I like to talk to my boyfriend about marriage and we have been dating for ayear and 4 months. Is this annoying and do you think he would leave me if i keep doing this? I like to talk about marrage, having kids and living together please help me
2006-10-19 12:14:35 · 39 answers · asked by Blondie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no u are not a bad girlfriend but if he dont want to marry and u talk about it maybe he get sick off u talking about marriage
2006-10-19 12:19:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never be afraid of talking about what is important. If he leaves you as a result of your being honest, then he was not good for you anyway.
The reality check in the situation is this: Are you both at least 26, done with college, make at least $40,000 each, and have traveled to a couple of countries? If the answer is "no," then you have no business marrying at this time. Children should not come to a home that is ill prepared to received them. Having them too soon is cheating yourself out of your relationship with your husband. Two years or so into the marriage is appropriate since by then you will have settled your differences. I have been married for almost 14 years and that has been my plan. My wife and I have no regrets whatsoever, unlike many of our acquaintances who are green with envy, struggle with finances, and haven't traveled anywhere.
That, my dear, is the long and short of it.
Mr. M on "bad girlfriend."
2006-10-19 12:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by Humberto M 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's annoying (especially if he has no interest in marriage yet - if he's young thats probably the case, but it could be even more annoying for an older guy)
a year & 4 months is a really short time to be dating someone and discussing kids already!
You may very well chase him away.
2006-10-19 12:16:30 · answer #3 · answered by bigbadwolfe_2 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to watch out -- he may not be thinking the same way as you. If he's not, his basic instinct is to run. Most girls love to talk about that stuff and it can be enjoyable for him as well if he truly does love you and sees a future with you. You've been dating for quite a while so it doesn't sound like he'd have something to be annoyed about. I would gently ask him if it bothers him when you guys talk about it... communication is key - and i'm sure there are things he always likes to talk about that annoy you also and you put up with it for over a year!
2006-10-19 12:20:49 · answer #4 · answered by Missy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether it's annoying or not depends on the couple. Some people enjoy talking about marriage, some don't. Next time you guys talk about it, watch his reactions. Does he tense up when you mention it? Is he giving lots of input? Watch his body language. He may tell you something unknowingly. But dating for 16 months is pretty good! Good luck. :)
2006-10-19 12:21:47 · answer #5 · answered by kinkyafro22 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all! If this is what is important to you then go ahead and talk about it all you want. Let him know those things have a meaning for you, and that you deeply care about making your dreams come true.
If he truly loves you he will listen to you, and also talk to you about his plans and dreams for the future.
However, if he doesn't like to talk about those things then perhaps you two are not that great of a match. Eventually time will come when you will want to make your dreams a reality, and if he disapproves of those things now, he will most likely not change his mind any time in the future.
2006-10-19 12:20:01 · answer #6 · answered by BlueChimera 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were you I wouldn't ask him about it too much. Especially if ya'll have only been together for a year and four months. You need to wait till he says something about it. You are pretty much going to end up scaring him away because he's going to think he's got to stay committed to you and most guys don't like that feeling. So I would try not to talk about it.
2006-10-19 12:19:23 · answer #7 · answered by bktp37 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't think talking about marriage, kids and living together is annoying. TIP be as annoying as possible. Then if he leaves you, you know he wasn't Mr. Right.
2006-10-19 12:22:48 · answer #8 · answered by AmericanWoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take it from a guy --- watch his reactions and be sensitive to the way he responds (IE: if he becomes kind of pre-occupied or stand offish, or if he is enthusiastic)!!! If he's more Quote: "stand offish or pre occupied, STOP before he runs away!!! If he's more enthusiastic, he's okay with it too so continue!!! If he does not respond in any way he is not ready to discuss marriage so slow it down or stop!!! The best thing is to ask him HOW HE HONESTLY FEELS ABOUT THE SUBJECT and/or YOUR TALKING ABOUT IT!!!
2006-10-19 12:24:23 · answer #9 · answered by xxx69forall 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a bad girlfriend. Just one who wants to know what the future holds, and who doesn't? I wouldn't push the subject if he is uncomfortable talking about it. You might be ready and he might not be. When he wants to talk about it...go ahead and talk his ear off! Until then I would keep to myself. But that is just what I would do. Good luck.
2006-10-19 12:18:48 · answer #10 · answered by ♥just me♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋