Ok so my bf and i have been off and on for 5 years. we recently got back together like 2 months ago. his brother had a baby (5 months ago) and tonight they threw a special shower for the baby. i didnt even know about it until i asked my bf where he was going tonight. i'm so pissed that i wasnt invited. i feel like he doesnt care about me enough for me to be apart of the shower. how do i handle this? how mad should i be? i jus feel like crap right now!
2006-10-19 14:21:39 · 13 answers · asked by Jen W 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
hi hun
well maybe u weren't invited becausethe people didnt know u n him was back together
n that's a bit weired that u had to ask him where he was goin just before he left
cuz he didnt tell u
just talk to him but he'll probably say he forgot
2006-10-19 14:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by Katie P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember who the party's for - his nephew! The baby's parents are in charge of the guest list. It could have been a small family-only party or maybe he didn't feel comfortable bringing you or maybe he just didn't think to mention it. The point is that you'll never know until you ask. Yes, I understand that you feel hurt and excluded, but again, this wasn't his party and inviting you may not have been his decision. Good luck!
2006-10-19 21:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by Jemma 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are on and off, maybe your BF does not see you as a long-term part of his life. I think you have every right to be mad. You should have him explain himself. Why would a BF not invite his GF to a family gathering? Is he embarrassed to be seen with you? Is he just not interested in having you hang out with his family? You need answers, girl. Good luck!
2006-10-19 21:25:32 · answer #3 · answered by dante_cubit_3000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He was not the one that did the inviting. Maybe there are other family members that do not think that you are serious in the relationship.
Ask him nicely and if he hims and haws about it maybe you need to think about where your relationship is and where is it really going. Maybe the rest of the family doesn't see you ending up together.
2006-10-19 21:26:48 · answer #4 · answered by Angelus 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you feel bad but this family sounds screwy. I've never heard of a post birth baby shower for the baby. I wouldn't bother being mad.
2006-10-19 21:23:40 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't expect to be included in his family activities if your relationship has been off and on. He may not want to bring you in so close considering you may not be around next month. Marry him and you can get invited to everything.
2006-10-19 21:26:12 · answer #6 · answered by Brixton B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
You have all the right in the world to be pissed off at him, he should have told you about it... that's bullcrap that you wasnt invited, he obviously dont love you enough to tell you.
I would end the relationship
2006-10-19 21:26:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well that really depends on how much u wanna be with him n for how long? u hopin to build a strong long term relation? if that is the case i think ushould make him feel tha u wan it dat way + explain to him that what it means to u to be involved in his life as u wanna share evrything with him n wan him the same....u shud b alil upset cuz u r not sure what u really r to him?...ithink u lot need to get that clear n then there wll be no disappointments....
2006-10-19 21:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Fragrance 420 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE DID WHAT you should have bin invited if your his girlfriend he should have that's just not right so you should be really mad that's not right
vampire queen
2006-10-19 21:29:41 · answer #9 · answered by vampire queen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
that's bad...it means that you are not the girls he wants to marry and that's why you are not invited to family events. may he he does not want his family to know that you are back together, may be they did not like you ...
2006-10-19 21:24:31 · answer #10 · answered by Frenchie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋