My friend's wife hangs around with her friends too much. Like on Saturday or Sunday when he wants her to stay with him or go out for dinner or somewhere she says no and brings her friends home. What should he do? He loves her. He is not a boring guy. He is cool and attracts a lot of girls. But he loves her and she says she loves him. He says he can't live without her.
I know friends are important but should there be a limit. How much time do you think a woman should spend with her friends compared to the time spent with her husband.
2006-10-19 13:04:41 · 12 answers · asked by Mr Business 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i dont think she loves him as much as he loves her. she needs to stop turning him down for her friends. its rude and if this kept happening enough. i'd ask for a divorce.
2006-10-19 13:07:57 · answer #1 · answered by stapler and coffee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends shouldnt go away after the vows - i wish my hubby would go out snd have an occasional coldie w/ the boys. He does this 1x every decade, literally. He could go oftener with my blessing. But OCCASIONALLY is the operative word. If you cannot find yout brlde for the crowd, you are not the priority you should be. Talk to her, but first take personal inventory,,,Are you still basically the prince charming u were on that wonderful day of days when 2became 1...Maybe you could use a little work in the reationship thing too.
If you are still Mr Wonderul, then suggest counsfllig-failimg that, it msy be time 2 move on
good luck
2006-10-19 20:38:00 · answer #2 · answered by motown_annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to sit her down and explain exactly how he feels. He should tell her that he wants her back in his life and that he loves her and would like to spend some time with her. After all, she is his wife and she didn't get married to her friends. He should let her know what hurts him and inside and he should also hear her out, she just might have a genuine reason for doing all this.
I suggest he plans a romantic surprise dinner, rose petals, soft music, the whole works, dinner for TWO only.. In the middle of the dinner, he should tell her how he feels and hopefully, she'll be sensible enough to understand him an dthat night, you never know, they could proceed to the bedroom and..............BOOM!..A baby could be made :)
I might be nothing at the end of the day but it's better to be paranoid than to keep it in and cause yourself heart ache. If he can't do it, maybe you should have little chat with her on his behalf.. but i think it's best if he does it himself...
Good luck!
2006-10-19 20:16:48 · answer #3 · answered by Natasha O 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thinkhes too good for her. SHe should be with her husband more of the time than with her friends. She sounds like she shouldnt even be married at this point in her life. I really feel bad for him. Unfortunaltey there is nothing you can do for him if he says he loves her and doesnt want to leave her. But inhis own time he might get sick of it,,and leave her anyways. Just continue being his friend,,,,he will learn about her sooner than later. Isnt that the way it always goes?? grrrrrr
2006-10-19 20:09:40 · answer #4 · answered by michelle 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While it's certainly alright to spend some time away from each other, I LOVE spending time with my boyfriend and would PREFER to spend time with him first... Since your friend has already voiced his preference for her to spend time with him on certain days/nights, if she really cared and loved him, she would respect his wishes. As long as he's allowing her some time with her friends, she should put him first. Otherwise, what's the point of being a couple?
2006-10-19 20:09:35 · answer #5 · answered by Kelela 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if thats the case, then he should go out and do the same thing so that he will keep his mind off of her all the time. Him staying at home just thinkin about her or whenever she is not around him , that will make him lose his mind. So he should get out as well.
2006-10-19 20:10:03 · answer #6 · answered by Gabbrielle S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know you are concern but the best thing is for him to accept her ways,or it is up to him to put a halt to it. if he doesn't want to, i guess he is afraid to lose her, if he can't handle it anymore, he is the only one to demand it from his wife. im just worried cause if her friend is not a good influence on her, she might lose what is best for her. are they young and newlywed? he needs to talk to her and find out if there is a problem with their relationship if she can't stay with him during the weekend. what is her friend, are they married as well? if not, maybe they are trying to find some body and that is not right for her to tag along. that will mess up her married life, sometimes friend is bad influence for someone who is married and the other one is not, they usually envy her luck, maybe your friend is a good catch and they are trying to mess that up.
if you are close to him, do not handle this on your own, unless you are ready for the innuendo from the wife. usually they think you wanted him bad so you always meddle on their affair. if you care a lot for your friend, just be there when everything fall apart.
or maybe suggest that he should push himself to be with her and her friend, maybe that will do the trick..
2006-10-19 20:18:44 · answer #7 · answered by salome 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
friends are important. But they should agree to friend's time between them. Friends are important but they need to be in balance. Is he giving up his friends for her? Maybe he needs to organize HIS free time with hers' but it sounds like they need to talk about it.
2006-10-19 20:12:28 · answer #8 · answered by cyberdjunk69 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They have to come to a compromise. Her husband comes first, then left over time should go to them.
2006-10-19 20:07:26 · answer #9 · answered by barbie2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everybody needs time with friends but the relationship should always come first!
2006-10-19 20:10:46 · answer #10 · answered by lukesbubby 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋