i am a college student and there is a young hs sohpomore who is in love with me... he's emotionally unstable and has a lot of issues when it comes to love. at first i felt sorry for him so i talked to him a lot. i helped him with his problems and issues... and he started liking me... a lot... he would get jealous if im talking to other guys and it bothered me just a bit. one day he threw a fit... and DEMANDED i stop talking to a certain someone.. i didn't want him to do something crazy so i stopped... and i started to talk to him a lot... i grew a liking to him and he grew in love with me... but now i want to get away from that... i want it to stop... i don't want to hurt him so i stopped talking to him. but he leaves me msg telling me he'll always love me and that he's really hurting and wants me to come back... i can't... i can't deal witht his anymore and i don't want him to do something stupid... i just want him to get over me... what should i do? please help?
2006-10-19 12:44:15 · 5 answers · asked by -s1ghs- 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
the big problem is that i've already told him i just want to be friends... and he agreed to this... but then he kept leaving me messages telling me he'll keep loving me... and the messages continued everyday.... i want to help him but i don't love him... i want to be friends but he's making it hard by suffocating me with his love... he's still young and i don't think he truly understands that yet... im not puttin him down for his age but.. *sighs* i don't want him to depend on me... i want him to move on... cause i need to move on too...
2006-10-19 17:04:29 · update #1
Getting close to someone because you feel sorry for them is always a bad idea, for you and for them, so I'm glad you are deciding to get out before it's too late (I learned this lesson the hard way).
Just be plainspoken with him, tell him openly that this is getting out of hand. He will probably get upset, but there isn't anything you can do about that. He is going to have to learn to be emotionally mature, and you can't fix him. You can only be nice to him. But letting his emotional immaturity control you, or giving in to him because of it, is a very bad idea. All it does is reinforce his behavior, and encourage him to keep it up. He will never get better as long as you make it easy for him to be immature. But, it seems like you are already realising this, so good job :)
As I said- just tell him and be nice about it, but also plain about it. Talk about it with him if you need to, but don't let yourself give in to him, and don't try to sugar coat what you say to him. Then, it is up to him if he wants to take the oppertunity to grow up, but at least you will be giving that to him.
2006-10-19 13:16:56 · answer #1 · answered by The Link 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will must be blunt with him. Sometimes, you simply cannot be high-quality to humans, you already know? They will take your kindness in your weak spot, and use it to their abilities. Don't play with him--he has the tendancies to be a stalker! Tell him up entrance and within the uncooked that you do not like/love him. I recognise you do not desire to be imply, however you quite should not have a alternative.
2016-08-31 23:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to report to college physiologist or the dean of students. He needs professional help and try you best to avoid him. Do not talk to him because nothing you can say to help the situation.
2006-10-19 12:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Disha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm do all girls hav to be the same way... ? do they always hav to break the heart of the boy they love? my best frnd also did the same thing to me ...mayb she did like me.. but jus think abt it... y wudn't u wanna b wwith him? ask ur inner self.. u r much better off wit him cuz u know he luves u and he is crazy about u...
advice:
if u reali wanna get over him... then one day u should leave him a mssg saying " (name) i jus wanna b frnds wit u ... i reali did not wanna hurt ur feelings, tht's y i tld u tht i like u... but i actually don't.. so i guess v shud jus b frnds plz... u hav all the reasons in the world to b mad at me now but plz... i m so so srry ... ughh this is not gonna work out.. but plz try to understand " this mssg will break his heart.. he will cry and mayb he will hate u 4ever.. but jus think abt it... do u want to......cheat on ur luv jus cuz he's younger than u? anyways... gud luk!
2006-10-19 12:51:14 · answer #4 · answered by prabhat v 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him you are a lesbian
2006-10-19 12:51:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋