I know it's wrong but the temptation is too much to resist, What should I do?
2006-10-19 12:42:25 · 65 answers · asked by Lu Chee Bye 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hopefully you don't have any kids because then they are going to be adversly affected by the traumatic events which will follow your affair.
First, you are going to need to make a decision. Who do you want to spend the rest of your life with? Your husband or this new neighbor. I'm wondering if you are living on a base in which case that would mean you are having an affair with one of his brethren in the service or with a servicewomans husband.
Next, you are going to have to decide whether or not your husband is going to leave you when you tell him, regardless if you want to stay with him or not. Chances are he'll probably leave you over it. Hopefully he loves you enough to forgive you but then again he's been away and one of his biggest fears aside from dying is probably whether or not you'll be faithful to him. Unless of course the fellow trust you...in which case I feel really bad for him.
You aren't going to hear many people supporting you in this. But I will say that if you want to be happy you are going to have to make the decision. You can't live the rest of your life with the guilt of cheating on your husband...so you are either going to have to tell him and leave him for another man...or tell him and pray he forgives you. You'll have to go through a long process of regaining his trust and it'l be tough if you stay together but there is a reason you got together in the first place.
If you leave him then at least you are doing him the favor of not spending the rest of his life with someone he can't trust and someone that is not faithful. Someone who would rather be with other men then him.
I hope you make the right decision. Personally I think you should cut it off with the neighbor and pray your husband forgives you. I'm betting that a man honorable enough to serve his country will find the reserve to give you one more chance. Be strong and do the right thing.
2006-10-19 12:50:56 · answer #1 · answered by Bonecrusher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The army has family counseling for just this problem. Start going now and when you husband comes home (if he comes home) start going with him. In the mean time you may think about moving to some place else so you will not have this temptation close by. This is wonderful isn't it. The "family values" party starts a war and the first thing that gets hurt are military families. Wouldn't be so bad if they had not lied their way into a war.
2006-10-19 12:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by Carlos D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt lie to your husband. Why did you get married first of all. You knew that he will probably be going away sooner or later. I would figure out what i want for myself. If you love your husband i would stop the affair you are having and tell your husband once he is back, or not. It depends how long is the affair and how you think he will react. If you think he will freak out and leave i wouldnt tell him, but stop an affair as soon as possible. On the other hand, if you have the same or more feelings for your neighbor then you married the wrong person.
Good luck.
2006-10-19 12:47:47 · answer #3 · answered by sandy02 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to decided if you want to be married or single. If you can't handle the lonely part of being a military wife, then you should let your husband go (divorce) because he really deserves a faithful woman and apparently your not happy either. You need to find someone that is not away a lot. Do some soul searching and figure out what it is you truly want, make a decision and stick with it.
2006-10-19 12:47:24 · answer #4 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
End it. What will happen when your husband comes home? It easy to say, "we will just end it" but most people who have an affair have a hard time ending the relationship and then your feelings are involved.
2006-10-19 12:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You made your bed, now you sleep in it.
We reap what we sow
Not even a hint of regret from you.
I am tempted to believe that you instigated the affair.
"Couldn't resist" my a s s.
You see a good looking man and you immediately wonder what it would be like to get into his pants.
If you think I am being too harsh on you, it's nothing compared to how you've betrayed your husband who's risking his life for your freedom...Oh well, I can't honestly judge you...but there are others who would love to "pull the train" on you. Good luck
2006-10-19 12:44:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
First close your legs and leave your neighbor alone. Find an activity that will not be harmful to your marriage. Find a support group on base for wives of deployed soldiers. When you feel lonely write to your HUSBAND. Remember the man you promised to be faithful too.
2006-10-19 12:45:43 · answer #7 · answered by lady01love 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is your objective. Are you trying to demoralize the guys in Iraq. If someone was having an affair I doubt if they would put it on Yahoo. People normally say liberals support terrorist, if the foo sh**s wear it.
Boy, liberals and ncons could get together on this one.
2006-10-19 12:49:11 · answer #8 · answered by Ned 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know there are a lot of single women out there. Not by choice. Like the old saying goes ( man shortage, all around the world) Its women like you who tie up good men and do not honor them.
You should be ashamed of yourself!
2006-10-19 12:48:14 · answer #9 · answered by triniqueen40 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, take a step back and re-evaluate the situation. If you really love your husband and plan on staying with him, you are going to eventually tell him about this. Is the fun worth losing your husband for?
2006-10-19 12:45:08 · answer #10 · answered by Brandy W 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋