my son is 9 and he will come in my room at night and get on my bed and start jamming my foot in his dick. i dont know why. he also wanted to help change my one year old girls diaper so he did and he started yanking at his penis and moaning. when he's i ntheb athtub, he'll take his bathtoys or something and ill hear him moaning and groaning. he'll even be at the dinner table and start using his fork or spoon! he moans and i ask him what hes doing and says "it feels really good,mom" the last thing i caught him doing was sitting on our chihuha humping it! i dont know what to do!
2006-10-19 12:40:11 · 23 answers · asked by Rebecca S 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
GOOD LORD.
PLEASE TAKE THIS VERY SERIOUSLY.........
your child may be a victim of child molestation or abuse.......
PLEASE GET HIM ATTENTION AS SOON AS POSSIBLE.
2006-10-19 12:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by debi_0712 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
lol. Well I guess he has figured out the secret to masturbating. But using a fork and spoon is very peculiar. Well the best I can tell you is to sit him down and tell him that it is okay to masturbate but tell him to do it quietly and in private. That is really the only thing that I can think of that would work. Although I do think that humping your dog is strange it doesn't meen that he has been molested or abused he is probably just expiramenting with different things.
Oh yeah and you asked this question a while back and you were given this answer. I really don't think that it is a bad answer. Kids sometimes do figure out how to masturbate really early.
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this stuff about kids starting to masturbate because they were molested or exposed to porn is a bunch of bullshit.
I started very early, just discovered it and figured out that it gave me pleasant feelings that nothing else would give me. It became an adiction in my teen years, inspite of all the guilt and being told to not do it.
I now have a 5 yr old girl that has been doing it off and on for a long time (since she was like 2). There was no sexual abuse or molestation. Our kids are with us almost 100% of the time (at least they were at that age). I have 3 kids, only 1 does it. She happens to be WAY ahead of her age group mentally and physically.
Whatever you do, know this. Guilt will not work. Neither will punishment. Unfortunatelly I don't know what would work as I would like to know so I can help my kid.
The fact is that once they discover those feelings (and I remember them being 100 times more intense then than sex is now for me), all they know is that it feels good and it helps them cope with stress. You will notice that a kid does it more when they're stressed. When I was happy and busy it wasn't as much of a problem.
Just think about it, you're upset or worried about things or you're not feeling good, but you've got this thing you could do to cause your body to be flooded with powerful hormones that make it feel good.
I think the best way to deal with it at this age is to give them lots of activity. They need a way to release stress. Being cooped up in a house, being bored out of their mind is not good. but some sports or taking them places where they can really get things out of their system. I think that will help.
2006-10-19 12:43:47 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
My son is 3 and is in the back of on his conversing besides. Medically you are able to have his listening to examined purely incase...yet maximum possibly he's purely great. My son nonetheless doesnt rather say senteces...purely words. he will catch up. And by ability of how my nephew is popping 2 and is already greater progressed than my son...All little ones are diverse dont hassle plenty.
2016-10-02 11:42:10 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
omg r u serious!? were did he learn this stuff i'm 14 i'm a girl tho and i didnt know anything about u know like sex or that u could even touch ur private parts and that it would feel good....i guess him hormones r just working fast very fast lol...ya i think its wrong what he was doing 2 his sister ya dont let him do anything 2 her and tell him not 2 hump the chihuha! lol i guess he's learning how 2 masturbate well dont u rather for him 2 do that then 2 go and have sex w/ some girl? ya well good luck w/ ur son
2006-10-19 12:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Rebecca , that is absolutly inappropriate behavior no matter the age. to go as far as moaning and the gestures he has obviously seen it or heard it . is there a male person in ur life? NO BLAME ON YOU , these days the people you have trust in the most are the ones who befriend ya. you cant go to special svs. without being put to blame b4 they even look outside of the 'family circle'. i would have a talk with him,u know 'the t a l k '.......maybe he will talk. best of luck. ps my daughter did the same thang around that age . maybe me too.
2006-10-19 13:01:54 · answer #5 · answered by hippchic 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Try calling your physician and explaining these symptoms. Although it is normal for young boys to go through hormone changes it is unusual behavior for a 9 yr old. Seek some professional advice.
Good Luck!
2006-10-19 12:53:01 · answer #6 · answered by Shelly7 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have a feeling this question is complete BS. this just doesn't make sense at all. if your child was really doing something like this you'd be seeking actual help, not asking a bunch of strangers on a web site.
2006-10-19 15:19:57 · answer #7 · answered by Amelia 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I can't believe all of you people took this question seriously. It was obviously written by a teenager! What parent would actually use the word "d*ck" instead of penis?!? Idiots...
2006-10-19 13:57:28 · answer #8 · answered by FN72 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You son is showing classic signs of having been molested... He is acting out on you , your daughter, and the dog, in ways he was acted out on...
You need to immediately get your son to a lisenced counselor.. You need to talk with your son and the counselor and find out who molested him... You need to work with your son and the counselor to teach your son that what he is doing is innappropriate and potentially illegal...
You need to watch very closely the interaction between your son and daughter.. He has already sexualized (not molested but seen her in a sexual way) her when he bacame aroused when you were changing her...
While the situation with your son is very alarming it is not beyond repair, you need to act quickly to make those repairs, your son needs professional help to overcome what was done to him and to help him not do the same to someone else... He has been giving you a series of crys for "HELP!!!" don't let this one go by get him the help he needs...
2006-10-19 12:57:30 · answer #9 · answered by Diane (PFLAG) 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
take him to a psychologist sounds like he has been abused
But at his age he could be just exploring best to get an expert opinion just to be sure
maybe subtly talk to him about how he is too young for other people to do things like that with him and he may open up to you
keep him away fromh his sister. I was abuse by my older brother as a child so trust me it can happen
DONT LEAVE HIM ALONE WITH HER!!!!!!
2006-10-19 12:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by tanya 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I've got two boys one 14 neither come close to what you are describing. you need to teach him at adolescence there is a time ,and a place for every thing .perhaps you should tell him to behave himself
2006-10-19 12:44:38 · answer #11 · answered by kevin d 4 · 4⤊ 0⤋