Should I attend a friend's funeral the same year I got married?

Question

I got married earlier this year and today one of my close childhood friends passed away. Someone told me that I shouldn't attend funerals or even go to the cemetary up to a year after my wedding. Is there some sort of a rule about this?

Answer 1

No rule, but in Twain and some other Asian cultures, it can be considered bad luck during the first year of marriage to attend a funeral. My mother's cousin married and lived in Twain for almost 20 years.

So unless you follow your culture roots from a belief like that, you should be fine to attend the funeral.

Answer 2

That's a stupid superstition. How many times did you break your mom's back when you walked over a crack? Look it's your close child hood friend and I think you need to go. Take your wife with you too. She can meet some of the other people from your childhood too and sitting around chatting about the good old days at a funeral sometimes helps get through it. The parent's of your friend may very much like to see you even after so many years. Don't listen to that crap about superstitions. I've seen plenty of new couples go to funeral's and they are still together. My parent's own a funeral home and see friend's die all the time. Still together 14 years later. Really go to your friend's funeral and say good-bye.

Answer 3

I have scoured the web to find anything related to this superstition and haven't been able to find it anywhere. I think your friend made this one up, or it's just an old family superstition.

As far as ettiquette is concerned, there is no rule against attending a funeral in the same year that you are married. At least not in the United States.

Answer 4

Never heard of anything so foolish. If indeed you are a friend you'd go and let the family know how sorry you are for their loss. As well show respect for the friendship you shared for this person. I know I wouldn't appreciate if my close childhood friend refused to come to my funeral just because he married earlier that year, as I'm sure you would feel also.

Answer 5

Yes go to her funeral and pay your respect to her one last time. There's no rules about what you heard. It sound so insame. Your marriage is what you make out of it. Not attending a funeral will not make your wedding for the better or worst.

Answer 6

I have never heard a rule about this. Are you worried about bad luck? Your friend's funeral is a time to get together with others and remember him or her. It is a show of respect and caring to go, I am not sure how getting married recently would effect that.

Answer 7

Of course you should go. Attending a funeral shows respect and honor to the deceased and their family. Whoever told you that probably believes you can get pregnant from sitting on a toilet seat!

Answer 8

Well if that's in your culture, then fine. In American culture, the two things have nothing to do with each other. I had a close friend who's father passed the week she was to married, and they went on with the wedding as planned. Life is for the living, but honor your dead friend with your presence.

Answer 9

No rule.

It is superstitious thing this "friend" told you. It is quite ignorant and extremely rude to tell you such a thing in time of mourn. That person is your childhood friend. Give respect and go to the funeral.

Answer 10

This sounds like a weird superstition. It would be extremely disrespectful of you not to go to your friend's funeral. It almost sounds like you don't care about the person! You don't mention any feelings about the situation.