Women often say it's cheap or rude for a guy to use a coupon on a date. But you tell me which one is being cheap/rude:
A woman who isn't paying anything and complains about how the guy pays for her, or,
A man who is generous enough to pay for a woman's meal but uses a coupon to save money.
I think it's the woman who is in the wrong, not the man. She's getting paid for and she still complains, because he didn't pay for her in the right way!
What do the rest of you think?
2006-10-19 13:08:04 · 26 answers · asked by john 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I don't think it's rude- I think it's smart.
2006-10-19 13:09:23 · answer #1 · answered by Mommyk232 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If you (or she) believe(s) that the financial responsibilities of a relationship are more the guy's responsibility, then no. But if you think that gender equality means equal economic contribution in a relationship, then yes. Women do make money, just not as much as their male counterparts despite having the same educational level and experience. If the woman says that she is all about "women's rights" yet when it comes time to pick up the tab she can't because she's a "lady" or has other selfish economic motivations, then she's both cheap and a hypocrite.
2016-03-28 01:57:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Possibly, the women that say it is cheap are not that interested in the guy to begin with, so they read into the use of a coupon as reason to think that the guy is tight with money and/or that for some strange reason that her going out with him (her being the beautiful and great person that she is with many other options) should only be the worth full price for the meal.
That's what you get for using the left side of your brian.
2006-10-19 13:31:27 · answer #3 · answered by dj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay the reason that a woman may construe a coupon as cheap is because it looks like you chose the restaurant because you got a discount. A woman wants to feel like she is special, and when you take her out and use a coupon you are making the statement that she wasn't worth the extra expense. Obviously, once you're in a long term relationship you can start to whip the coupons out, but in the beginning that is just a big social faux pas! I am sure you can find a woman who may not mind coupons, but most will honestly take offense and may not call you back. Its your decision whether you want to change or not.... hope this helps
2006-10-19 13:18:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What? Whoever said that? I've had women take me out using coupons, and I never thought a thing of it--except that they were smart enough to know how to save a dollar. I often pay on dates, but occasionally, the women want to pay, and I certainly have no problem with their using coupons if they do. I've never heard of anybody belittling coupon usage during dates, but if they do, then they need to have their head examined. These are expensive times, and thrift should be encouraged. The women I date tend to be quite sensible, and wouldn't have any problem with my using coupons. Then again, I don't date gold-diggers to begin with. Common sense dictates that when a person can save money, they should. If somebody were ever petty enough to openly complain to me about such a thing, you can guarantee there'd be no second date forthcoming.
2006-10-19 13:12:47 · answer #5 · answered by solarius 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You make financial sense but that's not what she's looking at. The fact that you are useing a coupon while on a date means that you probably won't be the guy that treats her lavishly. You're probably not going to take her on a last minute getaway and you'll never say "nothings to good for you honey".
Some women appreciate a man with good fiscal sense. Most don't.
2006-10-19 13:14:30 · answer #6 · answered by Cain 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
For some reason, the majority of women in our society measure their self worth by how much a man will spend on them. Therefore, if a man uses a coupon during their date, women think he's saying she's not worth the regular price.
In this day and age, women need to start relying on men to take care of them financially and standing strong on their own.
2006-10-19 13:11:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I'm going out with a guy, I'll always try to bring a coupon with (if I can find one) to save him money. I don't think coupons are cheap at all, I think they are smart. Why spend money on something you could use a coupon for, there are many other things that money could go for!
2006-10-19 13:11:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think you are right. Times are changing and women are battling to be equals to men. Then why don't they take men out once and awhile? For what reason can you justify the rule of the man taking the check now that women are out of the kitchen and working with the men? I'm sure this will show womens true side. They want to castrate all the men, and train them like dogs.
2006-10-19 13:12:32 · answer #9 · answered by Slappin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dang. If a guy used a coupon out on a date with me, I'd probably have proposed to him right there on the spot. There's nothing wrong with saving $.
It's really a good strategy to do that, if you ask me. That way you can weed out all of the superficial, high-maintenance girls and fine one with a decent head on her shoulders.
2006-10-19 13:15:43 · answer #10 · answered by farmgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
OOOOH THAT'S AWFUL. You used a coupon. That's cold.
Next time excuse yourself from the table,find your server and give her/him the coupon,away from the eyes of your date.
This way she doesn't think you are cheap.
This way you can save money and your reputation.
2006-10-19 13:38:33 · answer #11 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋