him thinking that way, the genie is out of the bottle. If he decides yes and you decide no that is kind of cruel.
2006-10-19 21:31:35 · answer #3 · answered by Steve M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say go for it! Be truthful with him. If you are unsure of your feelings then it may be nothing, but then again it maybe somthing. Many great relationships come from friendships that develop further in to romantic relationships they often make the best ones.
If he dosent feel the same way I sure that any akwardness will soon disappear.
Go for It
2006-10-19 21:33:08 · answer #4 · answered by dreson k 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very complicated situation to be in. First, ask your self does he like me as a girlfriend? If you THINK the answer is yes, then you have to think about what made you think that he likes you. What has he done or say to you to make you think that way.
If you think you are not sure he likes you, than you can start talking to him and your goal would be to get into his head and find out what he is looking for, if there is a who, than find out why that person.
A good way to get started on that is by starting a conversation like: “You have been single for a long time now, are you feeling ok”. You can play around with this statement and switch it around to sound like your playing but still asking a question. IF, he falls into it than you can ask questions like, “Why haven’t you been looking”, or “Is that person not paying attention to you”. During this conversation you can add comments like “your very good looking I don’t know why your are not dating” or “If I was a good looking as you are I would have been out there going crazy” Those questions give him an idea of what you think about him and maybe he will be the one trying to ask you. In other words tell him what you think about him during this conversation and make it seem like it is unbelievable for him to not to have a girlfriend being very cute, smart, whatever you think about him.
If all of the above does not work than make your self a victim. What I mean by that is to make up a story that this boy won’t go out with you and you have no idea why. Talk to him and than ask questions like Do you think I am ugly? Or if you were in his place would you go out with me? You can make all of this up to fit your situation.
If nothing works, than talk to him and let him know exactly how you feel about him and most important WHY you feel that way for him. Guys like to hear why they are being liked. Good Luck.
Al
2006-10-19 21:56:34 · answer #5 · answered by Al 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Test it out slowly. You might ask him out to lunch, see a movie, just feel him out (figuratively) and see if he responds to you in a positive way. If he seems responsive, start making moves. Grab his arm as you walk and see what he does. Put your head on his shoulder, and see what he does. Don't chicken out, and don't be afraid to ruin a friendship. If he's not interested, back off and continue to be friends.
2006-10-19 21:31:33 · answer #6 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think its a tough situation.
You value your friendship, but your starting to see him differently. I think you might want to tell him, but if it doesnt work out, your friendship is still the bedrock of your relationship.
2006-10-19 21:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by di12381 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i've had that. i'm in love with my best friend and he doesn't know it. i've been trying to figure out what i want to do, and i know i'm going to tell him. you should tell him becuase it feels awful to keep it in and plus, if he doesn't feel the same way, thenyou can havea chance to move on. if you get along well know, then chnces are it won't be wierd after.
2006-10-19 21:29:56 · answer #8 · answered by troubled 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I DONT THINK THAT U SHOULD DO IT B/C IF SOMETHING GOES BAD THEN YALL FRIENDSHIP WILL NEVER BE THE SAME.TRUST ME I KNOW!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-19 21:33:22 · answer #9 · answered by mawmaw 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just grab his tallywacker
2006-10-19 21:28:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋