and would you lose respect if you did? even if it became a long term relationship?
2006-10-19 12:40:34 · 33 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Depends. If sex is your objective, then why not?
Let's be honest with ourselves at least. A girl wants it just as much as a man.
I have, I would, and "respect" does not enter into it.
This does not mean every date has to end with sex. But if it leads to sex, and I want it, then I won't stop it.
2006-10-19 13:03:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it depends on who you are dating it could be your bestfriend and a long term relationship that doesn't say you lost respect because of sleeping with him right? well this is somehow a bias question because I do believe that sleeping with someone on the first date is yeah a little bit too far maybe disrespectful but as long as you know the person you are dating with is liable and decent and loves you for who you are if not a long term relationship well that is something serious to think about you know so be it and know exactly the partner. If it is just a friendly date well then no because you may lose respect of that friend and maybe betrayed the friendship. likewise someone who really cares about how or who they want to be with for me I won't have slept with a guy for a first date. All you have to do is know your limits and be who you are if u feel that sleeping with someone on the first date is wrong then hey you can change if it has already happened. If not go ahead if he feels comfortable being with you and that you are ready. Good luck
2006-10-19 15:37:42 · answer #2 · answered by Shirley l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you drop your pants for someone on the first date it doesn't mean that it's going to be romance of the century. It depends on what you're after. If all you're after is a quick shag and both of you know this then I don't see the harm. I can only speak from personal experience and that I actually felt quite liberated after a one night stand I had once! I always thought I'd feel quite crappy afterwards but I felt in control and liberated. I actually got up and did a runner before he woke up the next morning! Sex doesn't have to be all deep and meaningful all the time - it can be about losing yourself in a moment and if you both enjoy yourselves then why should you feel guilty? As for respect, I think if it's just an occasional thing then there's nothing wrong with it at all. USE PROTECTION THOUGH!!!!!
2006-10-19 13:26:02 · answer #3 · answered by Helen B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends sometimes i wouldn't lose any respect but i think it can be harder to have a lasting relationship if you do.
in a relationship you need to be able to communicate, be friends and spend time with each other. You cant have sex all day long at least not for ever.
when a relationship is based on sex i don't feel you have the interests and companionship that a long term relationship needs.
2006-10-19 20:46:25 · answer #4 · answered by stud200_uk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not I like to know that person first. but each one of us got different view in this situation. and definitely would not make you lose respect to yourself if you did. perhaps you feel your date was the right one for you and you both have love and feel happy with it it can be a good start of a long term relationship. just be careful.
2006-10-19 22:50:12 · answer #5 · answered by whitetiger 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally- I would not sleep with someone on the first date as, I beleive that my body is a temple. Anyone wanting to enter my temple must to worthy!! I would need to know the person and this for me would take more than a night. Besides when you get it all over and done with, what is there to look forward to? It all boils down to what you feel is right and what is wrong. But if my son came home and told me he slept with a girl on his first date, I would not only be questioning him but also her morals, and self-worth. I think you need to connect to a person on more than just a sexually level. Whatever you do decide to do, just make sure that you are safe!
2006-10-19 13:02:11 · answer #6 · answered by fire 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would never on the first date. I know plenty of people who have though. Guys like a challenge so if you're looking for a long term relationship, don't be in such a hurry. You're worth the wait!!!
2006-10-19 13:03:00 · answer #7 · answered by Ree 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It takes two to tango, I guess it depends on the 2 of you.
I don't see how a bloke can lose respect for a girl for this.
Frankly those that do, never had any respect for you in the first place, or for themselves!
2006-10-19 14:14:32 · answer #8 · answered by scrambulls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I would not sleep with someone on the first date but Im not judging people who do. Many people sleep with their first dates but if you are going to do it just make sure thats what you want if you have doubts about it you probably should not do it because then you will probably regret it. Its all based on your feelings and your values. I value love and romance som value sex and if sex is what you are looking for I would say go for it but if you value love I'd say wait a liittle while longer.
2006-10-19 12:46:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would if we had a really good connection. If i am feeling the person on a intellectual level and there is strong chemistry, you better believe that the clothes are coming off. I would be able to respect her because i am very hard to resist.
2006-10-19 12:44:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋