everyone says he has never acted like this before and he says he wants to marry me but he has time limits on it hes 26 and im 22...he said to me the other day that he would give me one child of course after we were married even though he has always said he didnt want children but why wont he propose he makes plenty of money but there are still things he said he wants to accomplish before making a family? what should i believe?
2006-10-19 12:45:48 · 27 answers · asked by lovelife 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he might have suggested for small family. if every thing goes well, it is a good combination.
2006-10-19 12:49:20 · answer #1 · answered by prince47 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all don't listen to what his family of friends has to say about your relationship. What they think or say doesn't matter. It's about the two of you. So what if he's never acted this way before.
If he says he wants to marry you then he's telling the truth. Men don't just talk about marriage. Women do not men.
He'll propose when the time is right. Meanwhile, don't pressure him. You will come off as needy and he'll rethink this whole marriage thing.
You have only been living together for a month. It may take 5 or 6 more months. Be cool, it'll happen.
2006-10-19 19:55:47 · answer #2 · answered by Inez 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should believe HIM. Of course he wants to accomplish things before starting a family. He wants to have something of his own, whether it's a career, a college education, a house, whatever, travel the world, whatever. He wants live his life a little bit before dedicating everything to a family. Totally understandable. That doesn't mean that he doesn't want to be with you, or that he wants to play the field. He's probably just trying to enjoy the relationship that he has with you now, before marriage. It should be an exciting and positive time for both of you. Eventually you'll be engaged, and that will be great too, as will marriage. But don't rush past all the other good parts of being together, like the good things you have with him right now. There's no race, so don't cheat yourself out of what you've got in the here and now.
2006-10-19 19:50:48 · answer #3 · answered by fruitnroo 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
26 is still very young for a man to propose, especially in today's society. If you love him, believe him when he says that he will marry you, just not right now. If you rush him into something, he may have doubts about making the right choice. He will be happier when he comes to this in his own time. Anyway, living together is basically being married without the tax benefits. If you love him, you can trust him to marry you when he's ready.
2006-10-19 19:53:44 · answer #4 · answered by the cat who went to heaven 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe this; you made a mistake moving in with him. Now he's getting what he wants without having to propose or buy a ring!
You've been had!
You didn't fall in love, you fell in LUST. Yeah, it feels real good and is a lot of fun, but it holds many dangers.
It's too soon for a proposal, anyway. Maybe in 6-8 more months.
2006-10-19 19:51:30 · answer #5 · answered by seeitmiway32 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I could understand your predicament. You moved with with him just for the sake that you love him- that's why even deep inside you- you want him to marry you, right? But the thing is, and keep this in mind that getting married and involving yourself to the whole of it took so many factors to consider. Its not only money, I suppose your boyfriend is not yet ready for marriage and raising a family for him is a great responsibility. So he was making sure of himself as well as his plans. I just hope that you just trust him, if you say so that you feel he really loves you. You just have to show him that you really love him, never push him to do/ decide things. Just continue, so as he would finally decide that you're the one and he would regret the whole of his life if he would not marry you!
2006-10-19 19:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by alutiitz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a decent guy. He seems to be the planner type. He had a specific plan of setting up his life a certain way before getting married. You are young and you shouldn't be in such a rush to propose and all that anyway.
2006-10-19 19:54:22 · answer #7 · answered by acvader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will "GIVE" you "ONE" Child..after you are married!!!! How generous of him. Tell him to hit the road. You will be doing and awful injustice to your future child. That child will pick up on the fact that this man never wanted children. Don't you want better than that. I'm sure you deserve it. You sound like a very nice person. Good Luck
2006-10-19 19:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by Leslieopmd 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What's the rush? If you guys have only known each other for a few months but are already living together, it already means that you are in a serious committed relationship. Now is the time to get to know each other better and enjoy each other company. If you are going to spend the rest of your life together, what's a couple of years before making a lifetime commitment?
2006-10-19 19:49:54 · answer #9 · answered by Oh, well! 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should have worked all that out before you moved in with him. As long as you are sleeping together, you could get pregnant. If he really loved and respected you, he would have married you before you moved in together. All he sees you as is a cheap thrill. Some guys would pay big money for that.
2006-10-19 19:48:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really cool that you've found someone you can see yourself with forever. But, you've only known eachother two months, and I think it would be best to wait. There's no /need/ to get married so what's the rush? Obviously with you he can see children in his future, but as I said - it's only been two months give it time. I wouldn't expect someone to propose after such a short period.
Maybe he really likes you, that's why he's changing.
2006-10-19 19:49:46 · answer #11 · answered by leaysa 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋