If a man and women are in a serious relationship and for no reason he starts looking at porn instead of making love to his partner, is this cheating? even when the women has expressed to him how hurtful it is!
2006-10-19 13:11:52 · 36 answers · asked by ros_0123 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Sweetie, get outta there. A man with the characteristics he has is not cut out for a decent relationship. Not just the porn issue, but the idea he would do it even though he knows it hurts you speaks volumes. You will not get an improvement on this relationship, it will get worse, unless some counseling happens, but even then there is a chance that there is something very wrong here.
I feel for you, I have been there. Be good to yourself, tell the Universe, (God, Jesus...whomever is your higher power) for help so you can get through mourning him (funny, but the nasty guys are the ones we seem to want the most, at least until we learn some self esteem). What I found out about me when I was with cheating men was that in retrospect, I attracted only that kind! When I got busy and started working on myself, I have attracted the most fabulous man. And listen, no woman, or man deserves that. I am Dana @dankesheon@yahoo.com. Please write me if you would like a person to talk to, I have a few experiences in this life, and could help. Good luck, and remember, once this starts, you are not going to be able to "fix" it. Oh, and if you are into labels, yes, it is cheating.
2006-10-19 13:21:42 · answer #1 · answered by Life's a journey.... 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Cheating is breaking promises about a relationship. If your partner specifically says that they don't want you to watch porn, then yes, it is.
2016-05-22 03:31:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There will be a divergence of opinion between men and women in answering your question. I'm a woman, and I think men just don't understand how hurtful pornography can be. It has broken up many marriages. It can easily escalate into an addiction. Pornography has nothing to do with healthy sexuality, which is an expression of love between a man and a woman. Sexuality without its necessary emotional and spiritual components is meaningless. Porn seems "mainstream" to a lot of men who don't realize how insidiously destructive it is.
Stand your ground and continue to express how hurtful his behavior is.
2006-10-19 13:19:49 · answer #3 · answered by ragged 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i wouldnt consider it cheating, hes not having sex with the women in the porn. Just make love to him and he'll stop looking at that knowing that you are better than that crap. Or tell him if he wants to be in a relationship tell him it hurts you to see him looking at porn and it makes u feel like you are not giving him enough. GL!
2006-10-19 13:15:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not cheating....men like porn and so do some of us women....Whats the big deal,,,,at least hes not out looking to cheat on you for real right? Men are visual and perves by nature...i know my man loves porn,,,but im not going to stop him because i look at it too once in awhile. I think you are worrying for nothing. Maybe you should join him and watch it with him,,,,you might get the benefits after hes done looking at it. Let your freaky side come out because i know you have one,,we all do.
2006-10-19 13:17:11 · answer #5 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not cheating, its hurtful. She may feel unattractive cuz you insist on looking at porn. Ask her what she doesn't like about it. Tell her that it makes you laugh because of the dialog or the music they play. Find out what bothers her and go from there. And there's definitely nothing wrong with it, if you don't get caught.
2006-10-19 13:25:58 · answer #6 · answered by Keymay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are several ways to look at this phenomenon.
First of all, I don't beleive that it is cheating. Looking at porn doesn't offer the opportunity of physical interaction.
I don't understand why looking at porn is hurtfull to you.The man is probably just trying to satisy a craving for variety without actually commiting adultery.
2006-10-19 13:20:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not really cheating-but if it is changing the amount and quality of couple time he spends with her- that's a problem.
It's natural for some people to be interested in porn. But generally it wouldn't have an impact on the physical relations with their spouse.
Maybe you could ask her if she would be offended to watch porn with him? Many couples do that.
2006-10-19 13:15:31 · answer #8 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Do you feel ike its cheating? Does it hurt your partner? If the answer is yes to either of those questions is yes, then its cheating.
It depends on the type of agreement and relationship you have. Some relationships involve both people looking at pornography together.
2006-10-19 13:19:41 · answer #9 · answered by pegasis 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Okay there is a difference between watching it together, then him watching because he would rather watch that instead of being with her. Thats bad. I think that if she has told him how she feels that If he doesnt stop she needs to leave. Because serious relationships, If they actually are serious need to have open communication and honesty. as well as being respectful to both of the couples needs.
2006-10-19 13:21:26 · answer #10 · answered by lil_frosty93654 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋