If he/she is always negative about everything. Always wants things their way and then finds ways to criticizes you or your way of doing things. After the last criticism, I decided not to contact anymore. Was I wrong?
2006-10-19 13:44:18 · 40 answers · asked by Shotsie 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
The last criticism was so degrading and totally unnecessary. Served no purpose at all. Who's sick, me or that person?
2006-10-19 13:46:58 · update #1
You were absolutely right. In reality, a true friend wants the best for you and tries to find things to say that make you happy. I had a friend like you described and I finally realized that person was not really my friend. As the saying goes, with friends like that, who needs enemies. You may hate to dissolve the friendship but in the long run you will be way better off. The only other solution since you wouldn't have anything to lose would be to just come and tell them outright how you feel and if they don't change, walk and don't look back.
2006-10-19 13:48:54 · answer #1 · answered by SusieDarling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are in the religious section honey so I am going to point out a verse: Timothy 6:5
Perverse disputings of men of corrupt minds, & destitute of the truth, supposing that gain is godliness: from such withdraw thyself.
6 But godliness with contentment is great gain.
There's also another verse that say to separate ourselves from riotous company. I would do the same thing but AFTER I said something to try & help. Some negative people don't even/can't even realize the way the are, void to their own evil. If she can't see how unreasonable she is being, by all means, ABORT ABORT.
2006-10-19 13:50:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you did the right thing because all you need is more negative energy in your daily life,we have enough with the news media and life in general and this is not a friend that gives you that kind of grief to where you are doubting yourself as whether to resume the friendship let the miserable sod go around the corner you will meet a more positive friend that will appreciate having your friendship.
2006-10-19 13:48:23 · answer #3 · answered by aminuts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you sure he or is a friend? A true friend may have the right to criticize you if the purpose is to help you find the right things to what you are doing. If it is done with malice to put you down as a reason, then he is not a friend and you are not wrong for avoiding him.
2006-10-19 13:52:46 · answer #4 · answered by Rallie Florencio C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Doesn't sound like a friend I'd want to be around. I think this kind of "friendship" will only drag you down. Be gentle and accepting of this person, but let them know that you can't handle all the negativity all the time. Sounds like this person has a responsibility issue. Like not taking any (responsibility). Gently speak the truth to them and carry on. Never know, maybe that's what they needed.
If you don't gently confront them, anger will pent up inside and hurt the relationship anyway when it turns into resentment towards that person or maybe others. You don't have any control of what they do. You only have control of what you do, but don't keep it all inside.
2006-10-19 13:49:04 · answer #5 · answered by ScottyJae 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
A true friend don't think about their selves. They care about others, and is willing to sacrifice for their friend. The person may be depressed, and is taking it out on others. The person also sounds like they are jealous. No. When people are not being a true friend and just using you. That person is not a friend. Friends lift each other up, and are honest with each other. You don't need users.
2006-10-19 13:50:17 · answer #6 · answered by salvation 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have a friend that was just like this. In our english class last year, she was always so negative (it was the teacher, who wouldn't hate her?) Anyways, it killed her sense of awarenessness (I don't know if that's a word, but I mean like she didn't realize that she was being negative all the time). This year, she's so much nicer and easier to talk to. Maybe it's just their teachers. If not, I don't know.
EDIT
Yes, you were wrong for that.
2006-10-19 13:48:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No I don't think you were wrong. There was a woman I used to work with, she was terribly negative. I had to stop talking to her, it was a horrible experience, even though I tried to be her friend, it just pulled me down time and again...so I understand.
2006-10-19 14:02:50 · answer #8 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no but heres a clue. If a person makes you angry they are trying to control you. If you feel anoyed than they want your attention. If you feel hurt then they are exacting revenge on you for what you did or what someone else did. So when deciding how to treat someone you now have a tool.
2006-10-19 13:50:49 · answer #9 · answered by icheeknows 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right in not contacting them anymore. Sometimes the most loving thing you can do for someone is to stay away from them.
2006-10-19 13:55:51 · answer #10 · answered by Midge 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋