My boyfriend and I have been going out for 2 years now. We're both in college and plain to get married after school . The problem is that I never met his paren'ts . I asked him and he said one day. I ask him why not now. He saids he doesn't like his family . How can I talk to him to let me meet them . And please dont be rude.
2006-10-19 14:15:54 · 14 answers · asked by kitty 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I know all his friends and he said it's not me . But someday I will meet them.
2006-10-19 14:19:31 · update #1
He met my whole family and They love him. Even my dad likes him and he hated my other ex's.
2006-10-19 14:21:34 · update #2
We were going to the movies in Tulare and he said he had to take his sister home. And now we can't go until tomorrow . I want to ask him that I can go with him , so it will be easy . But I dont know how to tell him.
2006-10-19 14:23:43 · update #3
He want's to have three kids with me. And have a great life.
2006-10-19 14:27:46 · update #4
Whatever you do, don't push. You'll only end up pushing him away and I know that's the last thing you want to do. There are so many reasons why he may not be introducing you to the family. Maybe they have a bad relationship and going there would be awkward for the both of you. Maybe he's afraid that you won't like his family, or if you get the impression that they don't like you that you may leave him fearing that one day you'll all be family. Ask him what happened and that you won't judge, you're just there to listen and help him get through this. Assure him that whoever they may be won't affect the way you feel for him whatsoever. Then wait. You'll meet eventually. And really, there's no rush since you're going to marry him and not his family. I hope this helped.
2006-10-19 14:24:15 · answer #1 · answered by lily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You must respect his wishes. When the time is right, he will introduce you but if he doesn't get along with them - you might not meet them. Think about if you really want to be with a person who doesn't get along with his family -- that is a red flag; a warning sign. Be wary!
2006-10-19 14:18:00 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
basically ask him why he doesn't like his family and explain that you are going to have to meet sometime, it is inevitable. then convince him to do it soon, like thanksgiving or christmas or something like that when family is supposed to be together anyway. this would lower the risk of there being a confrontation and would symbolically make you part of his family...its hard to bring up old grudges on thanksgiving and christmas...unless it has to do with football
best of luck to you, whatever happens
2006-10-19 14:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by CJT 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why he doesn't like you to meet his parents. Communication between couples is essential to a good, healthy relationship.
2006-10-19 14:18:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi hun
well if i was u i wouldn't worry about meeting his parents now
maybe something went on ages ago between him and his parents like a big argument or something like that and he dont want to talk about it
2006-10-19 14:19:09 · answer #5 · answered by Katie P 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seems like he may be ashamed of his family and their lifestyles. Just tell him you'd like to meet them and if he trys to avoid it, ask him to tell you what is wrong with meeting them. Ask him what causes him to dislike them.
2006-10-19 14:22:26 · answer #6 · answered by nobluffzone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
der must b a major reason y he does nt like his family.mayb hes imbarrased dat dey r poor,rude,drankerds or somethin like dat.i tink hes afraid dat u mite judge him accoding to his family.jus b patient da rite time wil come.jus knw dat he loves u.
2006-10-19 14:23:43 · answer #7 · answered by ignob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he have a good reason not too so don't push him for it try to find out the reason why he wont want to meet them
2006-10-19 14:22:34 · answer #8 · answered by salsa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should give him time untill he feels ready enough, because he knows his parents better than you,, there's maybe something he's not ready to face up with them yet.
2006-10-19 14:21:20 · answer #9 · answered by eve 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't like my family either and never introduce anyone I'm seeing to them. There's a reason why he doesn't introduce you to them - so leave it alone.
2006-10-19 14:18:01 · answer #10 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋