So Ive been "in love" with this guy since April, just 'cuase it seemed like he was the first guy to ever really give me a chance. He really seemed to love me && care && because I never had that feeling before I loved it. Well this guy is married with kids (Wrong on my part, I know. But he didnt tell me till later on) Well now hes having some problems with his family, yet him && his wife seem to be doing okay, so I get compltely ditched. I never though Id be one of those stupid ones to fall "in love" like this, but I did. Big time && now Im severly hurt && he dosent seem to care anymore, yet he says he still loves me. What do I do? Do I trust him, or try to move on. I can't handle this anymore, its ripping me into pieces. =(
2006-10-19 13:49:30 · 15 answers · asked by DiXiE DARLiNG 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Move on.
How can you trust someone that lied to you to begin with? He didn't tell you that he was married with children until the two of you had already become involved.
How do you know that he wouldn't do the same to you later on in life?
Have respect for yourself and for your fellow women and drop contact with this man. It will only be an emotional rollercoaster for you if you stay with him. And, you deserve better... you deserve to be with someone who can be fully for you... not someone that has a family and you're just the side girl.
2006-10-19 13:51:54 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First why u even having any thoughts about it. Soon as u find out that he's married u should of left him right on the spot. People like that they don't know what they want, they have problems with they wife's and they try to find somebody to be with. But when u the one who start fall in love they start to back up and try to tell u that: I will leave my wife for u and we be together, but trust me it's all BS nothing more. But then when he's gonna made up with his wife he will leave u and probably try to say to u that he still loves u and that u have to wait little bit till he's gonna brake up with his wife. Trust me don't believe that, please.
2006-10-19 14:13:07 · answer #2 · answered by Martini5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey. This is a pretty crappy situation to be in I can imagine. But no matter how insensitive and confusing this man was to you, you need to respect that he has a family. I know it must be extremely difficult to accept this, because I'm sure he acted perfect and he seemed like everything you'd ever wanted. It's his fault that he didn't tell you until later. That was awful of him. He seems pretty confused and messed up. My best advice would be to stay away from him and try your hardest to move on to somebody worth your time who you could have a serious future with. Best of luck.
2006-10-19 13:55:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's married. He's not going to leave his wife. You are the only one that is getting hurt from this situation. Allow yourself to feel pain for awhile because this relationship is never going to go away. Move on and heal fast. Good luck.
2006-10-19 13:53:33 · answer #4 · answered by Real Voice 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my child. let me share with you the knowledge I have gained with this same situation: He is going to stay with the wife and kids because it is SOOOOO expensive to get a divorce especially when kids are involved. Get out of the relationship, learn from this now before he REALLY hurts you and MOVE ON.
2006-10-19 13:54:29 · answer #5 · answered by kittykitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you,do not trust him any more try to move on he, used you to get what he wanted and now he, have ditched you, believe me you deserve more he has a wife basely you ,left in the cold dry your eyes don,t shed another tear.there,s something better for you, out there[ remember learn from this if he is married .he,s already taken he not going to leave his family. again you deserve better good luck iam so sorry you are hurting
2006-10-19 14:00:21 · answer #6 · answered by annjilena 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope don't trust him,he cheated on his wife and will never leave her,even if he did come back to you he would end up cheating on you also,give up on the loser and move on,there are plenty of fish out there and one has got to be right for you.get a grip on yourself and put him out of your head,stay busy till you find a new love.
2006-10-19 13:55:33 · answer #7 · answered by davec4real_02 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your choice if u stick w/ him or not. You must agree that married guys are really good in bed. protect yourself from getting pregnant while w/ him. Stay awhile until u find another one and until ur feelings for him cool off and die a natural death. Learn from your mistake.
2006-10-19 13:55:39 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
as hard as it is, you have to just break this thing off cold turkey. He's always going to have his loyalty to his family. He was so wrong to do this to you. You deserve better, you deserve 100% of someones heart. Just get out and don't look back.
2006-10-19 13:55:24 · answer #9 · answered by woohoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does the wife know? If she doesn't, then move on, because you really don't want to be in a huge cat fight!!!
2006-10-19 13:52:50 · answer #10 · answered by Alyssa L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋